Dating Girls Who Have a Boyfriend

[Necris]

Yeah, I was hurt. But I got over it. Later on in life, I started meeting more and more women. A huge number of the chicks that were interested in me had boyfriends. I don't have sex with the gf of a guy I'm on good terms with. However, if I am not on good terms with him or I don't know, I'll go for it.

 

Serious question: why do you guys think it's wrong to have sex with the girl of a guy you don't know? If the dude got some sort of terminal illness, you wouldn't care. You don't care about whether he lives or dies. But you care about whether you have sex with his girlfriend or not. I don't understand this childish logic.

 

Why wouldn't I care? That would make me feel even worse I took his girlfriend he gets cancer and dies I'd feel like the ultimate scumbag unfit to live. Unlike you I actually care about the feelings and pain of others well to a certain degree (righteousness is still more important). I'd prefer not to cause others emotional pain just to satisfy my own selfish desires I'm not afraid of anyone its just the thought of me doing something that dickish gets to me. I'd honestly rather stay single than to cause undue pain and distress to some random guy because I decided to have sex with his GF or SO. The only "good" that I see coming from your actions is that you are showing those men what kind of woman they are really with.

[Oxy Moronovich]

Why wouldn't I care? That would make me feel even worse I took his girlfriend he gets cancer and dies I'd feel like the ultimate scumbag unfit to live. Unlike you I actually care about the feelings and pain of others well to a certain degree (righteousness is still more important). I'd prefer not to cause others emotional pain just to satisfy my own selfish desires I'm not afraid of anyone its just the thought of me doing something that dickish gets to me. I'd honestly rather stay single than to cause undue pain and distress to some random guy because I decided to have sex with his GF or SO. The only "good" that I see coming from your actions is that you are showing those men what kind of woman they are really with.

Necris, you've already stated you suck with women and you don't think you'll get a chick anytime soon. How can you negatively judge the actions of those of us who do get gfs?

[OldSkool]

I'm apparently the lone woman on this thread, I'd like to congratulate the fine men here who are taking the time to explain respectful dating behavior to some of the other gentlemen here.

 

Not that it will necessarily get anywhere with the men you are trying to coach. I'm just happy to know you exist.

 

Carry on!

 

The OP and his one supporter are not 'gentlemen', or 'men'. I doubt they even qualify as human. They are parasites, plain and simple. Where I come from, parasites are exterminated....

[Oxy Moronovich]

No, the OP and his "supporter" have things in common: we understand women, we get laid, and we don't resort to lame personal attacks. The majority of guys arguing with us don't have any of these things.

[OldSkool]

Necris, you've already stated you suck with women and you don't think you'll get a chick anytime soon. How can you negatively judge the actions of those of us who do get gfs?

 

Personal attacks when you cannot refute the truth of the message. It's called Ad Hominim. Address the accusation, not the messenger, you fool!

[OldSkool]

No, the OP and his "supporter" have things in common: we understand women, we get laid, and we don't resort to lame personal attacks. The majority of guys arguing with us don't have any of these things.

No personal attacks!!??? Bwahahaha look above

[Oxy Moronovich]

Personal attacks when you cannot refute the truth of the message. It's called Ad Hominim. Address the accusation, not the messenger, you fool!

I find myself wondering if you're not some sort of troll created by that Bill Gates mod to derail certain threads.

[OldSkool]

Nope. Just a guy that knows what you and the OP are and am not afraid to call out scumbag parasites that you insects are. Come to CA, I'll reimburse you for your airfare... If you survive. How are your desert survival skills pal?

 

I'm done with this thread of garbage.

[RedRobin]

Two sayings come to mind...

 

"he who made kittens, made snakes in the grass"

 

and

 

"virtue untested is not virtue"

[Oxy Moronovich]

Nope. Just a guy that knows what you and the OP are and am not afraid to call out scumbag parasites that you insects are. Come to CA, I'll reimburse you for your airfare... If you survive. How are your desert survival skills pal?

 

I'm done with this thread of garbage.

Aw man, you're leaving so soon? Your posts are some of the most thought-provoking and insightful stuff I've ever read on this messageboard. It's a shame to see you go, William the mod.

[casanovadude81]

First of all he was being very openly disrespectful to try to make an ass out of me.

 

You did that to yourself.

 

Secondly there was nothing petty about it I got my revenge. Call it Karma if you want either way its a guy getting what he deserves.

 

I'll call it you treating people as trash.

 

I have no problem with a girl leaving me because she doesn't want to be with me sure I will be heartbroken just like any other guy but some guy that don't have the balls to ask out a single girl because if she says no she simply just doesn't like him he got what he deserves.

