mimilala Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi everyone, I'm new to all this but i felt like i need to unwind a bit about what has been going through my mind. My boyfriend of a year and we are both 23, proposed to me a month ago (didn't tell his parents when he asked) and backed out when his parents made concerning comments about me as a person without even getting to know me. The next day after he talked to them he said he was confused and didn't know what to do and i went on a rampage because i didn't know how to react to such thing. I tried braking up with him because he kept clinging onto me and didn't want to give me space and time to think and process what he has told me. It was hard to do when i left (we where living together) but i got my stuff and bounced right out after a few days. I called him back days later and he said he needed more time to himself and i gave him that. One of his close friend contacted me asking me how i was doing i said not too great because i am hurting and it was a lot to take, but she said to me that he only wanted me to drop the engagement for now until he was ready and I DID. After we started talking again maybe a week later he changed completely. He went from a loving caring bf to a selfish individual. I tried compromising and telling him i wasn't happy with his change of behavior and he said to accept him for what he is. Our meetings were great but then after some time apart it was like he wasn't there at all. He wouldn't call or txt nothing at all and i always try to initiate things. The only thing he said was that something DIED that day i left and whatever it was made him like this. I broke up with him 6 days ago because i felt like he wanted me there as a gf but at the same time it felt like he wanted to be single. I asked him repeatedly if he wanted me to brake up and that was the reason why he was being so mean to me and he said no. He told me not to give up on him and that he loved me and didn't want to lose me. I didn't give up but i can't be fighting for a relationship on my own while he goes and does whatever he want. But in the end HE IS STILL CONFUSED ON WHAT MAKES HIM HAPPY. The brake up was mutual you can say we both agreed it was probably for the best. Haven't talked to him at all since that day and its been hard. I still went on and lived my life but sometimes at night i do cry. Now my question is: What the hell do you think happened here? Why am i holding onto hope?
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