cflowers32 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 @ss. I texted him and then tried to call him. Lol!! I hate being like this. I know he's going out with this girl tonight. Grrrrr!!! I hope he tries to kiss her and she pushes him away... BewitchedandBothered, I know you want to give me a verbal (written anyway) ass whipping, so go for it. I am trying sooooooooooo hard. I went to the gym tonight after I did the dumb text and phone call, went tanning, grabbed a bottle of nice chardonnay, and well, here I am. I'm still shaking my head in disbelief that I took a couple months off from college to just chill and enjoy, have a mini break, and I'm dealing with this. Probably just as well, I don't think I'd want to come home after working all day, feeling the way I'm feeling and then have to sit here and study, and do homework. It's going to get better, this is going to get better...
robkris8079 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Text a friend, family member, write something out in the note pad of your phone and pretend to hit send! Hell you can even text me LOL! But there is no need to text the ex. It only hurts your progress. It will without a doubt get better. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 @ss. I texted him and then tried to call him. Lol!! I hate being like this. I know he's going out with this girl tonight. Grrrrr!!! I hope he tries to kiss her and she pushes him away... BewitchedandBothered, I know you want to give me a verbal (written anyway) ass whipping, so go for it. I am trying sooooooooooo hard. I went to the gym tonight after I did the dumb text and phone call, went tanning, grabbed a bottle of nice chardonnay, and well, here I am. I'm still shaking my head in disbelief that I took a couple months off from college to just chill and enjoy, have a mini break, and I'm dealing with this. Probably just as well, I don't think I'd want to come home after working all day, feeling the way I'm feeling and then have to sit here and study, and do homework. It's going to get better, this is going to get better... (rushing in...) Here I am ready to reach through the monitor to give you a good smack and to throw your phone into a port o potty!! He's out with someone; you know this. You sent him a text/tried to call? Don't be that girl. You owe it to yourself to keep your dignity and honor YOU. You know how crappy it feels after breaking NC. He is not going to come running with flowers, candy and a wandering minstrel. He is playing the field. What did I say about wanting a fellow who had his hand in another woman's cookie jar? Eww ewwww and triple Eewwwwww; time for you to become phobic and get'cho self an "Ex OFF spray". You have hurt yourself again and need to stop that. You are too lovely and kind, too attractive with a beautiful heart to waste it on someone who doesn't appreciate you for YOU. I was tempted a few times to text my ex while he may be on a date--which he probably is since he is in honeymoon stage, but...I WON'T BE THAT GIRL. I don't want him to roll his eyes and say "there goes my psycho ex texting me again" and then he ignores you. You know better;) Instead of reaching through the screen to toss your phone, I would reach through and give you a big hug. If I were there, I would say, lets go to a nice dinner and shop till we drop!!! YOU are worth all GOOD--not a part time thing with a fellow who ignores you. Got it?
Author cflowers32 Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 I'm doing all that. I am just really sucking right now. Hey, I could be sitting here texting him while he's on his date, but after that, that was it. I just need to keep moving forward. I'm doing the best I can. But thanks robkris, I know, I know, I know...
