She's dating 'the other guy'... now I can't stop thinking about her again

[clsjtce0]

Ok, so the situation is as follows:

 

I was with my previous girlfriend for around 4 months. She was very aloof, independent and busy... we'd only see each other once a week, two weeks or sometimes three. We'd text or call most days. This lack of contact became increasingly irritating.

She told me early on about this guy at work who really liked her and had done for some time. They'd had a couple of drunken kisses but nothing else, she assured me. I was never that sure. She talked about him a lot without saying his name... you know... oh this guy at work did this today... my closest friend at work is so funny, he's hilarious... etc etc.

Now, we broke up about a month and a half ago because 'we're too different'. I was a bit cut up about it and wanted her back for a while.

I was however, over it... that is until the other day when the enemy of break ups facebook informed me that she was now together with this other guy. I am now feeling AWFUL! and can't get over it.

She was very guarded with me and I feel that he was the reason. It's just so unfair... he got to see her every day at work in a good social office... how could I possibly compete against that? I feel betrayed... as if she was using me to prepare herself for her real relationship.

Now she won't respond to my texts... and I can't move on.

Please help.

[budley12]

i know what you are going through and it sucks. My ex of 3 years did almost the same thing. He became super busy because he is an RA on campus. We used to see each other every day but then it turned into seeing him 3 times a week at 1 in the morning just for sex. My ex ended up dumping me 4months ago and about 2months ago he started dating another RA he works with. IT SUCKS! The only thing which I think of though is, if our bonds were that tight before, what happens when our ex's move on from their jobs? They will not be around their new partners as much and could possibly start missing us. This is the hope I have now, but I am also telling myself to try and move on and see if there is anyone else out there for me

[Chi townD]

Well, maybe you should stop texting. I can only imagine what you're send! and hey, I wouldn't blame you!

[Nohbody]

Initiate No Contact. Focus on yourself.

Stop asking "WHY". People have no idea why they do anything.

 

If she doesn't want you in her life, then give that to her

 

in abundance.