SilverBlueAndGold Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Does anyone else deal with that awful feeling of being out and running into your ex and seeing her/him with someone else? I know it's just speculation and worrying about something that has not even happened is foolish, but I just cant shake this feeling. There are all sorts of scenarios that go through my head, and all of them involve seeing her with some guy that is in every way better than me and her having the time of her life
Nohbody Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 No one is better than anyone else. You have as much value (or as little - depending on your perspective) as anyone else. Work on appreciating your own value. And understand, it's the other person's loss. 1
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Oh yeah! Everyone I know dreads this. I just dread running into my ex completely. Alone or with a girl. One time I wanted to stop and get an iced tea at the gas station, I pulled in saw my ex at the pump and completely drove through like an idiot. If he had been with another girl I probably would have had a panic attack. Ridiculous He moved to Florida though, thank God. I know he saw me, and I feel like he maybe thought I was an idiot.. but whatever! Totally normal thing to dread! Haha 4
fucpcg Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I went to see a friend play indoor soccer, where my ex always plays. I went when my ex's soccer team wasn't playing, however she was there either hanging out, or she switched teams. I was a mess just knowing she was in the building. Increased heart rate, sweaty, nervous, panicky, just a mess. This is a year since the split. Whenever I run into the ex, I lose it, even apparently if she is just in the vicinity.
light_vader Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Does anyone else deal with that awful feeling of being out and running into your ex and seeing her/him with someone else? Try the awful feeling of running into her with her new bf every single day of existence, since the three of us work at the same company, and she's on the cubicle next to me. Why haven't I switched jobs? Financially I have some debts and will pay them before I get another job, even if I get paid less (which has been so far the common denominator for the jobs I've applied to). It's hard as being in hell. Somedays it's normal, some others it's painful. I know only I have the key to move on, but it's pretty though, specially since I loved her so much. Just last week she was talking to her mom on the cellphone and telling her about her moving out with him this week to a new place or something like that. Needless to say I DID NOT need to hear that at all. Like a friend of mine told me in a rude way, "That's what you get for sticking your penis in the payroll" Now are they having the time of their lives with the new lover (I'm talking about all of us here)? Probably, but in the end who cares.. the thing is are WE having the time of our lives? Unfortunately, it takes time.
blindesided Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Ouch light vader - that sounds terrible - I really feel for you. You sound like a strong guy - I am not sure I could handle that Personally I have fantasies sometimes about running into my ex (but only with someone better looking than him - lol) This actually happened to me once - my ex husband - (who cheated & left me) was out to dinner with his mom. Purely coincidence - I was on a date with a much younger - extremely fit & good looking guy. We walked into the same restuaruant & the look on my ex face was priceless!!! That was the best feeling in the world!! So I have fanatsies of running into my curent ex the same way (hmmm - I am still in contact with the young cute guy - maybe I can make that happen again)..kidding...I am thankful this new ex & I dont really run in the same circles 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Does anyone else deal with that awful feeling of being out and running into your ex and seeing her/him with someone else? I know it's just speculation and worrying about something that has not even happened is foolish, but I just cant shake this feeling. There are all sorts of scenarios that go through my head, and all of them involve seeing her with some guy that is in every way better than me and her having the time of her life I don't think I will ever run into him or his new g/f; he lives an hour away from me. But...I did have the wonderful privilege of seeing pictures of him and his new g/f all over Facebook. It opened the wound and I truly thought this woman was 'better' than I because she is tall, thin, blonde haired and blue eyed; well paid veterinarian, too. She is everything physically, anyway, he wanted in a girl. So you can imagine how it pained me to see them frolicking all over a lovely park. You can't unsee that crap. It hurts sometimes, but I KNOW she's not BETTER. He snagged her up very fast and was eager to show her off on Facebook--he normally is private, but he made this one particular set of photos public. I think he was trying to get to his ex wife...but he got to me instead. After that initial shock wears off, it's not that bad. We tend to create things in our minds that aren't there and will probably never happen. We make things worse than they really are. We are our own worst enemy. Hope you get to feeling better.
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