Author cflowers32 Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 (rushing in...) Here I am ready to reach through the monitor to give you a good smack and to throw your phone into a port o potty!! He's out with someone; you know this. You sent him a text/tried to call? Don't be that girl. You owe it to yourself to keep your dignity and honor YOU. You know how crappy it feels after breaking NC. He is not going to come running with flowers, candy and a wandering minstrel. He is playing the field. What did I say about wanting a fellow who had his hand in another woman's cookie jar? Eww ewwww and triple Eewwwwww; time for you to become phobic and get'cho self an "Ex OFF spray". You have hurt yourself again and need to stop that. You are too lovely and kind, too attractive with a beautiful heart to waste it on someone who doesn't appreciate you for YOU. I was tempted a few times to text my ex while he may be on a date--which he probably is since he is in honeymoon stage, but...I WON'T BE THAT GIRL. I don't want him to roll his eyes and say "there goes my psycho ex texting me again" and then he ignores you. You know better;) Instead of reaching through the screen to toss your phone, I would reach through and give you a big hug. If I were there, I would say, lets go to a nice dinner and shop till we drop!!! YOU are worth all GOOD--not a part time thing with a fellow who ignores you. Got it? Well then, where the F are you?? I know you're right, I know, I know, I know. But you know what?? BB, I have to come clean with you all so you can tell me these things. You know, when I was on the way to the gym I was thinking about how pathetic it is that he goes right out to the next person. Yet he loves me, misses me, and what does he do? Goes out with someone else to help cope with his feelings. I'M STRONGER THAN HE IS!!! I'm going to have my moments of failure, I know I am, but you know what? I am also empower myself and doing all the right things for me!! Part of me really wants to be at that point where I'm just so angry. I know that's what's coming next, and I'll be much more grateful to be there. I'd love to turn my b*tch-switch on. Thank you for the clobbering, I needed that. And though it really isn't going to stop me, I did turn my phone off, I am here posting, and I am trying to enjoy my evening. I'm trying... 1
budley12 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I forgot who it was but someone posted to "sell some things, grab some money, and travel the world". If you took a few months off and just find yourself at your place wishing for your ex back go travel the world! I would be doing the same, however taking off time from college is not a possibility for me, however I am studying abroad in New Zealand for 6months next year!
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Well then, where the F are you?? I know you're right, I know, I know, I know. But you know what?? BB, I have to come clean with you all so you can tell me these things. You know, when I was on the way to the gym I was thinking about how pathetic it is that he goes right out to the next person. Yet he loves me, misses me, and what does he do? Goes out with someone else to help cope with his feelings. I'M STRONGER THAN HE IS!!! I'm going to have my moments of failure, I know I am, but you know what? I am also empower myself and doing all the right things for me!! Part of me really wants to be at that point where I'm just so angry. I know that's what's coming next, and I'll be much more grateful to be there. I'd love to turn my b*tch-switch on. Thank you for the clobbering, I needed that. And though it really isn't going to stop me, I did turn my phone off, I am here posting, and I am trying to enjoy my evening. I'm trying... I remember being 17, my b/f dumped me but then wanted to see me a few months after. I was heartbroken for all those months, crying into my ice cream while my poor friend had to endure my whining, LOL!!! I whined about him all the time. The night he called, he said he wanted to see me, he missed me, etc. and knew I would be at my friend Judy's house. She and I were in her room and I was full of hope! He came back! He missed me and wanted to see me! I was horny!--you get the idea. Hey, i was 17, LOL As I was about to leave my friend's room, she slammed the door shut, and sat on a chair in front of it, trapping me inside while the ex kept honking for me. She was protecting me from going to him and making a fool of myself. I thought I would die not seeing him, LOL. She said 'he can wait; he made you wait all these months". I had no choice; I stood him up, trapped in my friend's room. I snuck out of my house the next night to meet him and regret it because he wasn't worth it. And that's how it is much of the time when we see them. We are like whiny 6 year olds wanting that candy, pestering our parents for it, and after hours of whining and pleading, we finally get the candy...but...it doesn't taste all that good and we didn't want it as much as we thought. This ex of yours did not hang the moon. He doesn't deserve you. I have found that people who race to the next person are too cowardly to face their own demons and heal. They are rebounding and using the person they are now with to kill time so they don't have to face their own sh*t. They use the newbie to block out whatever it is they should be facing and it never lasts. If it does last, it's tense because the newbie always picks up the vibe. Time will heal this mess. Do you really want this dolt in your life after all he put you through? He is like that candy you wanted so badly as a child, but once you finally got it, it wasn't all that. Don't let yourself call this boor. it's a waste of your precious time. 1
