date with an ex-co worker

[mancity14]

So I met this ex co-worker early on in my new role. We chatted a little and she said we should do coffee sometime. I work in investment banking so I got caught up in work and only asked her a couple of months later after a few more chats.

 

The first coffee went well and we arranged another. In the mean time she would we would chat from time to time and she would offer to bring me coffee from star bucks in the mornings.

 

Fast forward and I had a rift with my boss at the dept and moved on and got promoted in another dept. We met after I left and she asked what happened and I refused to get into details. She said she cared and complimented me on my work and told me to contact her if I ever wanted to talk about It.

 

I asked her out last week (1 month after leaving her dept) and she declined and said we should do coffee the same day. I told her we will arrange somethinh next week. This week I asked her out and she suggested coffee and I agreed. I went there and for once it was very awkward. She kept talking about herself and I sensed she was trying too hard( mentioned her recent promotion and her bonus voluntarily and offered to help me with grad school apps if I needed help). I had a meeting after so I told her I had rush but would catch up soon.

 

Quuestion: did I misread her interest or was it just a case of waiting too long? Also, should I ask her out again? I just felt for once we got on the wrong foot and it didn't go well at all.

[mancity14]

I know this aint the most interesting topic but any reply would help guys

[darkmoon]

sorry, but wasn't wanting to be over-weening

 

if i do coffee, am a woman, it's a way of seeing you as a friend (sex later once there is trust built up) rather than a date with benefits, or having to keep talking over a four hour dinner and drinks deploying wit and allure while hoping to find enough money to 50/50 and make a fantasy good impression at some pricey restaurant

 

but if she keeps this up for too long, it might just be that she's not in love

[Leegh]

I would contact her in a few days and ask her out for dinner. If she accepts, that's great, if she declines you can leave the ball in her court and say something like "Give me a call if you want to go out sometime." A month is not an exceptionally long time not to call someone for a date, especially for busy people, so I don't think you waited too long initially.

[mancity14]

Thanks u both. I will ask her out in a few days and leave it at that