MIK1000 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I've been keeping you updated over the past few weeks about strange developments between me and the girl that broke my heart 6 months ago. Been pretty much NC since then. After she approached me in a night club 3 weeks ago and apologised for hurting me and made conversation, she then contacts me by text the week later asking for a favour and also asking if we can meet up and talk. The favour turned out to be asking for a document that she scanned onto my computer about a year ago, and if I still had it. I told her I didn't have it and enquired about arrangements to meet up, a couple of texts later she stops replying and I'm left wonder what the hell just happened. Last weekend she's in the club again, I avoid her but her friend drunkenly approaches me later on and tells me that me and my ex were "perfect for each other" and "need to give it another go". Now another week goes by, this morning I wake up to a text from my ex asking if i can check for that document again (already told her i don't have it!). I reply saying I still can't find it on the computer but will text my big brother to see if he knows anything (very unlikely), I tell her i will let her know when he replies. An hour later she phones me, I look at my phone like WTF, maybe she's just pocket dialled me. I haven't had a phone conversation with her since before we broke up. She sounded really timid and just wanted to know if i had heard from my brother yet (I'm thinking - em no, it's only been an hour since I spoke to you) I told her I was at my buddies and would let her know when he replied (as I already had told her) There's was loads of pauses in the conversation as if she wanted me to ask her about herself, or begin a conversation about something else. I didn't though, then we just said Bye. What is her game? Is she just trying to get me to open up and show I still am interested (every message I've seen has been strictly business like and pretty emotionless.) The fact that she phoned me for basically no reason is what is giving me the most to think about it, otherwise I'd probably just put the whole thing down to her wanting to the documents back desperately.
Chi townD Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 You know the unwritten rules here, dude! Anything short of, " I'm sorry, I'm miserable without you and I'm begging for a second chance." is just breadcrumbs and not worth your time. She has to make that move. Not you. 2
DisGai Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Kudos to you for holding up. Seems like you have her figured out yourself.. she does seem like she's testing you to see if you're still interested. Is she interested in you? Perhaps.. but she's going to have to open herself up to you first.
Author MIK1000 Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 Thanks. Yeah totally agree, I certainly won't be the first to open up. These games are pretty easy to read, so what's the point? Why not just be up front about everything. She's not used to being rejected by guys but she has once or twice and she's maybe afraid of happening again. Either that or she just loves playing games.
wilsonx Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Not a game, she was just checking in, stay tuned for more The only game being played here is you thinking you rejected her. 2
Author MIK1000 Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 Not a game, she was just checking in, stay tuned for more The only game being played here is you thinking you rejected her. Can you expand on this?
Author MIK1000 Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 GIGS is a map. The map is not the territory. Care to expand on this?
wilsonx Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Can you expand on this? You can't reject someone in GIGS, they DONT CARE! She was just saying Hi!
EgoJoe Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I disagree about rejecting some with gigs. If she initiates again and uses something else as an excuse call her on it. "Can you please check again about the document?" "Lol I don't have it, stop bugging me and get a new one already." Persists "Listen, I am not your mother ****ing secretary, I checked twice already. You're a big girl, figure it out on your own." 2
Nohbody Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Care to expand on this? I don't believe in GIGS. I believe people make choices... but most of the time they don't make very good ones.
wilsonx Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I don't believe in GIGS. I believe people make choices... but most of the time they don't make very good ones. This is GIGS.
Author MIK1000 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 I disagree about rejecting some with gigs. If she initiates again and uses something else as an excuse call her on it. "Can you please check again about the document?" "Lol I don't have it, stop bugging me and get a new one already." Persists "Listen, I am not your mother ****ing secretary, I checked twice already. You're a big girl, figure it out on your own." That would be pretty funny lol, would it not scare her off though? I'll most likely see her in the same club this weekend or next, drink gives her confidence, could be interesting.
EgoJoe Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 That is the point. She is already gone and if she knows that you're there she'll never feel the pang of your loss. Stop being a nice guy to people who don't earn it and shift your thinking.
Berlington Bob Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Haven't posted on here in about 4 months but this looks pretty straight forward to me. What's the document? Is it important? If yes then she is playing nice to get it and is calling to make sure you don't forget to find it. If no then like Wilson said, its breadcrumbs. She got used to you/got used to having control over you and like Wilson said, she's just saying hi to keep the door open in case she changes her mind. The only way to reject her is to block her number. Anything else is just playing into her hands.
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