gotye Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I feel as if I am rebounding with this new guy we had a lot of fun when we spent the last two dates together and I am mildly interested, but totally unsure about if it's real interest or desperation to move on advice?
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 When a rebound ends there is a crushing feeling that makes you desire the reason your heart is hurting to begin with. A true rebound is a way to mask your pain.
Author gotye Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 When a rebound ends there is a crushing feeling that makes you desire the reason your heart is hurting to begin with. A true rebound is a way to mask your pain. do you have some advice and how to figure out whether it's a rebound or not? or should I tell the guy and just totally back off and continue working on myself? I genuinely enjoy being around him, my biggest fear is I will be hurtful in my caution towards a real relationship
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 do you have some advice and how to figure out whether it's a rebound or not? or should I tell the guy and just totally back off and continue working on myself? I genuinely enjoy being around him, my biggest fear is I will be hurtful in my caution towards a real relationship If you want to be with him and don't feel an overwhealming need to be in a relationship... then you may not be rebounding at all, just exploring yourself and your options in life. At best I would say take it slow and make no commitments. Continue dating and be mindful of your feelings.
olivec Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I feel as if I am rebounding with this new guy we had a lot of fun when we spent the last two dates together and I am mildly interested, but totally unsure about if it's real interest or desperation to move on advice? its clearly a rebound. it will only turn out bad the longer you continue it.
Author gotye Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 If you want to be with him and don't feel an overwhealming need to be in a relationship... then you may not be rebounding at all, just exploring yourself and your options in life. At best I would say take it slow and make no commitments. Continue dating and be mindful of your feelings. yes, I agree, I used to date a lot and never worry about committing I dunno why it's changed... but I need to keep reminding myself a few dates does not a serious relationship make
mike588 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I re-connected with a female friend of mine from many...many years ago and we hit it off instantly...we dated for a year. She mentioned to me that she still had feelings for her ex. they had been broken up for a few weeks..a month? I now wished I had taken it slower and didn't ignore those red flags..she was still hurting and never took the time to heal so she just used me in a sense to hide/mask her pain. 8 months ago she dumps me to go back to him. It hurt like hell and has taken all those 8 months to really put it/her behind me.
Author gotye Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 I re-connected with a female friend of mine from many...many years ago and we hit it off instantly...we dated for a year. She mentioned to me that she still had feelings for her ex. they had been broken up for a few weeks..a month? I now wished I had taken it slower and didn't ignore those red flags..she was still hurting and never took the time to heal so she just used me in a sense to hide/mask her pain. 8 months ago she dumps me to go back to him. It hurt like hell and has taken all those 8 months to really put it/her behind me. yaaa, i don't want to do this i don't think i'll get back with my ex (would want to, but know it isn't gonna happen) buuut not healing correctly does make relationships ruin
Philosoraptor Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 yaaa, i don't want to do this i don't think i'll get back with my ex (would want to, but know it isn't gonna happen) buuut not healing correctly does make relationships ruin The "would want to" is the issue here. If your ex came back saying everything you wanted to hear, this new guy would be tossed aside.
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