 

She obviously didn't want to be with you and she left you so I'm sorry she didn't leave you for some obligitory single time but a lot of girls/guys don't. Even if they do leave you just to be single there is a good chance a guy that was in her life maybe even just a little will be the guy she starts dating when she's done being single.

 

I really don't get this thing you keep saying about "the balls to ask out single girl" I mean I ask single girls out... I don't have some fetish for girls who claim to have a boyfriend. I don't even think its easier... although some times it is because they havn't had sex or talked realy for a long time. Some people are just going through the motions and the break up has been a long time comming. Of course there is always the partner like you blissfuly unaware enjoying his porn and video games who goes all crazy when they get dumped. You would have been this way if she dumped you because she had cancer. You're not a nice guy. Girls telling you that you are when they say lets just be friends doesn't make it so.

 

In my old thread by courting me I meant openly telling me they are unhappy with their husbands and telling me that they would love to have sex with me. Sorry if I didn't come right out and say it.

 

Yes we know you're full of it.

 

I love how I got so under your skin by showing you how insecure and shallow you are that you went and read my old threads to try to find some kind of flaws in my story.

 

It's funny that he did that. He didn't need to though you're biggest flaw is that in getting revenge you did worse then the thing you claim to be disgusted by. Good for you, must be hard not even being able to follow your own twisted code. I can tell you're still angry over what happened guess revenge doesn't fix everything.

 

I can get women all day long. Because I am a good guy that doesn't need to go after other guys women while they might be simply at a low point in an other wise good relationship. There are plenty of single beautiful smart funny women out there if you get the balls to ask them out they just might say yes.

 

Oh yeah you're a good guy who has to get revenge on your gf by lieing to her and using her because she dumped you for another guy. I can tell you get lots of women.

 

Again with the balls thing? I ask single women out. Do you mean I don't have the balls to not ask out girls who you arbitrarily determine not to be single? Because I have a bf can mean a lot of things these days. It doesn't necesarily mean HS sweethearts engaged to be married... in fact it rarely does.

 

And finally I am sorry if I hurt someone's feelings. I should have been smart enough to realize that there are people who look in the mirror and hate themselves so much that they can't handle real rejection on this site. I apologize.

 

You sure couldn't handle rejection, you through a tantrum.

 

It sounds like you travel in a social circle where there is no loyalty to friends, GF/BF, or anyone else.

 

It seems like a ME, ME, ME system. I would suggest yu change your social circle. It is time to move up to another level.

 

Where did I say I was going after my friends gfs? Because I wouldn't do that. In fact I wouldn't even want to go after my friends ex.

 

You should remove your James Bond Avatar and go watch From Russia With Love because you sir have lost it.

 

The lesson is, we all have to handle competition. For me, if a woman is not married, she is single. I am always respectful. If she tells me to get lost, that's what I do and I don't bother her again. The reason why she wants me to get lost (boyfriend, finds me unattractive, etc.) has no bearing.

 

Good post! Its true you can't just steal a girl away from a happy relationship. She was going to leave sooner or later if she responded favorably to leaving her guy for some one else.

 

These guys like to imagine... oh she's my gf so that means if we go on a break or break up some 30 day time period or something will happen before she sees anyone.... not really reality. There will be an ex or a friend she was awlays close too. or that guy who just met her and hit on her so it made her want to leave... this is the case many times.

 

These guys who get so upset are just out of touch with reality and don't trust their wives/gf's enough to not leave them if some random man says "hi" to them.

 

As for women who claim to be disgusted by this, these are the same women anoyed by how many msges they get from guys on online dating. or that don't like being hit on guys unless its perfect.

 

Here is what it looks like to me...

 

I'm dating someone who I may or may not be happy with at the moment.

 

Guy hits on me. I tell him I have a BF. If he continues to hit on me (regardless of how physically attractive he may have appeared from the outset) he goes down in my mental notebook as someone I would not want to date should I end up without a BF.

 

If he says, politely, 'lucky guy' or something along those lines and backs up, he goes down in my mental notebook as a classy guy who I would attempt to seek out should I become single.

 

Ok so you just said if a guy was polite in hitting on you 'lucky guy' and you became single as in dumped the guy or got dumped that you would attempt to seek him out. Thats what I'm saying.

 

I'm not talkign about rudely going over and insulting a girl not taking no for an answer in some ahole way. Because that guy anoys single girls to, they'll sudenly have a bf when they didn't.

 

I'm just talking about giving it a shot and as you've shown it has its merits. You said it yourself "classy guy who I would attempt to seek out should I become single." which you could when ever you want or if sadly you get dumped.

