verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 V, maybe you ought to invest in a dating coach for women. I have read a few of your posts where you talk about *how* you approach men, and I don't think those methods work. I for one am a little weirded out if a woman comes on too strong and doesn't give me a chance to "game" her so to speak. ... Except guys don't game me. Geez, there's just nothing I can do. I apparently can't approach guys, but guys won't approach me. See why the whole "attitude" thing is incorrect? There are just some people in the world that were born to be alone. Stop judging us for being sad about that fact. And yeah, I've looked into dating coaches... $3,000 a pop to be told "Be prettier and have open body language." Well no freaking kidding, glad I used my money wisely...
Imajerk17 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 ... Except guys don't game me. Geez, there's just nothing I can do. I apparently can't approach guys, but guys won't approach me. See why the whole "attitude" thing is incorrect? There are just some people in the world that were born to be alone. Stop judging us for being sad about that fact. And yeah, I've looked into dating coaches... $3,000 a pop to be told "Be prettier and have open body language." Well no freaking kidding, glad I used my money wisely... You try online dating?
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Or I think I'm not dateable because men don't think I'm dateable. Seriously, it's a chicken-or-the-egg. It IS my only method for getting male attention. I have tried to establish a relationship, and each time it was "Ooo I'm not ready" "Oh I just want to take it slow" "Oh I don't see you that way." So I give up and take what I can get. Attitude is only half the battle. It doesn't change what you fundamentally are. If you are fundamentally unattractive, you just wind up feeling better about the fact that you're unattractive, but it doesn't make you attractive. I am say what I say because I have had that same struggle. I thought no woman would ever want me. I thought i was ugly and even to this day I don't even show pics from pic from back when I wore glasses. That is because I don't even want to think about those times. It was horrible for me. I was depressed for a long time and once contemplated suicide. The thing that changed me was when I had a thing with a married woman. She messed me up even more but once I really focused on working on me and not thinking about dating the depression and negativity went away. When that happened my dating situation improved drastically.
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 You try online dating? Yep. OKCupid for 2 years, Match for 6 months. I got a total of like... a message a month, maybe?, on both sites. Of course, now that I've resigned my Match membership, I'm getting daily messages about how "he's emailed you! Sign up to see who!" It kind of makes me want to burn their offices to the ground. See why I take issue with the "well you should be doing something to improve your situation instead of whining!" I've done everything I'm told to do, and still gotten no where. What other option is there but to whine/give up?
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Yep. OKCupid for 2 years, Match for 6 months. I got a total of like... a message a month, maybe?, on both sites. Of course, now that I've resigned my Match membership, I'm getting daily messages about how "he's emailed you! Sign up to see who!" It kind of makes me want to burn their offices to the ground. See why I take issue with the "well you should be doing something to improve your situation instead of whining!" I've done everything I'm told to do, and still gotten no where. What other option is there but to whine/give up? Why not just work on yourself without the mission to get dates? You do it just to improve your life.
Imajerk17 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 (edited) Yep. OKCupid for 2 years, Match for 6 months. I got a total of like... a message a month, maybe?, on both sites. Of course, now that I've resigned my Match membership, I'm getting daily messages about how "he's emailed you! Sign up to see who!" It kind of makes me want to burn their offices to the ground. See why I take issue with the "well you should be doing something to improve your situation instead of whining!" I've done everything I'm told to do, and still gotten no where. What other option is there but to whine/give up? Have you sought feedback on your profile? Tell you what: I have a profile on match. If you PM me, I can give you my honest feedback on your profile and on how to improve it. I promise I'll be kind but honest. Edited April 3, 2012 by Imajerk17
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Why not just work on yourself without the mission to get dates? You do it just to improve your life. Except what exactly would I work on? Honestly, the only things I see wrong with myself are in relation to being unable to get a relationship. If I woke up tomorrow and suddenly didn't care about having a boyfriend/husband and family, there probably wouldn't be anything about me I'd change. The ONLY reason I want to/need to change is because I am not attractive to guys. So what, exactly, would I work on that wasn't directly related to getting dates?
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