redrose123 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I broke NC with my ex today since we work together I went up to him and asked if he could at least pretend to care and if we could be civil to each other at work but I'm pretty sure it won't lead to anything. I really thought he would try to contact me tonight but here I am on LS alone without a text. I feel like this isnt my life. I was so used to being with my ex. I feel like the life im living now without him is a dream and one day I'll wake up out of it and everything will be back to normal. Does anyone else feel like this? Ugh It sucks so much loving someone who doesn't love you back..
cflowers32 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I broke NC with my ex today since we work together I went up to him and asked if he could at least pretend to care and if we could be civil to each other at work but I'm pretty sure it won't lead to anything. I really thought he would try to contact me tonight but here I am on LS alone without a text. I feel like this isnt my life. I was so used to being with my ex. I feel like the life im living now without him is a dream and one day I'll wake up out of it and everything will be back to normal. Does anyone else feel like this? Ugh It sucks so much loving someone who doesn't love you back.. Uh huh!!! And I wish I knew how to get over it. BS. They're not going to care, you are on your own, but we're here I totally feel ya. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I broke NC with my ex today since we work together I went up to him and asked if he could at least pretend to care and if we could be civil to each other at work but I'm pretty sure it won't lead to anything. I really thought he would try to contact me tonight but here I am on LS alone without a text. I feel like this isnt my life. I was so used to being with my ex. I feel like the life im living now without him is a dream and one day I'll wake up out of it and everything will be back to normal. Does anyone else feel like this? Ugh It sucks so much loving someone who doesn't love you back.. First off, kudos to you for being the better person and stating how you feel in the hopes that the awkwardness would stop. And shame on him for not acknowledging it. You did your best and there isn't a thing more you can do. You were fine before him and you will certainly be fine when the emotions clear. Trust me. You just have to go through the stages and do so in your own good time. Things happen for a reason and we never get to see the bigger picture. But it will all unfold and you will be thinking "what on earth was I thinking swooning over him??" He can't even dignify you with a response. Very unmanly. Now you know where you stand and it's time for you to keep on your healing journey. Keep a journal or blog---when you feel like contacting him, come here or write to him in your blog---don't send it of course, this is strictly for your eyes only and for you to heal. With time, I promise it will get better--it's taking longer because you have to see him. But be strong, he's a stranger now; don't waste your precious time trying anymore with this fool.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Uh huh!!! And I wish I knew how to get over it. BS. They're not going to care, you are on your own, but we're here I totally feel ya. Very true; these guys don't care; they moved on and so should you. It was easy for me since my ex did all the calling/texting--never gave me a chance to initiate once in awhile. Yes, when he became abusive, the sweet texts that I came to depend on, stopped. He was giving that sweetness to someone else. Remember ladies, some unfortunate ladies got our old used up toys;) Every single day, ever single minute is time closer to healing. It's hard to see through all the fog:) "clouded is the mind and hemmed with restraint when emotions hold sway"-Boethius. It is very true. We can hold each other up on here; coming hear helps to ease that crappy feeling. It's a hopeless feeling, but eventually, this toxic stuff will be out of your system. Think of it as a withdrawal==it is only temporary.
Author redrose123 Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 He did respond but it hurt more because he said he's so busy at work he doesn't even notice when I pass by him I hate having to see him because I just have this terrible urge to go up and hug him or talk to him!! I don't even want anyone, I just want to be happy on my own. I got nothing out of this relationship and if I had a do over button I would have never given him the time of day there are soo many things I wish I could say to him. A part of me wishes he would reach out to me so I could get it all off my chest. Thanks to Him I don't think I'll be able to put myself out there and completely trust another again
Frank13 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Does anyone else feel like this? Ugh It sucks so much loving someone who doesn't love you back.. Been there, done that, my entire life. I have never been in a relationship where we both loved each other. Either I did and she didn't, or she did and I didn't. I am seeing a new woman now and taking it slow, but so many days I just want to s#$t can it before it goes too far, because I know based on my past, that it is impossible for us both to love each other. Either neither of us will, or one will and the other won't. What's the point in hurting or being hurt.
TaraMaiden Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Please read the Caliguy No Contact link in my signature. it was written by a man who worked alongside his ex- who cheated on him at a particularly stressful and emotional time for him. He implemented NC at work - and came out the other end, much better than she did. 1
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