Barrsitter Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi All...went NC on my BF of 2.5 yrs, 6 months ago. I thought that man would be my finest hour but it was not to be. I'm in my mid-50s and I can't remember feeling this sad except 20 years ago when I was getting divorced. I can't smile, I can't do yoga, I can't feel hopeful. The only thing that I can do is work. When will the sun come out again?
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi All...went NC on my BF of 2.5 yrs, 6 months ago. I thought that man would be my finest hour but it was not to be. I'm in my mid-50s and I can't remember feeling this sad except 20 years ago when I was getting divorced. I can't smile, I can't do yoga, I can't feel hopeful. The only thing that I can do is work. When will the sun come out again? Give yourself time to heal--Yoga is nice, but Zumba is better to help with the doldrums;) Time is the best healer and you will get through this!! Try to do things for you; maybe take a little trip, talk with friends. And get those endorphins at the gym:)
rhymes Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Unfortunately it's a bit of day by day. Some days you'll feel fantastic and others blah, at least that's how I'm going. I do try and find the small things that I appreciate about life. There are certain advantages to being single, you just need to find them. I try and focus on myself and almost have to block out my ex-gf, when I start thinking about her, I get sad, but I when I solely focus on my own happiness, it's much better. It's going to be a battle, it is for me, but everyone has things to be thankful, you just need to identify them and truly feel blessed. Not answering to anyone and truly doing what makes you happy is an awesome feeling. Understand you'll have ups and downs and it's all part of the process, unfortunately there is no fast forward button, but keep on keeping on!
blindesided Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 You said you cant remember being that sad except 20yrs ago when you divorced. See you moved on from then & found happiness again. I keep telling myself the same thing too - I made it through a divorce & was happy. This most recent breakup - has thrown me back down - I keep trying to tell myself that I will be happy again - not an easy task right now. I wish I could offer more advice - but I can only offer comfort in knowing there are so many of us on here feeling the same way. I too wish for a fast forward button!
Lostinlife4now Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi All...went NC on my BF of 2.5 yrs, 6 months ago. I thought that man would be my finest hour but it was not to be. I'm in my mid-50s and I can't remember feeling this sad except 20 years ago when I was getting divorced. I can't smile, I can't do yoga, I can't feel hopeful. The only thing that I can do is work. When will the sun come out again? Hi Barsitter! Listen to me...Trust me on this one...YES THE SUN DOES COME OUT AGAIN!!! Question...Menopause???? I do have sad days from time to time..but the doctor does blame it on menopause...I have begun to exercise more and be with girlfriends any chance I get! Please feel hopeful...I am single, in my early 50's, no man or date in site, not a lot of money...just enough to live on (for now) building a biz.....have to sell my home, I can go on and on... But the biggest thing....I have survived the death of a child....And yes there are days that I hate to even get out of bed...But there are days I am so happy the sun is shining!!!!!! It's a give and take..... If you were closer to me I'd say...let's meet for a glass of wine or even lunch!!!! P.S. Zumba is a great stress reliever!!!!!! You make yourself happy......NOT A MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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