joystickd Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 With this one thought one shouldn't be bitter about being rejected because you chose the person. This is why one should really spend time working on themselves handling issues. That way someone can choose us and we have to choose. 3
Bob_Funk Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Lol. Reminds me of that PUA phrase "You're the prize." No, you're not. When it comes to the singles scene, fat ugly chicks have a higher currency than even the best looking guys.
johan Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Lol. Reminds me of that PUA phrase "You're the prize." No, you're not. When it comes to the singles scene, fat ugly chicks have a higher currency than even the best looking guys. ha ha Really? Are all the women just scoring with each other then?
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Lol. Reminds me of that PUA phrase "You're the prize." No, you're not. When it comes to the singles scene, fat ugly chicks have a higher currency than even the best looking guys. Its not saying you are the prize. It just says no one gender is doing the choosing.
TheSingleGuy Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Bull****. Women do the choosing. Period. The 40 year old virgin: If it's a woman, it's because she chose to be a virgin. If it's a guy, it wasn't his choice. He didn't choose to be a 40 year old virgin...the women he pursued made that choice for him.
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Bull****. Women do the choosing. Period. The 40 year old virgin: If it's a woman, it's because she chose to be a virgin. If it's a guy, it wasn't his choice. He didn't choose to be a 40 year old virgin...the women he pursued made that choice for him. If you are a 40 year old virgin the reality is that YOU are the reason not anyone else. What do say about the number of women that may have been interested but YOU for whatever reason didn't choose them? 2
Necromancer Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Lol. Reminds me of that PUA phrase "You're the prize." No, you're not. When it comes to the singles scene, fat ugly chicks have a higher currency than even the best looking guys. Desperate guys see the women as the prize rather than themselves and put them on pedestal. After i started thinking of myself as the "prize" to be sold....girls have given me their numbers and that had never happened before. But in the end women do the choosing.
TheSingleGuy Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Yes, Necromancer, women will give you a number. Did you sleep with all of them? You might have gotten her number, but if you called her or texted her, it's because you wanted to sleep with her. But did you??? Probably not, because it was HER CHOICE, not yours. Necromancer, you are right that desperate guys give off a desperate vibe that amounts to chick repellent. And a HUGE part of female attraction is confidence. You have that part figured out. But you also need to pull your head out of the sand and realize, that until you've given a girl many good orgasms, the choice is not yours. She does the choosing, period.
Emilia Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 If it's a guy, it wasn't his choice. He didn't choose to be a 40 year old virgin...the women he pursued made that choice for him. If it's a guy it's because he never pursued women
TheSingleGuy Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 No, if it's a guy, it's because he pursued some women, got rejected every time and to avoid further rejection did not pursue enough women. He gave up. His confidence was destroyed.
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 No, if it's a guy, it's because he pursued some women, got rejected every time and to avoid further rejection did not pursue enough women. He gave up. His confidence was destroyed. And there are some women that pursued some guys, got rejected every time and gave up as well. AND no guy ever approaches her. So this happens to both genders. Why are guys on this forum so insistent that it can't happen to women?
TheSingleGuy Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 ++++Why are guys on this forum so insistent that it can't happen to women++++ Because there is no such thing as the 40 year old virgin woman who can't ever get laid.
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 ++++Why are guys on this forum so insistent that it can't happen to women++++ Because there is no such thing as the 40 year old virgin woman who can't ever get laid. Yeah, IF she constantly pursued guys. There are lots of women out there who never get approached... so how exactly are they supposed to stop being virgins except through pursuing guys? This is exactly the same for guys. If a guy pursued enough women, eventually he'd find one who wanted to sleep with him.
TheSingleGuy Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I've never heard of a woman who wanted to lose her virginity but was unable to do so.
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I've never heard of a woman who wanted to lose her virginity but was unable to do so. She could... if she pursued enough guys and/or lowered her standards. Just like a guy could lose his virginity if he pursued enough girls and lowered his standards. What is difficult to understand about this? 1
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Men and women if you have a problem you can look to no other reason but YOURSELF. That is it. I look and the people complaining are happy with their situation. If they weren't some of them would active be more proactive about changing it. 1
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Men and women if you have a problem you can look to no other reason but YOURSELF. That is it. I look and the people complaining are happy with their situation. If they weren't some of them would active be more proactive about changing it. Maybe they've run out of ways to be proactive about it. I've tried everything subscribed to me, and it hasn't changed my situation at all. People (and myself) are out of ideas. Sometimes the world doesn't find you attractive, and that's all there is to it.
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Maybe they've run out of ways to be proactive about it. I've tried everything subscribed to me, and it hasn't changed my situation at all. People (and myself) are out of ideas. Sometimes the world doesn't find you attractive, and that's all there is to it. Excuses excuses. Your main problem like numerous users have said before is your mind set. Its an addiction because you can talk to people and get sympathy. Its so much easier than doing something like going out and approaching men or even working of being a person that is actually open to being approached. Honestly you have had a FWB so there are men that would want to date you but you are so stuck in this mindset.