 

These other guys who are so intent on only talking to a girl who is 100% single that they ask around and worry and see a guy talking to the girl and just assume its her bf. Thay don't go down in your mentle notebook should you become single. These are also probably the guys who treat everything as very intense and blow up on a girl when she rejects them.

 

Me personally... I don't base my decision on whether to stay with a man on whether I have other options floating around. Not only does this provide the best possible situation for the next man I would date (I'm 100% free and clear), it also preserves the best of whatever I had with the former BF and we can part ways respectfully.

 

I'd expect the right man for me would be capable of doing the same. Not all of us treat others so cavalierly... Unlike a job, most of us will get along just fine without a BF/GF in tow for awhile. No need to BBD anyone.

 

I think these other guys treat bf/gf as a job. As some business title they are owed through bureaucratic process.

 

Relationships don't always just end over night. If you meet a girl who yes technicaly has a bf and hasn't broken up with him. You express interest in a polite way even ask her out with out offending her that only puts you in a chance to enter her life. She may have been planning on breaking up with her bf for over a month and finaly truly given up.

 

This enitre notion that things go wrong all of sudden which some times they do isn't always true.

 

As I'm apparently the lone woman on this thread, I'd like to congratulate the fine men here who are taking the time to explain respectful dating behavior to some of the other gentlemen here.

 

Not that it will necessarily get anywhere with the men you are trying to coach. I'm just happy to know you exist.

 

Carry on!

 

You mean the fine men who threatned to have me murdered in the CA desert? Maybe you're talking about the other fine man who lied to his ex gf to get revenge sex with her? Wait maybe its the guy who is disgusted with me still a virgin and keeps posting a comedic pooping back and forth into eachothers butts forever video?

 

You wern't the only girl to post in this thread go to the first or second page and read SmileFaces comments. She came over to our way of thinking. You also pretty much said you'd date a guy who hit on you while you were dating another guy if he did it right. Not that you said you would leave just because of that guy, but you get the picture.

 

OP you disgust me, what kind of man takes another man's girlfriend? And Oxy weren't you deeply hurt because some guy or in your case guys had sex with your girlfriend behind your back? So why in the hell do you think you should go behind another guy's back and have sex with his girlfriend? Aren't you doing the same thing? I guess in the end your sliminess is doing them a favor if I had a girlfriend who would cheat on me that easily I'd rather not have her as a girlfriend her filthy sluttiness isn't welcome.

 

You're a virgin for a reason. You have a far to simplistic view of relationships. If you have an attractive gf gauranteed some one will say something flirty if not out right ask her out. Its not the worlds job to protect that relationship. In the end even if she leaves you to just be single and has no other guy what so ever even in her head even as a minor crush.. she still left you for the idea of other guys.

 

Why wouldn't I care? That would make me feel even worse I took his girlfriend he gets cancer and dies I'd feel like the ultimate scumbag unfit to live. Unlike you I actually care about the feelings and pain of others well to a certain degree (righteousness is still more important). I'd prefer not to cause others emotional pain just to satisfy my own selfish desires I'm not afraid of anyone its just the thought of me doing something that dickish gets to me. I'd honestly rather stay single than to cause undue pain and distress to some random guy because I decided to have sex with his GF or SO. The only "good" that I see coming from your actions is that you are showing those men what kind of woman they are really with.

 

It's your great fear of causing pain, creeping the girl out, taking a girl some other guy likes that has left you a doormant. You'll only cause more pain as a doormat then if you lived your life. You can't win at the game you are playing.

 

I really like you Necris you're very creative. Very misguided though.

 

Necris, you've already stated you suck with women and you don't think you'll get a chick anytime soon. How can you negatively judge the actions of those of us who do get gfs?

 

This is the reason he is the way he stated.

[RedRobin]

Casanova,

 

I think I've read enough of the thread to know that I'm not in your camp.

 

If the guy knew I had a BF and still hit on me, that would not be cool with me. In the scenerio I posted, I was talking about a random situation where my relationship status was unknown.

 

I believe your stand is that you should hit on her regardless of her situation and even attempt to ask her out. I personally know one man who tried this with me when I was dating someone. He's married now... and he's cheating on her. How do I know? When I became single again, he tried to get me to have an affair with him.

 

So, it seems I made the right decision.

 

Regarding the other gentlemen... notice I used the word gentleman for both? And that I used the word 'respectful'?

[Oxy Moronovich]

Don't listen to this RedRobin chick, casanova. She's a poster who constantly brags about how she loves her male friends and they are better than bfs or female friends. This chick is delusional.

[William]

Let's call this date 'over'....