lulu1985 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I feel so unimportant to my husband. ever since we have been together there has been some things he never told me of. I would always tell him things and not keep anything from him but he has never showed the same respect for me. I have found out he likes to put large toys up his butt for pleasure. has told me that it is normal for a straight man to do it and it does freak me out along with him watching alot of porn to top that off. more anal porn then anything, then it got worse and he started getting excited by tranny porn and that topped the cake for me. he has told me that it is because i haven't been very sexually active with him in the years, i was dealing with my issues of being molested by my brother in law and it still haunted me from when i was a kid till a few years ago when he finally passed. But then i saw that he posed adds on craigslist that he was looking for a casual encounter for a man, woman pretty much anyone, i don't know if he has cheated on me before or not since it is so hard to read him. I have lost a lot of trust in him over the years of dealing with these issues and it just has gotten worse in the past year or so since i got pregnant with our son and have gained weight and i haven't been able to lose it all yet. he hasn't wanted sex from me or wanted to please me in any way like he use to. said its different now. he hasn't initiated it, i have had to. I just feel so unimportant and not sexy or anything. i just feel like a piece of crap. He has said that i am a great mother and so on, but it just seems to me that he wants his orgasim more then he wants me to have one now. I am just so down, i need someone to talk to about this to make sense of this, because i can't talk to anyone i know about this because i don't want anyone around me to know what is going on, i am just so embarrassed by his issues. he doesn't kiss me or show me any kind of love only when it has to do with our son, or spark and everything is gone and i just feel like this is heading in a downward spiral. what do i do? anyone please i need some advice.
Author lulu1985 Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 What would you tell your daughter if she came to you and told you her husband was clearly a sexual deviant whose looking to have sex with trannys, men, women, and every other creature under the sun that he can find on Craigslist? Geez, the LAST thing you do is get pregnant with someone like this and become even MORE stuck to him. I would have been out of there a long time ago - not not having more kids with him. I don't get it. All the gay porn and Craigslist ads I found out about after I found out I was pregnant. We've been together for 9 yrs and its hard to just leave him after all we've been through. He is a good man my only problem is the porn and the dishonest behavior. I did talk to him and told him how I feel and he really didn't say much.I just wanted to have people's opinion and see what others would do in my shoes.
standtall Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I have found out he likes to put large toys up his butt for pleasure. has told me that it is normal for a straight man to do it and it does freak me out along with him watching alot of porn to top that off. more anal porn then anything, then it got worse and he started getting excited by tranny porn and that topped the cake for me. lulu, This is not normal whatsoever for a heterosexual man. He too has most likely suffered some kind of sexual abuse, and with men, the abused becomes the abuser later. To put it as plain as straight forward as possible, you need to raise your son away from him. 1
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