gotye Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 he'd have to say something along the lines of; "I have been thinking a lot on my own and realized I have made a big mistake. I want you back. I thought about the future and realized I want you in it" something like that, no; hey, let;s try again
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 he'd have to say something along the lines of; "I have been thinking a lot on my own and realized I have made a big mistake. I want you back. I thought about the future and realized I want you in it" something like that, no; hey, let;s try again Ummm...Nope. A second chance with me a luxury. If my heart was broken and I was hurt intentionally, you lost out, big time. I would not take him back for all the tea in china. 1
Author gotye Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 Ummm...Nope. A second chance with me a luxury. If my heart was broken and I was hurt intentionally, you lost out, big time. I would not take him back for all the tea in china. ya, i remember reading some stuff about your ex.. so no second chance makes sense 1
TheDovic Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Honestly don't think I could take her back at this point... although living without her isn't easy either! She's not a bad person but I don't think she will ever be the person I need her to be What would it take for you to take yours back?
Author gotye Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 Honestly don't think I could take her back at this point... although living without her isn't easy either! She's not a bad person but I don't think she will ever be the person I need her to be What would it take for you to take yours back? haha, it says in OP it's something that won't ever happen, he might want me back for some casual dating but that's not ok with me... I can't ever seeing him coming to the conclusion that he wants me permanently in his life
shayla Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 There is nothing on this earth that man could tell me that would make me take him back. I don't care if he said, I'm sorry, I made a mistake, I was the mega million dollars winner and I know have half a billion dollars. LOL Okay maybe he could say that... 4
robkris8079 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I would need an in person face to face. One where she went out of her way not knowing if I was going to be there or not. Then the words I want to spend the rest of my life with you, marry you and have kids. She would say she was sorry for how she acted and knows now without a doubt I am the man for her. Then I would say thank you but we had our shot and wish her well. Don't think there is really anything she can do in order for me to be back with her. We had two breaks, 5 years, and I gave it my best shot. It wasn't good enough for her, and I think I am too good for her. Second chances ever hardly work. Third chances? That is impossible. Maybe years down the road after we live our lives, do other things etc, but by then I really won't care at all.
CopingGal Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 He would need a COMPLETE personality overhaul: 1-stop being a lying whore 2-stop using people 3-stop playing tricks on women behind their backs 4-stop being so self-centered 5-Enlarge his heart 5 times 6-stop whining 7-stop being so judgmental 8-stop being so cruel 9-stop being so insensitive 10-stop being so impulsive 11-stop being so selfish 12-learn to examine his behavior and admit when he is wrong 13-learn to value women 14-stop being such a worthless bastard Okay, so for me to take my bf back, he would have to perform these 14 steps! I don't think it's going to happen. 3
jennisfora Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 he would need to call me, tell me he was sorry for leaving me suddenly, and agree to talk in person, and in person he would say that he wants me back, and that he made a mistake, he would agree to counseling to deal with all his baggage because i am not checking that crap back into the relationship with us, and he would have to agree to start over, and go on dates and take it slow. i pretty much told him all this after the break up. also, i believe in second chances, but that's it. first time, okay, you made a mistake, second time, it becomes a trend, so i would want him to be serious, and know that this is it.
Ajax Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 (edited) He would need a COMPLETE personality overhaul: 1-stop being a lying whore 2-stop using people 3-stop playing tricks on women behind their backs 4-stop being so self-centered 5-Enlarge his heart 5 times 6-stop whining 7-stop being so judgmental 8-stop being so cruel 9-stop being so insensitive 10-stop being so impulsive 11-stop being so selfish 12-learn to examine his behavior and admit when he is wrong 13-learn to value women 14-stop being such a worthless bastard Okay, so for me to take my bf back, he would have to perform these 14 steps! I don't think it's going to happen. CopingGal, I commend you on having set such high standards for your ex in order for him to come back into your good graces. You have inspired me to have my own criteria for my ex to meet in order for her to prove to me she's sincere. I think your Fourteen Points are a little too Wilsonian to me, so I've cut my own back to twelve. 1) Slay the Nemean Lion. 2) Kill the nine-headed Lernaean Hydra. 3) Obtain the Golden Hind of Artemis. 4) Capture the Erymanthian Boar. 5) Clean the Augean stables. 6) Slay the Stymphalian Birds. 7) Capture the Cretan Bull. 8) Steal the Mares of Diomedes. 9) Obtain the Girdle of Hippolyta. 10) Steal the Cattle of Geryon. 11) Steal the Apples of Hesperides. 12) Capture and bring to me Cerberus, the three headed dog of the underworld. Once she's completed these tasks I'll know she's matured and grown in our time apart, and that she's serious about us. Short of that, she can pound salt. Edited April 2, 2012 by Ajax 2
Nohbody Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 There is nothing on this earth that man could tell me that would make me take him back. This. But add a wo in there somewhere.
