irin Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 The question only makes sense if we are on a second date. Not if we are on the phone for the first time ever in life. So if I had told her my birthday then what? she knows and it's still a possibility we may not get serious so why ask that question? making conversation, showing an interest in you did you tell her you age, not your full TOB, age can be an important factor! sometimes people lie about their age on OLD
SmileFace Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 The question only makes sense if we are on a second date. Not if we are on the phone for the first time ever in life. So if I had told her my birthday then what? she knows and it's still a possibility we may not get serious so why ask that question? Dude, it's a simple question. You know, to make conversation. Life isnt really that hard- stop dissecting everything! I would have ended the conversation too if you seemed so objected to making simple conversation. You act as if she couldn't see your age on the dating profile. Did you forget the age you put on the site or something? Are you insecure about your age?
Art_Critic Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 She was either testing you to see if your age really was what you put on your profile or she had already done some background on you and wanted your birth date to make sure she had the right person...
dasein Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I figured she was asking because she wanted to know my sign and I told her and she still wanted to know the birthday???? lol Poster already hit it, she was likely trying to do some kind of check on you. Totally out of bounds on a first phone call, outrageous even.
Star Gazer Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Yeah, I have seen other threads by OP, and they are irrelevant to this one ... Disagree. He has a very clear pattern of behavior of interrogating his dates, and hanging up on THEM when they ask him a question he doesn't like. What goes around, comes around, I guess.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 Dude, it's a simple question. You know, to make conversation. Life isnt really that hard- stop dissecting everything! I would have ended the conversation too if you seemed so objected to making simple conversation. You act as if she couldn't see your age on the dating profile. Did you forget the age you put on the site or something? Are you insecure about your age? We met on a "telephone dating service" called Lavalife
Star Gazer Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 We met on a "telephone dating service" called Lavalife So asked your birthday in order to get your age, dude! Why is that question inappropriate??
johan Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Y'know every time I read a thread like this from you, I keep expecting a punchline of some sort. PhillyDude, it's a bit of leap to call her retarded. Though I do think her hanging up like that was rude and bit extreme. I agree, but it's also not typical behavior. People do this when they reach a level of frustration that just makes it not worth trying anymore. I'm guessing she was frustrated by much of what went on previously. If you were to ask her, you would probably find out how relieved she was to be done with the conversation. 4
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 (edited) Poster already hit it, she was likely trying to do some kind of check on you. Totally out of bounds on a first phone call, outrageous even. She asked him his birthday, can you imagine the nerve? And what a beeyotch to probably get annoyed by his refusal to answer this probing and personal question. Gawd. Chick sooooo deserved to be nexted, and to be deprived of the potential great time she could have had with PhillyDude. She'll never know what just slipped through her fingers. Dumb broad. Edited April 1, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Inappropriate backhanded and sarcastic compliment
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 So asked your birthday in order to get your age, dude! Why is that question inappropriate?? I told her my age and then she asked when is your birthday and I said in June which let her know it's coming up. I also followed that up with my sign but didn't feel like revealing my birthday to someone I may never talk to again.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 I just remembered earlier in the conversation she asked me "Do I want kids" Which is also too soon to ask and my was "I'm not thinking about kids right now since focusing on meeting the right person" I don't see the purpose of that question either because a guy say YES and be lying lol So in the month of April I will work on becoming a GOOD LIAR!!!!!!!!!
Star Gazer Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I just remembered earlier in the conversation she asked me "Do I want kids" Which is also too soon to ask and my was Seeing as you just saying that it's a site that you meet people through the PHONE and don't have a PROFILE, this type of information is totally normal to ask. Every single OLD website I've ever seen has an option on the profile where the person answers the above question re: their interest in having kids. Every single OLD website I've ever seen also shows your age. Seeing as this isn't an OLD site and she has to rely on telephone calls to gain such basic information, I can't fathom why you're so disturbed by this very basic information gathering. 1
Art_Critic Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Something to keep in perspective PhillyDude... it's lavalife.. They have the 3 profiles for each person.. the platonic one, the relationship one and the hot and horny sex one... Anything goes on lavalife...
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 Seeing as you just saying that it's a site that you meet people through the PHONE and don't have a PROFILE, this type of information is totally normal to ask. Every single OLD website I've ever seen has an option on the profile where the person answers the above question re: their interest in having kids. Every single OLD website I've ever seen also shows your age. Seeing as this isn't an OLD site and she has to rely on telephone calls to gain such basic information, I can't fathom why you're so disturbed by this very basic information gathering. At 2am in the morning?
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 Seeing as you just saying that it's a site that you meet people through the PHONE and don't have a PROFILE, this type of information is totally normal to ask. Every single OLD website I've ever seen has an option on the profile where the person answers the above question re: their interest in having kids. Every single OLD website I've ever seen also shows your age. Seeing as this isn't an OLD site and she has to rely on telephone calls to gain such basic information, I can't fathom why you're so disturbed by this very basic information gathering. And every OLD i been to shows your age and not your birthday:)
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 (edited) Something to keep in perspective PhillyDude... it's lavalife.. They have the 3 profiles for each person.. the platonic one, the relationship one and the hot and horny sex one... Anything goes on lavalife... I;m just mad i wasted all my minutes on that girl and could have met someone normal Edited April 1, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator inappropriate language
PlumPrincess Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Last night I talked to this girl for the first time and I was asking her questions like where she lives and other things. She then asked how old I am and then asked.."when is your birthday? My response was..."My birthday is in June and I;m a cancer if that's why you were asking. Her response: That's not what I asked you, when is your birthday? My response: Why is it so important for you to have that information now? Her response: You know what, forget it and then hangs up HUH?? LOL Did I say something wrong or is every female in Philadelphia retarded? Or maybe I;m retarded and don't understand this whole birthday thing? For once, I will agree with you. That's personal information I don't give out to complete strangers.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 For once, I will agree with you. That's personal information I don't give out to complete strangers. The month and my sign was not good enough-lol
phineas Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 She was either testing you to see if your age really was what you put on your profile or she had already done some background on you and wanted your birth date to make sure she had the right person... I honestly can't believe someone would do this. I don't even know cops who admit to doing this. Not even as a joke. It's messed up.
johan Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I honestly can't believe someone would do this. I don't even know cops who admit to doing this. Not even as a joke. It's messed up. I agree. This isn't what I think she was up to.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 What? I don't follow. I was saying why did our conversation have to be serious at 2am in the morning? The only thing I was going to ask was her height, body size, and location along with likes and dislikes at 2am in the morning it was no need to discuss these topics birthday job past relationships goals
westrock Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 My response: Why is it so important for you to have that information now? It's called smalltalk. It's important for building up a connection and establishing trust. When you refuse to share basic information they start to wonder what are you hiding from. I was saying why did our conversation have to be serious at 2am in the morning? The only thing I was going to ask was her height, body size, and location along with likes and dislikes And this isn't personal information? at 2am in the morning it was no need to discuss these topics birthday job past relationships goals Why is it ok for you to ask about her likes and dislikes at 2am? You seem to want the conversation on your terms only. That's not how a conversation works.
PlumPrincess Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 If I want to know a guy's age I ask him how old he is. I don't ask about his birthday, that's just weird.
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