JoeyArnold Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Guy called me fat. Don't take it personally: his soul must be fat. No offence to him: yet his focus is so materialistic.
Exit Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Part of me wants the companionship and I think it was an important day in my healing process when I actually realized I'm feeling like I could be interested in a woman aside from my ex, and if something amazing came along I'd probably give it a shot, but on the other hand I'm just not ready, I think of her too often, I have too many things I need to work on about myself, etc. I suppose there'd be a different between just casually dating to have some fun and actually trying to get into a relationship in the condition I'm in, but meh, just doesn't seem right yet. I've hung out with girls that I already know and have watched a few movies and gotten a few kisses, but not actually meeting new people to date.
CopingGal Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 (edited) Almost every man I have ever met on the internet has been a complete weirdo. I don't know if I would ever try internet dating again. I've met many weirdoes on POF as well years ago. Okay, wait....I did meet a nice man on POF once, back then, but we were not right for each other. We were friends though. I met my recent ex on another internet site. He turned out to be the worst of the worst I have met. But anyway, whether it's internet dating or meeting someone in person, I am totally not ready. I'm really going to take my time. Edited April 1, 2012 by CopingGal
JoeyArnold Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Almost every man I have ever met on the internet has been a complete weirdo. Are the guys at internet forums weirdos too? Don't worry, I already know I'm a weirdo. But there are a lot of weirdos on forums & Facebook too?
Follower Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Yes i tried dating, but i ended both relationships pretty rapid, within 2 weeks or so, as both times i realised after the intial new person buzz wares off(ie the random fun you have with somone) i was totaly disinterested and disconnected. I was looking to replace what i had lost and this isnt going to happen.. both girls were lovely people and im sorry for messing them around, both times i was in a mindset of yea you know what im ready to move on. I wasnt and still am not. Why? Its going to take somone very special to push my Ex Out of my head, as to me she's perfect, except that one little flaw that she up'd and ran.. but hey what can you do i still love and miss her and this is the main issue. 1
JoeyArnold Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I want to date when I'm ready for marriage: which is now.
Author cflowers32 Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 I want to date when I'm ready for marriage: which is now. Are you serious? Didn't you say before that you're 27 yo? And that you haven't date? Are you for real?
Mr Scorpio Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 For many of you, it seems like you've been going through this pain for a long, long time. I understand, but I am wondering why you haven't tried dating? Have you tried dating? What happened when you did? Two words -- the economy. Not too many women clamoring to date a 33 year old making $800 a month who can't find full-time work.
CopingGal Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Are the guys at internet forums weirdos too? Don't worry, I already know I'm a weirdo. But there are a lot of weirdos on forums & Facebook too? I think there are weirdoes all over the internet, but I have seen some very helpful, insightful posts from the men in this forum.
fucpcg Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Regarding online dating, if you think that's anything worse than meeting someone in a bar, you're crazy. I've met SEVERAL women online who are now great friends of mine. Maybe not a marriage match, but we went on to be friends cause there was definitely that connection. Some of my good guy friends are on there, I'm on there when actually trying to date, and I don't hang around guys I don't think are good people. I am 1 year out this month from my ex walking on me. I've tried dating 4 times, 4 different women, over this past year. The most recent was last night. From 4 months out till last night, the results have been the same. I go out, I realize all I can think about is I am here because I can't be with my ex, and that isn't a way to be on a date. However I am honest about it, I explain I came from horrible breakup, and as long as you TALK about it (vs. say cry to the girl about my ex left me), it can be very healthy. Last night, the woman was 6 months out from a 6 year relationship that ended. It was tough for her to be with me, it was tough for me to be with her, but our ability to just share stories, talk openly, learn about what the other learned from their failed relationships... etc, it turned out to be a GREAT evening, we laughed, talked, met some of each others friends, just had a wonderful, wonderful time. Am I ready to move on from ex? Still not yet. Were these past 4 women/dates bad ideas? No not at all, in fact great that it happened. Don't rush into dating, but if you try, and it fails because of longing for ex, you still have the potential for a great evening, and a great new friend of the opposite sex, and who knows where that may lead anyway. I LOVE my ex, but what a great Saturday night I just had 1
CopingGal Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Its going to take somone very special to push my Ex Out of my head, as to me she's perfect, except that one little flaw that she up'd and ran.. but hey what can you do i still love and miss her and this is the main issue. There is something else that can push your ex out of your head....time.
CopingGal Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Regarding online dating, if you think that's anything worse than meeting someone in a bar, you're crazy. I'm talking about MY experience. You can't call me crazy if that is my experience...SHEESH! People online pretend to be whomever they want to be. Being online gives people a HUGE dose in anonymity. They pretend to be something that they are not and then if you take your time to meet them in person, by the time you do, they have their games down pack. Now, everyone is an individual. And I have met bastards in bars. But my experience is that the bastards I met online where more strange, more treacherous, and more terrible than the men I have met face to face.
Nohbody Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 My dating experience has been weird. Not very satisfactory. I haven't been emotionally present on any of my dates. It's kind of a weird experience. Almost scientific in its detachment.
JoeyArnold Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Are you serious? Didn't you say before that you're 27 yo? And that you haven't date? Are you for real? I'm 27 & have never dated. Been busy. But I really want to date....
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