Sarabina Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I have had chronic depression pretty much my entire life. Currently I take antidepressants and I am able to function better than I did before.
gotye Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 yup... it might effect the relationship to a point where it ends... but I wouldn't say no if she was cool
Negative Nancy Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I wouldn't say no if she was cool = if she's really hot and < 25.
Fondue Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I would consider it if: - She was not clingy. - Does not expect me to continually "cheer her up." - Does not need constant communication. - Does not need validation/attention. - Does not keep ME down. - Still can have fun and not be depressed/boring. (read: as in, more depressing during hangouts and when being "out") - Attractive. Otherwise, probably not. No.
gotye Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 = if she's really hot and < 25. i am not attracted to women though so for me if he was really hott and had a decent living standard. Physical attraction is very important to me, and it can help overlook some stuff for me so... ya
Negative Nancy Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I would consider it if: - She was not clingy. - Does not expect me to continually "cheer her up." - Does not need constant communication. - Does not need validation/attention. - Does not keep ME down. - Still can have fun and not be depressed/boring. (read: as in, more depressing during hangouts and when being "out") - Attractive. Otherwise, probably not. No. found the perfect companion for you.
zoe1983 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I am also a female that has dealt with chronic depression almost her whole life. You should be more concerned about finding the right type of guy for you then stressing that no one will want you. Don't fall into the trap that you should feel lucky if some guy wants you. I almost married a guy in that mindset and I thank my lucky stars every day that I got out at the last minute! There are plenty of men out there that would love to be with you and that will see your depression as a disease, not as your identity!
dasein Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 If she was committed to a plan of beating the depression and showed definite daily habitual behavior in doing so, maybe. If the depression were comorbid with other more serious issues, no wouldn't date.
setsenia Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I've also had depression the majority of my life especially due to my childhood. Fortunately, there are remedies that help with depression. Don't let this be a dealbreaker for you. I met a wonderful man who has been through so much with me while I was going through some serious issues and stuck by me regardless. Depression also runs on his side of the family, although he doesn't have any chronic depression like I do. It's more common than you think, don't let that get you thinking you won't find happiness.
waiting4u Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I have chronic depression. I'm also in therapy, on meds, and actively dealing with my illness. That said, I still have times where I have to sort of withdraw from the world because I'm so sad. A LOT of people have depression. Imo it's your business (or the other person's business if they are the depressed one). If someone is taking an active role in treating their depression, then there's no reason you shouldn't date them. Just be prepared to be understanding of their situation, as it will be different than yours and often tough to understand.
darkmoon Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 once i told prospective cleaning ladies who answered my advert for them, that i was suffering with depression, they didn't want to know, it's rough but nobody much wants to sit thru negativity - mind you, if you intend telling people because you like honesty, note they might be hiding any sort of details about themseves from you anyway
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