redrose123 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 My ex called me to tell me he made a huge mistake after we broke up, we met up and he said all the right things (that he loved me and was sorry and wanted to marry me, couldn't live without me, etc etc). I gave him another chance because i thought it was genuine and a month later we broke up again and now it has been 6 weeks since he has initiated contact with me. To me his words mean nothing and I don't think theres anything he would be able to do for me to even consider giving him another chance again.
robkris8079 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 My ex called me to tell me he made a huge mistake after we broke up, we met up and he said all the right things (that he loved me and was sorry and wanted to marry me, couldn't live without me, etc etc). I gave him another chance because i thought it was genuine and a month later we broke up again and now it has been 6 weeks since he has initiated contact with me. To me his words mean nothing and I don't think theres anything he would be able to do for me to even consider giving him another chance again. Mine did this too after a week break. Then she acted in a way like she meant it for the next 8 months or so. Then all of a sudden bam, right back to the way she acted right before the first break. Only difference this time is she didn't come up with excuses or get mean with me. She just shut me out and avoided me as best she could. I must ad that she even took steps like moving in with me too.
lostconfidence Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 if i knew this would work then i would try it again. but she has to rose tinted glass on she claims to be the happiest ever planning holidays and all sorts with this punk.ppl keep telling me its not gonna last but i cant see it ever finishing even tho last week she told me she still loves me and wants me aback and confused now she happy!! if i wher to take her back it wont be in 2012 and she would have to say am sorry i made a mistake
Author gotye Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 My ex called me to tell me he made a huge mistake after we broke up, we met up and he said all the right things (that he loved me and was sorry and wanted to marry me, couldn't live without me, etc etc). I gave him another chance because i thought it was genuine and a month later we broke up again and now it has been 6 weeks since he has initiated contact with me. To me his words mean nothing and I don't think theres anything he would be able to do for me to even consider giving him another chance again. see, this is worrying even if it did happen... but that's why i know it wouldn't be genuine anytime soon
Mack05 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 The big problem is trust and how to re-establish trust. If someone leaves you once, they have the ability to do it again. It takes a pretty special dynamic person, to make the (sometimes many) positive changes that probably are required for the relationship to succeed if there was a reconcilation. The harsh stats are your ex is not coming back and even if they somewho do come back there is far more chances of failure then success. When you consider all the facts, therefore its best too look forward and not back..
budley12 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 CopingGal, I commend you on having set such high standards for your ex in order for him to come back into your good graces. You have inspired me to have my own criteria for my ex to meet in order for her to prove to me she's sincere. I think your Fourteen Points are a little too Wilsonian to me, so I've cut my own back to twelve. 1) Slay the Nemean Lion. 2) Kill the nine-headed Lernaean Hydra. 3) Obtain the Golden Hind of Artemis. 4) Capture the Erymanthian Boar. 5) Clean the Augean stables. 6) Slay the Stymphalian Birds. 7) Capture the Cretan Bull. 8) Steal the Mares of Diomedes. 9) Obtain the Girdle of Hippolyta. 10) Steal the Cattle of Geryon. 11) Steal the Apples of Hesperides. 12) Capture and bring to me Cerberus, the three headed dog of the underworld. Once she's completed these tasks I'll know she's matured and grown in our time apart, and that she's serious about us. Short of that, she can pound salt. This just made my day! =) 1
CopingGal Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 If my ex offered me 5,000 dollars to take him back, I would say NO. Seriously, I would. He treated me terribly. In April, he wanted to move for me because he thought I was moving. In May, he looked for other women on the internet. In June, he couldn't get me out of his life fast enough. He did this by ignoring me and lying about spending time with his autisitc son. He just did so much damage to me, pretending to be serious about fixing the relationship by going to the couple's counselor with me, pretending that he didn't want to get married for one reason and telling me about that, but neglecting to tell me that he was actually cheating on me. This was my big pay-off. This is what I waited three years for...to be treated like that! It's hard for me to think of people like that actually existing. And who knows what he's capable of? I'm actually a little afraid of him now. I hope I never end of alone with him because he has no conscience. Who knows what he is capable of?
budley12 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 nothing really. my ex still has my heart. -i am too forgiving.
fucpcg Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 She would have to communicate with me, something she can't seem to do. Those that hate your ex's, don't know why you were even dating them. My ex and I had a definite amazing connection. We had some problems along the way thanks to bad previous relationships, and had some problems along the way thanks to my bad previous experiences. I always talked thru it with her when she struggled, and so thankful that I did. Her response to my struggles was to end it. I think it's crazy to feel a breakup is proof that you were with the wrong person and need to go find the right one that you never have a fight, argument, disagreement with. If/when you find that person, marry them and they fly away on the Unicorn to your honeymoon.
jen_r Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Honestly, nothing would make me take him back. For WAY too long I had done everthing I could to get him back and waited for him to want me the way I wanted him. He actually has just emailed me the past 2 days trying to talk to me and and I told him straight up to "f**K off, you lost your oppurtunity to talk to me." If he messages me today, I am blocking him.
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