Numb79 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Does anyone feel as if they are living the same day over and over? It has been over 2 months of a 5 yr LDR break up... strict NC! Shattered my heel about a month ago so I can't really go anywhere to get my mind off things. It just seems like I just lay on my couch until its time to go to sleep. Thats what I wait for everyday. I am not sure if its the end of the relationship that is bothering me anymore. Or just the fact that I am going stir crazy within these four walls. I do admit that I still think of her but it was not as much as before. Now its more of a sense of lonliness and fear or that the future holds. Does anyone feel like they are trapped in the movie Groundhog Day?
Life Person Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Hi Numb79, I can relate with what you're saying. The pain does get better eventually, if you work for it, get yourself busy, try to find the good things in yourself (I know it's probably difficult right now, but they're there, trust me). Now I can have many good days in a row, but I still feel like I live for the day - I can't seem to be able to make plans, or to have a clear path of life right now. My therapist says it's a part of the recovery process, the living day-by-day, and it's not all that bad, as it takes your mind a bit off the anxiety and uncertainty of the future. However, this will only be beneficial if you can have at least good days, which for you is probably too soon. Be patient and don't give up. I know everyone will say this to you, and that's because it generally holds true.
Whisky1981 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Oh man I am in the same situation that you are in. Although I keep myself busy almost all the time. I work, work out, go out with friends, play video games, watch movies all these things to keep my mind busy. I do not grieve over my 9 year relationship where my ex left me but not before she previously cheated on me...so this disgust me and I hate her for that...it is more that I am fearing for my future....will I meet someone, will she love me, will I have the chance to put up a family one day? All those thoughts go trough my mind each and every day... So I know what you mean. The best part of my day is the sleeping because that is the time thet will bring me most joy trough my dreams.
Author Numb79 Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 is more that I am fearing for my future....will I meet someone, will she love me, will I have the chance to put up a family one day? All those thoughts go trough my mind each and every day... So I know what you mean. The best part of my day is the sleeping because that is the time thet will bring me most joy trough my dreams. That is the worst feeling ever..... Its been two months, people always say that things will get better.... but it just seems like that day can't get here soon enough
Whisky1981 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 That is the worst feeling ever..... Its been two months, people always say that things will get better.... but it just seems like that day can't get here soon enough It probably will if we will find someone new to love and share are moments with. The hard part is finding her in the times we live. I always tought that the only cure for a lost love is a new one and this is probably true. But girls this days just seem so unaproachable and cruel if you are not a 10 guy or a 7 joker guy. Hope it will get better for me and you both soon.
budley12 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 im at 4months of breakup, 8weeks of NC and I am still having difficulties. It is a process and will take time. I do feel better though however, and I have journaled my feelings from the start and looking back at the first week I am much better. Just hang in there, I know how it feels to be "here" but not "here", almost like you are just drifting around forcing yourself to keep going. For awhile I had thoughts of wanting to just end it all, end everything... but I can tell you just like everyone else things do get better. That "better" may not be perfect, nor may you feel good at that "better" stage, but again it is a process and will take time. We will get through this together, I have faith in us.
blindesided Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 im at 4months of breakup, 8weeks of NC and I am still having difficulties. It is a process and will take time. I do feel better though however, and I have journaled my feelings from the start and looking back at the first week I am much better. Just hang in there, I know how it feels to be "here" but not "here", almost like you are just drifting around forcing yourself to keep going. For awhile I had thoughts of wanting to just end it all, end everything... but I can tell you just like everyone else things do get better. That "better" may not be perfect, nor may you feel good at that "better" stage, but again it is a process and will take time. We will get through this together, I have faith in us. Well said - I started to journal & can look back & see the progress (even though it doesnt fee llike progress at all) I like what you said about feeling "here" but not "here" thats exactly how I feel - just going through the motions & wishing & praying for the day when the pain only comes sporadically & its not a constant prescence in my body.
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 If we allow ourselves to live the same thing over and over then we never make progress. Today do something different. Sure you might not be able to do much, but if you can walk on crutches then take a stroll around the block. If there is a park nearby, go sit on a bench there instead of the couch. If you're stuck indoors then take that time to research things. Learn something new and open your mind. Make plans for what you can do once your foot is healed. That person without legs or arms still finds a way to be happy. You are making the choice to not give it your all right now. Because there are things you can do if you are willing to do them.
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