Can you ever shake memories of someone that broke your heart?

[Glove_slap]

In my case it was my first love. Do you guys think you can ever truly forget them?

[JohnP82]

I don't think you will ever forget. However, eventually it will not hurt anymore. She'll just be some chick you used to date. Gotye says it best, she will be somebody you used to know.

[TheDovic]

It's really tough!!!

 

I think about my ex everyday, and it still hurts 8 months later. From personal experience I think I can kind of answer this question though!

 

I fell for a girl I was dating when I was 16/17 and couldn't stop thinking about her until I met someone else when I was 19.

 

Saw this other girl from 19 - 23 and when we broke up I stalked her and was an emotional wreck. 8 months later I met a girl I really liked and ended up seeing her for 4 years (my current ex).

 

Since this latest breakup I still think about my ex every single minute and hurt a lot (although the pain lessens with every month). I've just accepted that for a while I'm going to hurt and don't put too much pressure on myself to be over her, cos it's not that easy! I've been seeing other girls too, but still feel sad cos none of them have measured up to what I want just yet, but I'm confidence I'll find someone if I keep looking!

 

So to answer your question: I THINK THE LONGER WE FEEL SORRY FOR OURSELVES AND DON'T TRY TO MOVE ON WITH OUR LIVES, THE LONGER WE'LL FEEL SAD AND NOT GET OVER OUR EX. WHEN WE TRY TO MOVE ON IT IS TOUGH, BUT IT HELPS A BIT, AND FROM EXPERIENCE WHEN I'VE MET SOMEONE I LIKED I WAS ABLE TO STOP THINKING ABOUT THEM... maybe this will be the case for both of us this time

[shayla]

It takes some of us longer than others to feel okay again after a bad breakup. Took me more than a year, and I still feel some twinges every now and then....it was a horrible betrayal and I still have some flashes of anger about it. But it's nothing compared to what it was when it was still fresh.

 

My very first love, I never dreamed I'd ever get over him, we had a child together, and he left me like it was nothing. Now I see him, say hello and don't feel a thing. Just someone I know. His girlfriends are very insecure, and I am so suprised by that because he and I are like acquaintances now.