Hafer Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Long story short, this new girl in college acts very flirty with me (hugs, touching, steps into my personal space, initiates conversation....and also, she shows this kind of behaviour only with me, and Im not the only guy in class).......the thing is, she has a boyfriend (currently a LTR) and I quickly realized she was probably just looking for some attention and validation, so I was thinking about this 2 choices that I might take: 1) Stay away from her, cause I dont want to be the guy that gives her attention without anything in return, if you know what I mean. 2) Stay close as a friend of her`s The problem comes with option number 2. I want her to realize that my intention is to stay close in case she breaks up with her BF, I dont want to be friendzoned. So, what do you suggest to stay away from the dreaded friend zone?
somedude81 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Sounds like she's already thinking about breaking up with her BF. The best, and most likely only way to stay out of the friendzone is to make a move. In this situation it seems like she might go either way. If she rejects you, back off and post here. You'll be connected to a level 2 tech
betterdeal Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 (edited) 3) Flirt with her, enjoy it 4) Flirt with her, enjoy it, tell her you'd like to take it further 5) Flirt with her, enjoy it, tell her you'd like to take it further, but you don't want to step into anything 6) Flirt with her, enjoy it, tell her you'd like to take it further, but you don't want to step into anything, get back to me when you have sorted out the business of your LTR 7) Seduce her, have sex 8) Ignore her, go bone someone else There's loads of ways to avoid friend zoning yourself. They all involve risk. Edited March 31, 2012 by betterdeal
Dust Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Don't overthink this. Just ask her out she may be on the way out with her college bf.
RedRobin Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 9) Ask yourself if you would like her behaving like this while she is in a LTR with YOU... should you succeed in not being put in the friendzone. I've had guys do this with me who I later found out had girlfriends and they were permanently nixed from future consideration. I don't treat relationships like jobs... where I have to have a new job before I dump my old job. Oh... you could tell her that you are interested in her and would like to take her out if/when she becomes available. That would be appropriate...
prune juice Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Long story short, this new girl in college acts very flirty with me (hugs, touching, steps into my personal space, initiates conversation....and also, she shows this kind of behaviour only with me, and Im not the only guy in class).......the thing is, she has a boyfriend (currently a LTR) and I quickly realized she was probably just looking for some attention and validation, so I was thinking about this 2 choices that I might take: 1) Stay away from her, cause I dont want to be the guy that gives her attention without anything in return, if you know what I mean. 2) Stay close as a friend of her`s The problem comes with option number 2. I want her to realize that my intention is to stay close in case she breaks up with her BF, I dont want to be friendzoned. So, what do you suggest to stay away from the dreaded friend zone? she wants a backup in case she gets tired of her ltr boyfriend.
Author Hafer Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 This girl is hard to read, Im almost certainly sure that she is behaving like an attention whore and there is no real interest behind all this. As I could notice, she is the kind of girl who gets along better with guys than girls.
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