newborn25 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Hi all, I have recently met a girl online and after a few weeks of interacting online and over the phone, we decided to meet up. First date was great, as was the second. I thought she has most of the traits I looked for in a potential partner and we shared a lot of common interest. She showed a lot of interest in me and I feel that she is genuinely a nice person. The problem comes when I find that I am not really physically attracted to her. She is definitely not ugly but her looks don't really appeal to me. Yes I am shallow, I know. Following advice from my friends, I decided to friend-zone her. After some days, I realized that I am still thinking about her. I sort of missed the times when we used to msg each other more frequently and will always wonder is it stupid of me to let such a wonderful girl go just because I am not attracted to her looks. I am very attracted to her personality though but it may not be conclusive enough as we just went on 2 dates. Any kind hearted souls with advice for me? Thank you in advance.
gotye Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 hmmmm, physical is really important to me so I would move on
Mr. Slim Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 This is a tough dilemma, but why did you even let it get started if there was no attraction?
FitChick Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Physical attraction is the difference between a friend and a lover.
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Do you mean you have no physical attraction whatsoever? Or do you mean you have little physical attraction?
volkl1996 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Been there myself my friend, with the online dating. You have to be attracted to her, and no you are not shallow for feeling this way. I have tried to get past this a few times, though I have never been able to. Did she have photos online?
dasein Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Leave her alone unless she was very clear that she felt similar and wanted a friendship. Would be OK possibly if she is giving no signs of being into you at all. Trying to have a friendship where one of the parties has romantic feelings just doesn't work. Best to just move on entirely and let her do the same.
veggirl Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Have you guys kissed or anything yet? If so and still no attraction, I wouldn't bother.
Author newborn25 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 (edited) I am just a little attracted to her (in terms of looks) and nope we have not kissed. Somehow there isn't any spark =( She did post photos of her online but she looks different (older) in real life. I guessed she is those that looks good in the photos but not in person. Edited April 3, 2012 by newborn25
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I am just a little attracted to her (in terms of looks) and nope we have not kissed. Somehow there isn't any spark =( She did post photos of her online but she looks different (older) in real life. I guessed she is those that looks good in the photos but not in person. My New Year's Resolution: give every available woman I find sexually attractive a shot. There are times when I first saw a woman and thought she was so-so in looks. But then later on I felt she was a hottie. Has that ever happened to you, OP? Have you ever had a woman you think was average-looking somehow become a hottie to you? If so, that's the reason why you should give this chick a shot. At least bang her, dude.
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