Author cflowers32 Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 I remember being 17, my b/f dumped me but then wanted to see me a few months after. I was heartbroken for all those months, crying into my ice cream while my poor friend had to endure my whining, LOL!!! I whined about him all the time. The night he called, he said he wanted to see me, he missed me, etc. and knew I would be at my friend Judy's house. She and I were in her room and I was full of hope! He came back! He missed me and wanted to see me! I was horny!--you get the idea. Hey, i was 17, LOL As I was about to leave my friend's room, she slammed the door shut, and sat on a chair in front of it, trapping me inside while the ex kept honking for me. She was protecting me from going to him and making a fool of myself. I thought I would die not seeing him, LOL. She said 'he can wait; he made you wait all these months". I had no choice; I stood him up, trapped in my friend's room. I snuck out of my house the next night to meet him and regret it because he wasn't worth it. And that's how it is much of the time when we see them. We are like whiny 6 year olds wanting that candy, pestering our parents for it, and after hours of whining and pleading, we finally get the candy...but...it doesn't taste all that good and we didn't want it as much as we thought. This ex of yours did not hang the moon. He doesn't deserve you. I have found that people who race to the next person are too cowardly to face their own demons and heal. They are rebounding and using the person they are now with to kill time so they don't have to face their own sh*t. They use the newbie to block out whatever it is they should be facing and it never lasts. If it does last, it's tense because the newbie always picks up the vibe. Time will heal this mess. Do you really want this dolt in your life after all he put you through? He is like that candy you wanted so badly as a child, but once you finally got it, it wasn't all that. Don't let yourself call this boor. it's a waste of your precious time. Uh HUH!!! You know, I know you're right. All those movies you see??? What a farce, and they are. He lives there. The grass is greener... I really, really, really appreciate your brutality, because right now, I need someone like you to kick it to me. Now, don't get me wrong, I know I'm going to have my moments, please be kind, but I like that you're helping me get to the "angry" part that I really would rather be. Thank you. 1
jennisfora Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 just wanted to say Caitlin, I feel better today. And, total NC for a week if i don't reach out before midnight. It has felt like withdrawals, i would imagine feel. it's been brutal, but i feel better today. Just wanted you to know that you will get there. I actually think LC is harder on you than NC. Less chance of getting false hope certainly. You are strong. *hugs* 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Uh HUH!!! You know, I know you're right. All those movies you see??? What a farce, and they are. He lives there. The grass is greener... I really, really, really appreciate your brutality, because right now, I need someone like you to kick it to me. Now, don't get me wrong, I know I'm going to have my moments, please be kind, but I like that you're helping me get to the "angry" part that I really would rather be. Thank you. The grass looks greener but there is crabgrass and grubs just like everywhere else. I give tough love because I have been there and it's upsetting to see good, genuine people get hurt.--and I have been there and it sucks when it looks like they get away with hurting us. You should be angry at this fool for making you waste your time on the likes of him. You will have your moments; it's still fresh for you, but...try to keep a clear head. You have to let yourself heal and calling him sets you back. 1
blindesided Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 @ss. I texted him and then tried to call him. Lol!! I hate being like this. I know he's going out with this girl tonight. Grrrrr!!! I hope he tries to kiss her and she pushes him away... BewitchedandBothered, I know you want to give me a verbal (written anyway) ass whipping, so go for it. I am trying sooooooooooo hard. I went to the gym tonight after I did the dumb text and phone call, went tanning, grabbed a bottle of nice chardonnay, and well, here I am. I'm still shaking my head in disbelief that I took a couple months off from college to just chill and enjoy, have a mini break, and I'm dealing with this. Probably just as well, I don't think I'd want to come home after working all day, feeling the way I'm feeling and then have to sit here and study, and do homework. It's going to get better, this is going to get