tomm Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 hey all it's been almost a yr. since my 6 yr. exclusive relationship with my ex girl... i'll tell you it still eats away at me how it ended BUT it definatly got easier . some quick back-ground.met he at work [we were co-wokers] became friends,she was married nothing ever happened between us ...she got seperated still nothing happened between us .....a bit after her divorce was finalized we started seeing each other time to time THEN a relationship started ..a good relationship [well i thought ] never argued always talked .compromised,listened,kissed before bed etc [ we didn't live together] ... reason for her divorce she caught her hubby in lies and cheatting .she was hurt [understandably after 11 yrs ] soo of course we had ''the talk ' and both agreed and also promised if it ever happened between us it's over even a thought of cheatting [ the ''talk'' was her idea ] .... so 6 yrs later one night she walked out on me no talk no note NOTHING ... just left my place while i was tossing out the trash .she did leave a box of the jewelery i've given her over the yrs on my counter........k i called no answer, days later drove by her place .got the''speech'' it's not me it's her , she loves me but not in love with me, we're not a couple..i ask where did this come from , what did i do wrong ?her reply i did nothing wrong ..i ask is it someone else ? i got a chukle and don't be silly ,with kids a job a house and being with you how could their be someone else .... about 2 days later i see her with another guy [ someone i know ]...seen her car in is driveway early morning hrs , his car in her driveway .. others know of them two as a couple ,i call and thank her for being full of it [fist i asked if she'd like to talk]she said theirs noting to talk about ....didn't admit or deny the other guy ...claims me and her are ''friends'' ''close friends'' [she told me that about 4 months ago when i ran in to her shopping one day] i told her she's delusional if she thinks we're any type of friends [ heck she never even called to say hi , happy holidays nothing anyways ] NOW when / if i run into her which i will .it's nice weather we live in a small-ish town .i want to tell her what a piece of S..t i think she is ,how she has zero integrity,her word means nothing and i hope this guy turns and screws her over .........we've had no contact [since Oct.] her dad died i offered m condolences ... will she care what i have to say ? probably not .....will my words hurt her ?doubtful ....will she give me an explination [ closeure] ? highly doubtful then why do it ? to get it off my chest ....i was hurt bad ,sleepless nights,the emotional roller coaster ride etc. I'VE done the taking walks,keeping busy,exercising,changing tings [ even moved from the old appartment ] even been on some dates .BUT the thoughts still bug me ,the fact i was dumped ,lied to cheatted on dis respected ,made a fool of
lilyblue Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 hey all it's been almost a yr. since my 6 yr. exclusive relationship with my ex girl... i'll tell you it still eats away at me how it ended BUT it definatly got easier . some quick back-ground.met he at work [we were co-wokers] became friends,she was married nothing ever happened between us ...she got seperated still nothing happened between us .....a bit after her divorce was finalized we started seeing each other time to time THEN a relationship started ..a good relationship [well i thought ] never argued always talked .compromised,listened,kissed before bed etc [ we didn't live together] ... reason for her divorce she caught her hubby in lies and cheatting .she was hurt [understandably after 11 yrs ] soo of course we had ''the talk ' and both agreed and also promised if it ever happened between us it's over even a thought of cheatting [ the ''talk'' was her idea ] .... so 6 yrs later one night she walked out on me no talk no note NOTHING ... just left my place while i was tossing out the trash .she did leave a box of the jewelery i've given her over the yrs on my counter........k i called no answer, days later drove by her place .got the''speech'' it's not me it's her , she loves me but not in love with me, we're not a couple..i ask where did this come from , what did i do wrong ?her reply i did nothing wrong ..i ask is it someone else ? i got a chukle and don't be silly ,with kids a job a house and being with you how could their be someone else .... about 2 days later i see her with another guy [ someone i know ]...seen her car in is driveway early morning hrs , his car in her driveway .. others know of them two as a couple ,i call and thank her for being full of it [fist i asked if she'd like to talk]she said theirs noting to talk about ....didn't admit or deny the other guy ...claims me and her are ''friends'' ''close friends'' [she told me that about 4 months ago when i ran in to her shopping one day] i told her she's delusional if she thinks we're any type of friends [ heck she never even called to say hi , happy holidays nothing anyways ] NOW when / if i run into her which i will .it's nice weather we live in a small-ish town .i want to tell her what a piece of S..t i think she is ,how she has zero integrity,her word means nothing and i hope this guy turns and screws her over .........we've had no contact [since Oct.] her dad died i offered m condolences ... will she care what i have to say ? probably not .....will my words hurt her ?doubtful ....will she give me an explination [ closeure] ? highly doubtful then why do it ? to get it off my chest ....i was hurt bad ,sleepless nights,the emotional roller coaster ride etc. I'VE done the taking walks,keeping busy,exercising,changing tings [ even moved from the old appartment ] even been on some dates .BUT the thoughts still bug me ,the fact i was dumped ,lied to cheatted on dis respected ,made a fool of I share many of the same feelings as I was also lied to and disrespected. I wonder how I will react *when* I run into him (same thoughts - nicer weather, we're bound to see each other somewhere). He won't care what I have to say, but maybe it'll be helpful to just get it outside my head and my heart.
CopingGal Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 GEEZ, sorry that happened. I did tell my ex if he ever felt he wanted to see other people, to please tell me. Of course, he ended up cheating on me and loving it while he did it. I'm so glad I was not with him for 6 years. It was three years off and on. I can't imagine the pain you must be in. It really hurts to be disrepected by people who claim to love you and my ex disrespected me soooo many times and feels he has a right to do it. It just stinks when people lie, lie, LIE.
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