redrose123 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 When my ex and I broke up we argued About him suddenly flip flopping between wanting to get married and not. He was the one who initially had brought up marriage and I found out for sure that he bought me a ring in September but I never told him I knew. When we broke up he made me seem crazy and said "what made you think I wanted to propose to you?" I didn't tell him I knew about the ring because I didn't want the fight to escalate but now I really want him to know that Im not an idiot so I was wondering if I should break NC with "i realized that when we broke up you asked me why I thought you were going to propose and I just wanted to let you know that I found out months ago that you bought me the ring I wanted which is why I thought you were ok with talking about marriage" I just want to ask him what he was thinking when he bought me that ring and why his feelings changed. Thoughts? Thank you for reading.
Million.to.1 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Why did you guys break-up? .. and when? Please don't break N/C untill you have really thought through whether or not you should tell him this... what are you really hoping it will achieve? You need time to really work this through before deciding. Take your time, and get lots of advice. After you have made the decision, wait another week. You have time on your side at the moment and once that is gone, there is no rewinding it. Really be sure it's for the best before you do. I don't know what you should do... but i'm sure you will get some good points to think through from posters here before making the decisions.
Author redrose123 Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 I honestly don't know why we broke up. I initiated it because he just started to change but a few days after I called him to try and work it out but he basically broke up with me and said he didn't have time for a girlfriend right now and didn't really give me any other reasons, but he did say he loved me still. I guess I don't want to accomplish much, it's just eating away at me that I've known this for so long yet he acts like I was crazy for thinking we were getting engaged. I guess I just have a lot of questions I'd like answered.
Author redrose123 Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 Forgot to mention the break up was 6 weeks ago.
Million.to.1 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 So, you are ok with not being with him? You don't want him back? If your motivation is to get answers, you won't. He didn't propose. Do you really want to know why he didn't after buying you a ring? I mean really? Maybe how things are are for the best.
Author redrose123 Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 I know you're right. I have mixed feelings I love him but I wouldn't be able to trust him again since he broke my heart. I won't contact him, eventually it may come out that I knew but I guess it doesn't matter now.
Whisky1981 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 You can try and get in contact with him although I have a feeling that something more has to be wrong beside the marriage issue...hm dont know why would people split up over a marriage issue...hm maybe it can work out the second time around and you guys just had a stupid fight....but then again work out every problem you have and dont jump to quick decisions...marriage is something you cant undo that easily... Think and talk a lot before taking further steps.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 When my ex and I broke up we argued About him suddenly flip flopping between wanting to get married and not. He was the one who initially had brought up marriage and I found out for sure that he bought me a ring in September but I never told him I knew. When we broke up he made me seem crazy and said "what made you think I wanted to propose to you?" I didn't tell him I knew about the ring because I didn't want the fight to escalate but now I really want him to know that Im not an idiot so I was wondering if I should break NC with "i realized that when we broke up you asked me why I thought you were going to propose and I just wanted to let you know that I found out months ago that you bought me the ring I wanted which is why I thought you were ok with talking about marriage" I just want to ask him what he was thinking when he bought me that ring and why his feelings changed. Thoughts? Thank you for reading. Here's the thing...He knows you're not crazy---he was playing with your mind. Don't do NC or he will really make you think you're off your rocker. He may say..."what on earth are you talking about??"==knowing full well what you are talking about. No good will come of breaking NC.
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