Ben00 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I sure am. Breakup happened 11 days ago due to her wanting "space". I am having such a hard time with this because she gave no other reason and I thought we were so happy together. Then a complete 180 so suddenly. Tonight my heart aches to be with her, talk to her, even just get a text from her. Why does love have to hurt so much... I have read all the tips and tricks to get through a breakup, and have been following them, however tonight I feel so empty and alone. Sorry, just had to ramble...
budley12 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 hang in there! im starting to have a rough night too. i had such a great day and then BAM. The sun went down, and i find out my ex and all ex mutual friends are having a party. so here I am lonely again tonight =( i feel trapped here on campus and cant get out. Miss my ex and friends so much, but now im alone
cflowers32 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 hang in there! im starting to have a rough night too. i had such a great day and then BAM. The sun went down, and i find out my ex and all ex mutual friends are having a party. so here I am lonely again tonight =( i feel trapped here on campus and cant get out. Miss my ex and friends so much, but now im alone Ditto!!! I had a great day, and now it's setting in. I totally feel for you too. I want something to do to put the feelings at bay. I'm about ready to get off the laptop and maybe see if there is a good movie on demand. You know, why does it hurt so bad??? I wonder what the psychological aspect or clinical view says. I'm sure I've read it before, but I think I'm going to go google that.
mike588 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I sure am. Breakup happened 11 days ago due to her wanting "space". I am having such a hard time with this because she gave no other reason and I thought we were so happy together. Then a complete 180 so suddenly. Tonight my heart aches to be with her, talk to her, even just get a text from her. Why does love have to hurt so much... I have read all the tips and tricks to get through a breakup, and have been following them, however tonight I feel so empty and alone. Sorry, just had to ramble... Hey..I'm not having a bad night but have been where you are now...it sucks I know. My ex. dumped me for her ex. 7 months ago and I know exactly how you feel and what your going thru! I too wanted to talk to my ex. so bad...just to hear her voice and just to talk. Best thing for you to do is just leave her alone...go No Contact. I'm sure she knows how you feel...that you love her and want to be with her and if you contact her it's just going to hurt you more...she doesn't need to be reminded of how you feel. Leaving her alone...No Contact will give her time to think about things and it may....may make her miss you if there is no one else involved....sorry to say but there usually is. I went strict No Contact (almost broke it 100+ times) then 6 months later she contacts me several times. There's not alot you can do now...bugging her with texts..calls etc. will only push her further away...is that what you want??? Hang in there...it's so very hard...I know and your not alone!!! 1
ThatDudeXO Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Hey my fellow broken heart. Tonight is Saturday Otherwise known as Sadderday Where if you are single, broken hearted and not drunk as hell with you're friends, you're probably going to feel very lonely. I felt so lonely tonight watching 'Forgetting Sarah Marshall'. (Haha) We may feel empty and alone but there have been times when we were happy being alone and single, we just have to learn to be like that again. You say love hurts...no it doesn't, it's the bad apples and wrong decisions that hurt us. Love is amazing and we will all find someone special soon. 3
Author Ben00 Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 It is with tears in my eyes that I say thank you to you guys. I thought I could remain strong and accept/respect her decision but it's like a bad dream that I can't wake up from.
budley12 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 ] You say love hurts...no it doesn't, it's the bad apples and wrong decisions that hurt us. Love is amazing and we will all find someone special soon. It sucks that i feel my ex was the ripest apple of them all but yet I was dumb and ruined things. I know everyone says not to blame yourself but when your ex comes out and says "the love is gone due to your actions" its pretty clear its my fault. If only there was a rewind button and still know what I know now to make things right. Better yet... if there was a fast forward button to see if we end up becoming happy again
ThatDudeXO Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 It is with tears in my eyes that I say thank you to you guys. I thought I could remain strong and accept/respect her decision but it's like a bad dream that I can't wake up from. Rewind 1 month back before I started NC, I was at the same stage. It was an effing nightmare. Worst time of my life. I spent my birthday crying my eyes out because she was gone, I thought that terrible feeling would never go away...but it has... And I want to assure you that it will get better for you, you won't feel as much pain and you will soon be happy! Just stick at it and fight the emotional storms, it's just your heart testing you! You will prevail and be much happier than before! 2
ThatDudeXO Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 It sucks that i feel my ex was the ripest apple of them all but yet I was dumb and ruined things. I know everyone says not to blame yourself but when your ex comes out and says "the love is gone due to your actions" its pretty clear its my fault. If only there was a rewind button and still know what I know now to make things right. Better yet... if there was a fast forward button to see if we end up becoming happy again I too have made mistakes in my relationship but it works 2 ways. If she loved you at all she would have made it clear what actions made her unhappy and worked at it...but she didn't, so it isn't meant to be...at least for now. You will find another ripe apple but you need to learn from your mistakes and make sure you be the best lover of all time in your next relationship! 2
mike588 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 It is with tears in my eyes that I say thank you to you guys. I thought I could remain strong and accept/respect her decision but it's like a bad dream that I can't wake up from. Again I went thru ALL of what your going thru....can't eat..sleepless nights...analyzing the breakup over and over and over...walk around like a zombie etc. etc. I promise you it WILL get better....really!!! I know it feels like it won't at this moment....I've been there as well as just about everyone on this site but you will get thru this....Guaranteed!!!!
