mymission Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Its a consious effort 24-7 but I'm trying to block out all the memories now its driving me mad!
blindesided Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I find the harder you try not to do something - the worse you will think about things. I know how you feel though - I can't wait for the time where I can look back on the good times fondly without sadness. Right now - every little thing triggers a memory & its tough. I heard somewhere that if you allow yourself say 10 or 15 min a day - (maybe in the shower if you need to cry) to think of the memories. And then after that really focus on something else until the next day for your 10 or 15 min. Maybe that will help? 1
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Why block them out? If you avoid things they will just come back stronger. Find forgiveness for yourself and the thoughts will bring you less pain and more acceptance. 1
cincinnatikid Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 .."And he (she) who forgets, will be destined to remember"
tears_in_rain Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Its a consious effort 24-7 but I'm trying to block out all the memories now its driving me mad! I'm only a couple of weeks in to the pain and heart crushing darkness but I feel for you mate. I look around...something sets me off.....I think of something....same thing. Find it hard to not break down in all sorts of places. You work out a system to block out the worst of it, you let us know.
mike588 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 After my ex. dumped me I often wished that I would lose my mind sometimes then maybe I'd be free of memories she left behind. Cherish the good and happy times and learn from the reason/s why the relationship ended.. carry those with you in your next relationship. It gets better...it really does!!!
jtnc2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I think people often spend too much time trying to block their ex out of their minds. I just let the thoughts flow. I realize that the person in my memories is not the person who dumped me. I morn for the loss of the image I created for this person in my mind and accept that he or she does not exist. Upon acceptance, I get over them pretty easily, or I at least have no attachment to them. But I always cling to the person I initially met and realize that they are still out there somewhere waiting for me.
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