maysj18 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Spend time in the chemistry department at my college, and that's where you can meet me.
zoe_justmarried Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Women are in many places but what does it matter IF THEY DONT WANT TO BE TALKED TO BY STRANGERS? So we guys can never meet them. And like someone said, they dont' like to be talked at in Cafes.. They're always with computers etc. They dont like to be talked at bus stops They dont like to be talked at at supermarkets. Frankly they don't like to be talked at at all by any guys. UNLESS the guy is a playboy. That's why they encourage men to be Playboys. that's what girls like. the beach is ok to talk unless someones reading a book etc. but i never read at the beach but i'm married, but people talk to me at the beach
Author wwwjd Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 Spend time in the chemistry department at my college, and that's where you can meet me. Chemistry? Is that unintentionally funny or is it just me? hmmmmmm do people really use THIS SITE for dating too? I've never messed with internet dating preferring the whole live animal primal attraction thang. Do you smell nice and are fertile*? *Joke referencing my previous posts, no offense intended But alas... I have no biceps, tats or a truck, so I don't think I'm dateable material at this time.
maysj18 Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Chemistry? Is that unintentionally funny or is it just me? hmmmmmm do people really use THIS SITE for dating too? I've never messed with internet dating preferring the whole live animal primal attraction thang. Do you smell nice and are fertile*? *Joke referencing my previous posts, no offense intended But alas... I have no biceps, tats or a truck, so I don't think I'm dateable material at this time. LOL I didn't even catch that. I promise I wasn't trying to be smooth or anything..I was serious.
RiverRunning Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Depends on your age range and what you want out of women. Have kids and looking to meet other single mothers? I would think joining a play group (I'm serious here) or mingling with other parents when you're picking up the kids from school/daycare would be a great starting point. Joining groups with hobbies that match yours isn't a bad idea. I live in an area where lots of folks are into home brewing beer and the like, and surprisingly there are many groups that are predominantly ruled by women. I also know of running groups, book clubs, board game clubs, etc., you name it. Try searching for a club of your interest in a specific area. Never know who and what you may find. I also think it's not a bad idea to have a party with friends. Ask your friends to bring along some people they know - and it's not always a bad idea to suggest that they invite some single ladies to the party. Broadening your circle can only help. And even if some of the singletons aren't up your alley, they may have friends they can continue adding to the group. Those are my suggestions. As for some of these other posts - guys seriously threatening you for talking to his girlfriend? Some serious security issues there, I would think. I admit that if a woman I felt was attractive were chatting up a boyfriend of mine, I'd feel a little threatened. But I'd simply go sit with my boyfriend, let him finish up the conversation, and say 'hi' to whoever and move on. I wouldn't resort to cattiness. If she persisted even after a boyfriend introduced me as a girlfriend, I'd get upset, but if she were coming up and flirting innocently by talking about a book or something? It's absurd to think that I would go ape**** on her. You take it as a compliment and you move on, in my opinion.
4givrnt4gtr Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Ill chime in this convo just because I am a single girl who so happens to hope to meet a good guy at....a coffee shop.... Yes...and I tell you why...In my mind (and the mind of the girls I know that do the same thing), a coffee shop is a much safer and neutral place to meet someone than a bar...or church or...you know anything that carries any connotation... So, my hope is that I may catch some cute guy eye and we strike up a conversation.....it helps if you can go to one specific place and become a regular.... I dont know, thats my hope anyway.... OOORR you can try your hand at online dating....to me though thats more like a pastime than actual hope to meet someone...though Ive heard stories about great guys and great gals using some of those online things so who knows.... My 2 cents for you 1
Emilia Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 but where is the BEST places? Widen your social circles, socialise more and meet women through friends.
xxoo Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 (edited) Do you talk to men in public? If so, have you noticed how most of the time it is just a few friendly phrases passed, but sometimes it develops into an interesting conversation with unexpected "small world" connections? I'm a woman, but a married one. I talk to people in my community all the time, casually, without expectation. Just relax, and talk to more people in general--men, women, pretty and not. Get comfortable just being social, and the unexpected connections will follow. Maybe you will connect with a 50 year old woman who just HAS to introduce you to her daughter, you know? Edited April 1, 2012 by xxoo
Author wwwjd Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 STILL nothing about the frozen foods section in the grocery store? Maybe that is no longer cool?? (bad pun, not really intended but sort of fit, so we'll go with it)
Author wwwjd Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 Issues much? Take it somewhere else, not to my thread, please.
KR10N Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I apologized to him, but it wasn't enough. He was still very angry so I ran out. He has the girl and I don't, so he's the better person.You think another man is better than you just because he has a woman? Or do you think he's better than you because he was brave enough to pursue the woman?