Toru Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Tonight is the 21 birthdayparty of my ex. A birthdayparty which I initially organised with her grandma but now she's having the party with her family, all her friends and some of mine, and I'm not even there. This sucks because I was really looking forward to it. Dancing together, just having a great night. This absolutely sucks.
budley12 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Tonight is the 21 birthdayparty of my ex. A birthdayparty which I initially organised with her grandma but now she's having the party with her family, all her friends and some of mine, and I'm not even there. This sucks because I was really looking forward to it. Dancing together, just having a great night. This absolutely sucks. NO WAY! same here! same exact story (besides the grandma part and family). It sucks! All of my friends were my ex's friends too and all sided with him and left me with noone. Even my roommate went, talk about a downer =( 1
cflowers32 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Hey my fellow broken heart. Tonight is Saturday Otherwise known as Sadderday Where if you are single, broken hearted and not drunk as hell with you're friends, you're probably going to feel very lonely. I felt so lonely tonight watching 'Forgetting Sarah Marshall'. (Haha) We may feel empty and alone but there have been times when we were happy being alone and single, we just have to learn to be like that again. You say love hurts...no it doesn't, it's the bad apples and wrong decisions that hurt us. Love is amazing and we will all find someone special soon. So well said Dude, nice!!
cflowers32 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Tonight is the 21 birthdayparty of my ex. A birthdayparty which I initially organised with her grandma but now she's having the party with her family, all her friends and some of mine, and I'm not even there. This sucks because I was really looking forward to it. Dancing together, just having a great night. This absolutely sucks. Toru, I'm so sorry. *HUGS* 1
Author Ben00 Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 It's unfortunate that most of us are on this boat of sadness, but I am glad that we are on it together. The weather forecast shows lots of stormy weather ahead but guess what? Our destination is a paradise island. Soon, my friends, we will be basking in the sun and enjoying life. Silly I know, but it's an analogy I just came up with to try and feel better about things. 2
jennisfora Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 The nights are getting easier for me, but still hard. Been a long week of no contact, but i got through it. i did 2 months of LC, and suffered a lot more than i have this week. the first 3 or 4 days was so hard, i couldnt sleep, i had to turn my phone off, i avoided fb, even though i defriended him, i would still search for his profile even though i couldnt see anything. but, now, i still glance at the phone, but, the urge is a little less. i am not shocked he hasn't contacted me. i expect he i will try and check in soon, just because this is the longest its been for us without someone trying to reach out.
cflowers32 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 The nights are getting easier for me, but still hard. Been a long week of no contact, but i got through it. i did 2 months of LC, and suffered a lot more than i have this week. the first 3 or 4 days was so hard, i couldnt sleep, i had to turn my phone off, i avoided fb, even though i defriended him, i would still search for his profile even though i couldnt see anything. but, now, i still glance at the phone, but, the urge is a little less. i am not shocked he hasn't contacted me. i expect he i will try and check in soon, just because this is the longest its been for us without someone trying to reach out. Scary, and relative. Why doesn't this site have "private messaging"? I'd like to share with you without dragging everyone else along for the ride. It is really hard for me. I AM BEING A BIG GIRL, but it's still hard. I think he might msg. me, and he doesn't... ok. Still... Then I have gotten all the texts, emails, phone calls from him... Makes it harder, and of course when he reaches out, I am RIGHT THERE!!! I love the guy Jenn. I'm trying. 1
jennisfora Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 i know, it's so easy to say, just get over him, he is a jerk, he isn't worth it, blah blah blah. but when you love someone, you want to forgive them, you want to be there when they are in pain, you want them to love you back. everyday is a battle. just know that you have to focus on you, because if you focus on him, and he is focusing on him, then no one is tending to you..*hugs* i wish i could message you too, and blindsided, i feel like we are in a similar place. it can be hard to communicate things, without derailing other people's cries for help.
jennisfora Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 i know this, but we don't have it because we aren't established or subscribers.
blindesided Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Mornings are the worst for me for some reason & I wake up with anxiety. I know what you guys mean about waiting for contact - its like you accepted it wont happen - but then there is always that hope that everytime the phone beeps or a new e-mail appears - it might be him! - Only to be let down...again. I think it is getting better by the day - I am thankful my ex never had a fb page - one less thing I have to worry about!
Author Ben00 Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 Tonight is the 21 birthdayparty of my ex. A birthdayparty which I initially organised with her grandma but now she's having the party with her family, all her friends and some of mine, and I'm not even there. This sucks because I was really looking forward to it. Dancing together, just having a great night. This absolutely sucks. I understand exactly how you are feeling. Tonight (Monday) is my ex's 23rd birthday. I don't even know what to feel... I'm happy that she'll be spending time with family and friends but it's pulling on my heart strings hard. I know it's stupid to think like this, but I am wishing so bad that I was with her. It's just so hard to think that 2 weeks ago we were happy as can be, and now she's gone and I'm out of her life. Brings to mind "you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone". I admit I started to take her for granted. Now I'm missing her like crazy and I can't do anything about it. 1
CopingGal Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Having a hard night, but it's getting better. Going on a nice walk helped.
OffandOnStillinLove Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 yea, sad few days, esp horrible lately, now that I found out my ex is dating someone I know how you feel... I know a few others who havent slept well and these past few days have had a cloud over them, for many people ;(
jennisfora Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 i want to call him so much right now. i know i can just hold out, it will get easier.
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