better... Our stories just keep getting more similar as time goes by - I know my ex is dating - he told me a couple of weeks ago. Last night I saw him - I think I said before - we had a concert to go to - It was a bit awkward but not so bad- but I stated before too - we always got along great - so we go to the show & I am fully prepared to have "the talk" about how I cant be his friend & need time blah blah blah. (my plan was after the concert) Well he had too much to drink & was in no condition to "talk" - But while he was in the bathroom - I did something horrible - which I never was the type of person to do.....I checked his text messages - it was quick & I saw a couple between him & the new girl - typical new relationship stuff - "cant wait to see you..." I left right after that & gave him quick hug & thanked him for the show. I can say that I wish I never wouldve seen that - ignorance is bliss. That is where I think the NC will be awesome - I can pretend in another week or so that they broke up & he is miserable. I do wish I wouldve gotten to speak to him in person about taking time and not seeing or communicating with each other. Now I'm afraid I will have to do it by e-mail - I know he will try to contact me in some shape or form in the next week or so - since he still thinks we are "friends" & I know I'm going to get blasted too by BB - lol about the contact - but it truly isnt in my nature just to ignore if he texts or e-mails. Once I get this last thing off my chest - there will be no more repsonses. I can say that for certain. And if buy chance & he doesnt try to contact me - well then so be it - I wont need to send an e-mail - I truly know NC has helped me - I did take a few steps back since seeing him - but I had prepared myself for that because I knew it was coming. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Our stories just keep getting more similar as time goes by - I know my ex is dating - he told me a couple of weeks ago. Last night I saw him - I think I said before - we had a concert to go to - It was a bit awkward but not so bad- but I stated before too - we always got along great - so we go to the show & I am fully prepared to have "the talk" about how I cant be his friend & need time blah blah blah. (my plan was after the concert) Well he had too much to drink & was in no condition to "talk" - But while he was in the bathroom - I did something horrible - which I never was the type of person to do.....I checked his text messages - it was quick & I saw a couple between him & the new girl - typical new relationship stuff - "cant wait to see you..." I left right after that & gave him quick hug & thanked him for the show. I can say that I wish I never wouldve seen that - ignorance is bliss. That is where I think the NC will be awesome - I can pretend in another week or so that they broke up & he is miserable. I do wish I wouldve gotten to speak to him in person about taking time and not seeing or communicating with each other. Now I'm afraid I will have to do it by e-mail - I know he will try to contact me in some shape or form in the next week or so - since he still thinks we are "friends" & I know I'm going to get blasted too by BB - lol about the contact - but it truly isnt in my nature just to ignore if he texts or e-mails. Once I get this last thing off my chest - there will be no more repsonses. I can say that for certain. And if buy chance & he doesnt try to contact me - well then so be it - I wont need to send an e-mail - I truly know NC has helped me - I did take a few steps back since seeing him - but I had prepared myself for that because I knew it was coming. Grrrrrrrr!!! No need to email to let him know about NC...After seeing the texts, just go NC. He can't expect you to be friends; it would be selfish of him. You can't be friends until he is out of your system and the thought of him with someone doesn't affect you in any way. Besides, that new girl got your old toy, LOL. You had him first, LOL!!! It's not in my nature to ignore,either, but you have to in this case for you to heal. No more concerts, either. I wonder if the new girl knows you two were out together.
blindesided Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Trust me - no more concerts or events! That one was planned a long time ago & I fully prepared myself for it. It wasnt as bad as I thought seeing him - it had been 2 weeks since the last time I saw him so I get the value of NC - I already distanced myself a bit form him. Once we got into the show - I kind of did my own thing. I did wonder if the new girl knew he went to the show with me - I didnt care to ask & she might have since they have only been dating a couple of weeks - I would hope she doesnt have thougths of being exclusive - but thats her problem - not mine. As far as the e-mail - I think for me if he does try to get in touch with me - I think its easier to stop the communication after one e-mail rather than have him keep trying to contact with me if I dont respond. If I dont repsond - I am sure he will keep trying at least for a bit - I think that might be worse everytime I open my e-mail or see a text from him or wondering if I will - At least if I state my postion - I can nip all that in the bud & be done once & for all.
