dumpedandsore Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I have just started dating a guy. But just within this period, I noticed some red flags that might signals he is not that "into" me :1) He dislikes physical intimacy. I tried hugging , kissing and making out with him, but he pushes me off slightly and tells me, its a public place. This happened also in the cinema, he tells me ppl are watching us from behind in the cinema 2) He doesn't get me the gifts i need. I am not asking for LV, but my purse is spoilt and I ask if he could get me a cheap durable one, he said wait till sale 3) He declined every activity i suggested. I suggested going to this play , playing that sports activity etc, but he just turned it down flatly with many excuses. 4) He doesn't call/sms me daily. When i told him i would like to hear from him everyday, he sent me the standard sms template" Hixxx", have a good day ahead". His sms dont suggest an attempt at starting a conversation with me but just a regard, period. 5) He added hot babes on his fb after knowing me. I highlighted it to him and he removed them all 6) Whenever he is out with me, as long as its a young lady who walks by, he will look longingly at the lady. I dont think he ever admires or look at me in that way. 7) When i suggested breaking out, he created a scene by going up my house and insisted i meet him to talk it out. Everything went well later but he slipped to his "poor behaviour" a day or 2 after. 8) He is always late for our date, from 30 mins to 1 hr. What should I do about him? I have spoken to him many times but he insisted he is not using me as a time-filler but he truly loves me
oaks Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 What should I do about him? I have spoken to him many times but he insisted he is not using me as a time-filler but he truly loves me It sounds like he isn't interested in having a relationship with you. Tell him these things are unacceptable to you (or, at least, that you'd like those things to change). If there's no change (or if you've already done that and there's been no change), leave him and find someone else.
Art_Critic Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 It sounds like he isn't into you.... By the way.. can you not buy yourself a new purse, expecting him to buy it or use that as a gauge for whether or not he likes you is wrong. 1
counterman Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I don't think he's that into you. I went through something similar. I stayed with that girl for over half a year and it turns out that she was looking for someone better all along. She hated physical intimacy and would tell me off for trying to hold her hand. She wouldn't be bothered buying a gift for my birthday and yet she spent days pulling her hair out on getting a guy friend a present. But, bottom line was, I let it happen to me... I could have walked away. This whole thing you have going on actually sounds like a real bummer, I mean, take a read of what you just wrote. Bring it up with him and let him know how you feel about it. But I don't think he'll change. If you're not getting what you want out of it, what's the point of continuing?
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