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Excuses excuses. Your main problem like numerous users have said before is your mind set. Its an addiction because you can talk to people and get sympathy. Its so much easier than doing something like going out and approaching men or even working of being a person that is actually open to being approached. Honestly you have had a FWB so there are men that would want to date you but you are so stuck in this mindset. An FWB does not mean men want to date me. In fact, it PROVES men don't want to date me... they just want to use me instead of their right hand. If they wanted to date me, they'd date me, they wouldn't FWB me. I HAVE gone out and approached men, and it's gone horribly awful every single time. How many times do I have to do it, and in what new and refreshingly insulting ways do I need to be shot down, before you'll drop the patronizing act that it's my "attitude"?
RachR Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Lol. Reminds me of that PUA phrase "You're the prize." No, you're not. When it comes to the singles scene, fat ugly chicks have a higher currency than even the best looking guys. Yeaaaahhh.... no.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 As you have (wisely) said before, OP, everyone should be working on being the best person they can be, which includes creating a fulfilling and useful life for themselves that unitizes the gifts they've been given. I'm talking about those of us who are fortunate to live in a world where basic survival is not our goal every day - as I think the vast majority of people who have a computer and time to sit on LS typing away are. NO, I am NOT saying that if you work on yourself, gain enough confidence to go after what you want in life, etc., you will "get" a man, a woman, sex, or whatever. What you will "get" is a worthwhile life.
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 An FWB does not mean men want to date me. In fact, it PROVES men don't want to date me... they just want to use me instead of their right hand. If they wanted to date me, they'd date me, they wouldn't FWB me. I HAVE gone out and approached men, and it's gone horribly awful every single time. How many times do I have to do it, and in what new and refreshingly insulting ways do I need to be shot down, before you'll drop the patronizing act that it's my "attitude"? It doesn't prove they don't want to date you. It just says you didn't really establish that you didn't want an FWB. You just accepted it because you probably thought that was your only method of getting male attention. I have been rejected hundreds of times. I use to purposely go to clubs and talk to at least 15 women in there and get shot down everytime. Rejection is not something you should feel bad about. That was the purpose of this post. You picked the person that rejected you. Like I said before hell if I was in your area I would probably get to know you and date you. I knew women similar to you that lots of dates and that was because of their positive attitude and the vibe they give off when they interact with a man. Until you work on you and think you look good no one else will. We teach people how to treat us. If you don't think you are dateable then no man will think you are dateable.
Author joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 As you have (wisely) said before, OP, everyone should be working on being the best person they can be, which includes creating a fulfilling and useful life for themselves that unitizes the gifts they've been given. I'm talking about those of us who are fortunate to live in a world where basic survival is not our goal every day - as I think the vast majority of people who have a computer and time to sit on LS typing away are. NO, I am NOT saying that if you work on yourself, gain enough confidence to go after what you want in life, etc., you will "get" a man, a woman, sex, or whatever. What you will "get" is a worthwhile life. I agree. The funny thing is once they work on themselves and have a worthwhile life then they find the person because dating is not a priority anymore
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 It doesn't prove they don't want to date you. It just says you didn't really establish that you didn't want an FWB. You just accepted it because you probably thought that was your only method of getting male attention. I have been rejected hundreds of times. I use to purposely go to clubs and talk to at least 15 women in there and get shot down everytime. Rejection is not something you should feel bad about. That was the purpose of this post. You picked the person that rejected you. Like I said before hell if I was in your area I would probably get to know you and date you. I knew women similar to you that lots of dates and that was because of their positive attitude and the vibe they give off when they interact with a man. Until you work on you and think you look good no one else will. We teach people how to treat us. If you don't think you are dateable then no man will think you are dateable. Or I think I'm not dateable because men don't think I'm dateable. Seriously, it's a chicken-or-the-egg. It IS my only method for getting male attention. I have tried to establish a relationship, and each time it was "Ooo I'm not ready" "Oh I just want to take it slow" "Oh I don't see you that way." So I give up and take what I can get. Attitude is only half the battle. It doesn't change what you fundamentally are. If you are fundamentally unattractive, you just wind up feeling better about the fact that you're unattractive, but it doesn't make you attractive.
Imajerk17 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Maybe they've run out of ways to be proactive about it. I've tried everything subscribed to me, and it hasn't changed my situation at all. People (and myself) are out of ideas. Sometimes the world doesn't find you attractive, and that's all there is to it. V, maybe you ought to invest in a dating coach for women. I have read a few of your posts where you talk about *how* you approach men, and I don't think those methods work. I for one am a little weirded out if a woman comes on too strong and doesn't give me a chance to "game" her so to speak.
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