Women: where to find you OTHER than bars?

[Ruby Slippers]

I go to bars and clubs very rarely. I have never met a suitable dating prospect in those places, and don't expect to. Here are the places where I would like to be approached:

 

• public transit
  
• coffee shops
  
• bookstores
  
• volunteering
  
• hippie/spiritual things, like meditation evenings, kirtan
  
• bike path, public tennis courts, lakefront
  
• grocery store
  
• any store (sporting goods, drugstore)
  

 

What I will usually get in these places is guys checking me out -- but most of the time, the only ones who approach are the very assertive guys. I would love for some shy smart guy to come up and talk to me when I'm just out and about, even if he was a little nervous.

[RachR]

I'd say pretty much anywhere that isn't common grounds for people who are "on the hunt", i.e. bars or clubs.

[Chocolat]

I go to bars and clubs very rarely. I have never met a suitable dating prospect in those places, and don't expect to. Here are the places where I would like to be approached:

 

• public transit
  
• coffee shops
  
• bookstores
  
• volunteering
  
• hippie/spiritual things, like meditation evenings, kirtan
  
• bike path, public tennis courts, lakefront
  
• grocery store
  
• any store (sporting goods, drugstore)
  

 

I like Ruby's list. I would add

 

• Library
  
• Health food store (a lot of men talk to me there, for some reason)
  
• Gym
  

What's good about these places, imo, is that a lot of them are "lifestyle" places. I love to read, so meeting someone in a bookstore increases the odds that he likes to read, too. Ditto with being physically active, etc.

[grkBoy]

Work. Yep. I said it.... dipping your pen in the company ink well. ****ting where you eat. All that. In the past, I NEVER dated anyone I worked with... but I'm re-thinking that wisdom. I know MANY people now who met their spouses at work. They were very careful.... you betcha. But for all of the reasons I said above (price of entry), there are some good reasons to search for a SPOUSE where you work.

 

I've notice now that many will meet in their work, but won't end up dating until some point when one leaves.

 

To Illustrate: Mike and Ann both work in a finance company. They meet, click well, become friends in and out of work, get noted as "work marriage" by joking coworkers...however, neither ever go to the next level.

 

THEN...Mike accepts a job and promotion in another company and thus leaves. He and Ann still stay in touch and see one another socially. Before you know it, they're dating and a few years later marrying.

 

Social capital strikes again.