perryb13 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Hey, This is my first post on this site. I recently (1 month ago) broke up with a girlfriend of around a year for a lot of different reasons. We started out really great and things were looking extremely promising. Turns out she was extremely needy and didn't want me to do anything for myself. It also didn't help that I lived several hours away from her for the school year. I had an opportunity for an amazing traveling experience this summer and she told me that if I took it, she would never think of me the same again. Long story short, after I took the opportunity anyway (trust me it's something I'll never be able to do again), she started treating me like crap, she stopped really trying, etc. So I finally had enough and broke up with her. She agreed that it was for the best. Of course, she wanted to still be "best friends" which I know is ridiculous, especially if you act like she does and pretty much behave the same way as when we were dating (minus the physical things, of course...). After feeling confident in my decision, I've started to become attracted to her again. The problem is, she just seems to be fine and dandy, and it hurts my feelings a lot because I'm having such a hard time with this and she's not, even though I broke up with her. Is she just pretending to be fine, or am I just having trouble moving on? I know I don't want to date her again, it's more of a physical attractiveness thing. Trust me, she treated me poorly enough to where I wouldn't want to burden myself again. Thanks in advance for the help everyone. -Brad
Philosoraptor Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 You're having doubts because even though you can see you were treated poorly, you truly had feelings for this girl and wanted more from her. Does she really feel nothing? Maybe. But you shouldn't focus on what she is doing but rather what you are doing. It hurts but it will get better.
cflowers32 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 MAYBE, that shows you what she's really like. I don't know her, but I understand why you did what you did, and of course you don't want to go back if she was not the loving person you wanted. You deserve better, and you will find it some day. Be proud of yourself for getting out of that relationship and go take care of yourself. I get why it was hard for you, but you need to be happy.
Author perryb13 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Thanks for the advice! She won't answer me if I feel like texting but she still always calls me on her way home from work. I'm going to stop answering because it's not going to help things at all lol. She has to get my attention but she won't give me hers if I want it...seems pretty silly. I think I may have made the right decision to end it.
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Thanks for the advice! She won't answer me if I feel like texting but she still always calls me on her way home from work. I'm going to stop answering because it's not going to help things at all lol. She has to get my attention but she won't give me hers if I want it...seems pretty silly. I think I may have made the right decision to end it. You probably did make the right decision. We can only ignore the little voice inside so long before it overwhealms us. You would be smart to cut all contact so that you can focus on yourself and your healing.
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