FaithInTheDark Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 theres this guy i met a few times at the bar and at parties, we should tal alot when we saw each other and would flirt alot, we would always ask me to come to his house for after parties and such. so on st pattys day i ended up going to his place with some friends, he was really interested in me and we ended up making out for a bit. he told me he wanted to take me out one day to the movies and wanted to get to know me. so the next weekend come up and i ended up stoping at his house at like 3am to get some action (it had been so long since i had sex) his house is a big party house ,,and his friends all laughed when i showed up (btw i could care less),,we ended up attempting to have sex but he became impotent. we tired a second time and still same thing. haha. what a tease. we fell asleep and i left,..he asked for my number but i didnt have a cellphone, so he gave me his., i stoped by the next day to grab some things i had left the night before. so this weekend i had bought a new phone and texted him letting him know this is my number. no response. the next day i texted again when i was drunk saying "what your too cool to say hi haha" jokeing. still nothing! I was talking to a friend on facebook and asked her about the guy, she said that shes been talking to him all day. ouch. the guy isnt even that good looking, or has much going on for himself : hes a huge partier. I guess i just liked his company and wanted to get to know him. is there still any hope? why dont guys text back girls
Andy_K Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 He's either not interested, too embarrassed, or after someone else. Doesn't really matter which, the result is the same. 2
mixwell Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Kinda odd that he wouldn't txt back because even as a guy myself if I just wanted a sex based relationship I'd still keep in touch. He's most likely getting some action somewhere else but either way if he's not txting you back it should mean something and you shouldn't over speculate why but take it for what it is and just move on. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Yeah sounds like he took it to the pride for not being able to "perform"...the majority of guys especially mr party boy won't pass on an easy and sure thing, he'd at least keep you as a reliable emergency backup. He may just be over it, thrill of the hunt over...even though he didn't actually sleep with you, but he couldn't perform who's to say he can in the future...he should probably work on that. 1
Emilia Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 theres this guy i met a few times at the bar and at parties, we should tal alot when we saw each other and would flirt alot, we would always ask me to come to his house for after parties and such. so on st pattys day i ended up going to his place with some friends, he was really interested in me and we ended up making out for a bit. he told me he wanted to take me out one day to the movies and wanted to get to know me. so the next weekend come up and i ended up stoping at his house at like 3am to get some action (it had been so long since i had sex) his house is a big party house ,,and his friends all laughed when i showed up (btw i could care less),,we ended up attempting to have sex but he became impotent. we tired a second time and still same thing. haha. what a tease. we fell asleep and i left,..he asked for my number but i didnt have a cellphone, so he gave me his., i stoped by the next day to grab some things i had left the night before. so this weekend i had bought a new phone and texted him letting him know this is my number. no response. the next day i texted again when i was drunk saying "what your too cool to say hi haha" jokeing. still nothing! I was talking to a friend on facebook and asked her about the guy, she said that shes been talking to him all day. ouch. the guy isnt even that good looking, or has much going on for himself : hes a huge partier. I guess i just liked his company and wanted to get to know him. is there still any hope? why dont guys text back girls Because you behaved like some cheap tart that anyone can have, that's why. I have no issues with casual sex, had a few one night stands myself but I don't stop over at someone's house at 3am to 'get some' and certainly wouldn't talk to a guy whose friends laughed at me (why would they laugh at you?). I'd say he didn't fancy in the daylight what he clearly didn't fancy at night. Take a good look at yourself and get some class otherwise you will be always treated like dirt by guys all your life.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 wow. i didnt come on here to be burned with judgment. if i want to come over to someones house at 3 am , thats my personal choice...i wanted some company i guess. i came on here to get some insight. u dont even know me, so dont u dare tell me to take a look at myself. because i know who I am. get a life
veggirl Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 wow. i didnt come on here to be burned with judgment. if i want to come over to someones house at 3 am , thats my personal choice...i wanted some company i guess. i came on here to get some insight. u dont even know me, so dont u dare tell me to take a look at myself. because i know who I am. get a life Emilia's response came off as harsh, but she is right. When you start a "relationship" with 3 am bootycalls and sex off the bat, many many MANY times that is all it will EVER be. If you want a guy to date you etc, you have to make him DATE you, not just giving him sex. I don't think there is any hope here. First of all, why did his friends laugh at you? What has HE told them about you that brought on that reaction? That's really effed up. I can imagine "oh haha yeah this chick is totally coming to bang me" and they all laugh when you show up Second of all, he had no problems talking to your friend all day...clearly he ain't busy....he's just not interested... 1
NeverDated Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 wow. i didnt come on here to be burned with judgment. if i want to come over to someones house at 3 am , thats my personal choice...i wanted some company i guess. i came on here to get some insight. u dont even know me, so dont u dare tell me to take a look at myself. because i know who I am. get a life You got your insight. It wasn't phrased in the kindest way possible, but it's very true. Why would he want to pursue a relationship with a woman who comes over at 3AM to get some action before you've ever even been on a date? His friends laughed at you, he couldn't get it up...sure there are other explanations, but when you hear hoof beats, think horses not zebras. You were being played. My guess is when and if you hear from him again, it will be for sex under the guise of watching a movie or having a few drinks. If you're OK with that being your "relationship", more power to you. Otherwise, I'd delete his number and move on.
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