Taffylo Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 So I meet a girl at a party a couple weeks ago. We really hit it off, all her friends kept saying we made a cute couple and were taking pictures of us. The following few days we are on the phone constantly. Texting calling acting like a married couple pretty much. I go out of town for a few days with my family and I drop my phone in the lake. I have no way of getting a hold of her. Two days later when I come home and get a new phone, her 20 texts saying are you alive? Come in. I explain what happened to her. Ever since then it's all been downhill. I text her it takes her 3 hrs to reply, sometimes she won't reply till the next day. I take the hint and back off. Then she starts texting me saying, "if we were to date" gets my interest back and then starts ignoring me again. Then I back off, don't text all day and she does it again.... what in the world is wrong with her?
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Whenever you start off really strong and something...anything breaks the flow or pattern, you lose that momentum. You see people like to ride that wave, and keep it consistent...It's what makes it feel "real"...however throw a few days in there to break pattern people will suddenly change and start "questioning" things. You'd be surprised how people get caught up in the momentum, everything seems blissful and perfect, then real life kicks in or what not and they have to come back down the reality. So this is normal, she's upset/disappointed about what happened....maybe she thinks you could have even figured out a way to call her (which you should have tried to do but it's no big deal, you sound young) now she wants to play hot and cold and get you to chase. She's interested in you she just now kinda holds a grudge towards you and act immaturely and messing with your head...but If she wasn't interested then she wouldn't even get back to you...when women are over it they are over it, so she's still leaving the door open and giving you the chance...IF you're interested you'll chase If not she might get pissed off and just cut you off and find someone else. Have a talk with her, tell her what really happened and that you were disappointed as well that you couldn't talk to to her during the time. Tell her what you want and that you don't want to play any games. Do you even know what you want? Bottom line: The "hint" isn't to back off necessarily, she wants you to put in more effort...call her don't text her, see her if you can...do something, put more effort is the hint, make her feel wanted. 3
chucksagent Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 My girlfriend and I actually just went on a double date a few weeks ago with a good friend of mine and this girl who he had been talking to. I can testify to the fact she would text him CONSTANTLY. Practically begging him to take her out, hang out, etc. He finally does, and we all had a GREAT night. She friend requested me and my girlfriend on FB, a lot of laughs, good dinner, etc. Well my friend, (who is the most down to earth/humble guy ever) tells me the following days she isn't responding to texts, and when it is, it's one word answers and after much time passes. I don't know if I even have an answer for you. I just know that there is a LOT I miss about single life, but this kind of bullcrap that you and my buddy are going through is a BIG reason I wouldn't CONSIDER being single again...lol...you know what they say, grass is always greener on the other side. Naw, all kidding aside, I have the best girl ever and she treats me like a King. But when you're single, women are INSANE. Very hard to read and can't make decisions for themselves, so they let their friends and family influence. So who knows what shes thinking.
TheSingleGuy Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I go through this kind of crap all the time. Just makes me hate all women that much worse. 1
happiness0421 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I'll come at this from a woman's perspective: She was disappointed after not hearing from you when you dropped your phone in the lake. Understandable; it sounds like an excuse! So, you need to be honest with her, tell her that it truly did happen - but more importantly, make it known NOW that you are interested. Call her, make plans to see her, etc. In my opinion, you as the guy need to step it up. It's obvious that she was interested in you then, and she probably still is, but the trust on her end just isn't there yet. Make plans to call/see her and follow through. Us gals are taught that if a guy likes us, he will make time in his day to contact us or see us. Otherwise, we think that you aren't interested/we're not worth your time/you don't know what you want. Hope this makes sense!
happiness0421 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Also - girls tend to think that it is best to let the guy pursue and contact us. If we are the ones constantly initiating conversations, we fear that we'll come off as too clingy or needy. She probably is trying to give YOU space to contact HER so that she doesn't look like an incessant b*tch that won't leave you alone!!!!!
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