Feelsgoodman Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 While I am guilty of being one of those committed girls who goes to coffee shops alone, I would have to say that cafes/coffee shops really are a good place to strike up a low-key conversation. But only if they're reading, don't even try it if they look focused on a computer or they have a highlighter out, because those chicks are there to work. I can't tell you how many times over the years someone would try to strike up a conversation while I was knee-deep in research and how much I did not appreciate it. This is the aspect of female logic that I find particularly infuriating. Not only do they want you to do all the leg work, they also expect you to somehow figure out the PERFECT moment for approaching them. God forbid you try to strike up conversation when she's got her highlighter out!! That would be, like, the end of the world...LOL And then women complain that men don't approach them enough...Gee, I wonder why!
xxoo Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 STILL nothing about the frozen foods section in the grocery store? Maybe that is no longer cool?? (bad pun, not really intended but sort of fit, so we'll go with it) Not frozen foods. Frozen foods say frigid, inert, preserved. Produce, on the other hand, says ripe, juicy, fresh. Produce is where it's at
Badsingularity Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 One person gets it. Try figuring women out and understanding them instead of hating them. It will provide you with much better results.
Cracker Jack Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 It's never too late. That's just a BS excuse for someone too confined in their ways. 1
Cracker Jack Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I'm 24 and not where I want to be, but I know I'll never get anywhere hating women. Regardless if you're 36 or 46, you have a choice to improve yourself and get better (Yes, you actually can. I've seen it plenty of times. No lie) with women. Let's be real, you don't want to continue being bitter about women. You're only hurting yourself. That's not a healthy way to live life, dude. 1
Badsingularity Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 but I know I'll never get anywhere hating women. Exactly. It will only make you angrier and more bitter wich will actually make you less attractive. 1
Cracker Jack Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Certain ways? The "it" factor? Guess that explains why various women like various types of men, then? Man, you need to stop being online so much and open your eyes a bit more. I'm not even trying to be a smartass, but your self-limiting beliefs are holding you back for more than women are. Like, I said, I'm sure the 40 yr old guy who never had a girlfriend or kiss in his life originally believed he didn't have that "it" factor as well, but eventually he took a step-back and realized he had more control over his chances than he really thought. He eventually started dating and having sex with attractive women until he got himself a relationship. Look go of your bitterness and give yourself that "it" factor, since you're so convinced it's what determines which men have a chance with women or not. 1
KR10N Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 It is too late and you don't know what the hell you're talking about. Women expect men to be certain ways and expect men to have "it" whatever that means. I don't have that "it" factor so NOT MATTER WHAT I DO I'LL FAIL.I'm a woman and I don't even know what an "It" factor is. Maybe you hang around women that are eligible for Jersey Shore.
waiting4u Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 This is tough because I met my current boyfriend in a bar - but he works there. I've met a couple guys on online dating sites, but online dating is a pain in the butt imo. I met my ex-husband at a huge party that had bands, etc. I met a guy in a coffee shop once, one at a friend's party, one in a creative writing course I took, and my last long-term boyfriend worked with me. I don't recommend the last option if you have a contract at work. If you can easily change jobs if it comes to that, feel free to date coworkers. You will at least have stuff in common. But a hellish breakup means you are going to want OUT of that job asap - just something to keep in mind. Good luck! I know this probably doesn't help much, but once you learn to be in a really good relationship with yourself and don't exude that "looking for someone" vibe, that's when magic seems to happen. I feel like most of the guys I've dated over the years have turned up unexpectedly. Hang in there. 1
Author wwwjd Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 Thanks for trying to kill my thread with your issue, man. Learn self restraint and simply stay offline if you asked for your account to be removed. MEANWHILE: A sincere thank you to all the women that responded with actual feedback. Was interesting. Learned some, learned I already knew some. It's all good.
Author wwwjd Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 not sure how it is in other places, but gyms around here are way worse than bars. I've done a few "Free week or month" trials at a few.... girls look like hookers, guys look and act like brainless neanderthals... I guess that's just how it goes huh? I actually heard one guy walking around using the dumbless, lamest, most obvious lines on the planet like "come here often?" etc. The girls were shocked, annoyed and wanted to get back to exercising
SSexySSadie Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 not sure how it is in other places, but gyms around here are way worse than bars. I've done a few "Free week or month" trials at a few.... girls look like hookers, guys look and act like brainless neanderthals... I guess that's just how it goes huh? I actually heard one guy walking around using the dumbless, lamest, most obvious lines on the planet like "come here often?" etc. The girls were shocked, annoyed and wanted to get back to exercising The gym I go to isn't like that at all, it's a nice place. The men there are very sweet and so are the women, no lame lines just normal everyday people. I've yet to see any hookers...lol
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