spiderowl Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Would it be madness for an older woman to get involved with younger guy? I am talking guys in their thirties/forties and a woman over 50. I find that the guys who seem most interested and, in all honesty, genuine in wanting a relationship, are much younger. I always say no, they are too young, but I feel I have hurt some guys. I don't understand this attraction for older women and feel it would be a short term thing. It would seem strange to me. I would like to meet someone I was attracted to and who was genuine. Am I foolish for ruling these guys out? I'm not looking for a bit of fun so wouldn't consider them just for that.
OpenBook Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 No, it would not be madness. I'm having the same experience over here in the States. I would be careful, but no I wouldn't rule them out. They have a lot to offer. I continue to be mystified as to why they are interested in me, but I sure am enjoying the attention! :bunny:
gaius Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I know an older/younger couple where the guy is 16 years younger and they have been married for 20+ years. I see a lot of people discouraging it with their own tales of relationships that didn't last, but honestly how many relationships of any kind last a super long time anymore? Give it a shot, you might be surprised. 1
DivineCow Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Would it be madness for an older woman to get involved with younger guy? I am talking guys in their thirties/forties and a woman over 50. I find that the guys who seem most interested and, in all honesty, genuine in wanting a relationship, are much younger. I always say no, they are too young, but I feel I have hurt some guys. I don't understand this attraction for older women and feel it would be a short term thing. It would seem strange to me. I would like to meet someone I was attracted to and who was genuine. Am I foolish for ruling these guys out? I'm not looking for a bit of fun so wouldn't consider them just for that. i hope you went for it (noticed your post is dated 2009..)! we see these relationships working all the time on toyboy warehouse!
FitChick Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I wouldn't date someone in their thirties but over 40 should be fine because you are both middle-aged. Once men go through the shock of turning 40, divorcing the wife and buying a little red sports car, they accept growing older.
mesmerized Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I'm in my twenties and I seem to mostly attract/click with younger men. They're easier to deal with than older ones for some reason. 1
Author spiderowl Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 I'm finding I click better with younger men too. I've dismissed this for a long time but I feel disappointed in guys my age who seem lacklustre and sullen or out of touch. Maybe I'm like that too No, I didn't go for it last time but I'm seriously considering younger now.
delirious Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I was approached by a younger guy (12 years) and have been seeing him regularly for eight months. However i just saw his profile on a dating site and caught him still looking for older women. I am still with him but he has made it clear we are not forever. I was amazed at how many younger men were interested in me. I think it has more to do with not being after their money like the younger ones would and no commitment. However i was surprised how it hurt when i saw him doing it again and then wondered if it was a regular occurrence whilst we were together.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 One of my sisters is in her 50s and her husband is in his 30s. They've been together for years, he seems totally crazy about her, and he's a really great guy - fun, smart, loving, independently wealthy, and he totally dotes on her and her daughter. They've brought property in the country and are planning their dream house. I think they'll be together for life. Personally, at 35, I haven't found a younger guy who seems mature enough for a relationship. I think women start to grow up in the ballpark of 30, and men around 40. But I will date younger men and give them a go. I'd love to be surprised.
Bob_Funk Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Lol even women in their late 20's don't want men over 25. 1
matte123 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Go for it. You might be missing out on some really great guys if you don't take a chance.
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