goldengirl11 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 (edited) Well then, where the F are you?? I know you're right, I know, I know, I know. But you know what?? BB, I have to come clean with you all so you can tell me these things. You know, when I was on the way to the gym I was thinking about how pathetic it is that he goes right out to the next person. Yet he loves me, misses me, and what does he do? Goes out with someone else to help cope with his feelings. I'M STRONGER THAN HE IS!!! I'm going to have my moments of failure, I know I am, but you know what? I am also empower myself and doing all the right things for me!! Part of me really wants to be at that point where I'm just so angry. I know that's what's coming next, and I'll be much more grateful to be there. I'd love to turn my b*tch-switch on. Thank you for the clobbering, I needed that. And though it really isn't going to stop me, I did turn my phone off, I am here posting, and I am trying to enjoy my evening. I'm trying... Sorry if I seem to be interrupting but how did you mean it really isn't going to stop you? Had just read this thread for the first time. Edited March 31, 2012 by goldengirl11
Author cflowers32 Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 Sorry if I seem to be interrupting but how did you mean it really isn't going to stop you? Had just read this thread for the first time. Because I could always turn my phone back on, but if I leave it off, I have no reason to "wait" for the phone to ring, or hope for a text.
Phanpooh Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 did you know my story? that will make you be stronger ^-^ stop bother him, face with it, he gone.... and tell me, he told you he loved you and cause of bla bla bla stupid reason, he let you r alone... hurt... sad... angry... crazy... depressed... let your life went and goes and going on down... in fact, he dun care about you! at your first time you saw him, did he act like this way? seriously, everyone have to live their own life, do their own things... all you could tell him now: he must take care of himself and then, come back to your life!!!!! he left you for a reason, i dun care who was wrong in your story but deal with it, if you were better, he is still there, if you r the best, he will follow you! i dun know you could understand my words, listen to it or not... but i want to turn your deeper person, your confident, your self-respect and get out of the game. you need to refocus on your life. if you guys r mean to be, he will back ( in fact, this is a lie XD but we need to believe it now) try to be better, do the best thing, everyone has their own story to speak but if your life is gonna down as suck as he guessed, you really are? come on, live your own life, we r all with you ( another lie ) if you want to call him, or text him again, come back here, come back to your shoulders to cry, or family, or BBF or somethings... GOODLUCK ^_^ and peace! im so sorry cause make you angry 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 If it was true love, he wouldn't have left in the first place. and if he came back...would you really want him back after putting you through all of that? Pooh is correct.
Author cflowers32 Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 did you know my story? that will make you be stronger ^-^ stop bother him, face with it, he gone.... and tell me, he told you he loved you and cause of bla bla bla stupid reason, he let you r alone... hurt... sad... angry... crazy... depressed... let your life went and goes and going on down... in fact, he dun care about you! at your first time you saw him, did he act like this way? seriously, everyone have to live their own life, do their own things... all you could tell him now: he must take care of himself and then, come back to your life!!!!! he left you for a reason, i dun care who was wrong in your story but deal with it, if you were better, he is still there, if you r the best, he will follow you! i dun know you could understand my words, listen to it or not... but i want to turn your deeper person, your confident, your self-respect and get out of the game. you need to refocus on your life. if you guys r mean to be, he will back ( in fact, this is a lie XD but we need to believe it now) try to be better, do the best thing, everyone has their own story to speak but if your life is gonna down as suck as he guessed, you really are? come on, live your own life, we r all with you ( another lie ) if you want to call him, or text him again, come back here, come back to your shoulders to cry, or family, or BBF or somethings... GOODLUCK ^_^ and peace! im so sorry cause make you angry I think I get what you're saying, however, I know I'm worthy, I do not have self esteem issues, if anything, I have right now have "Love is dumb, blind and stupid" issues. B&B is brutally honest, I appreciate her points, however, I don't feel bad about myself, in fact, in all of this I have made every step to empower myself. I joined a gym, have spent more time with my friends, I haven't been sitting around the house crying, for that matter, hardly at all. Everyone's experience is different, this is my journey, but I can tell you, I do not DISLIKE myself because of this. It is nothing that I did wrong, he needed something else, I actually understand it, but I don't have to like it. 1
Phanpooh Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Try some book, just like hmmm..." Devil wear Pravda"or "ps:I love you" It will deal with your Time and sth 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Try some book, just like hmmm..." Devil wear Pravda"or "ps:I love you" It will deal with your Time and sth You must see "Ghosts of Ex Girlfriends Past":) or classic old movies; there is a Doris Day theme this week and I have it set to record all of her happy movies--not the drama ones:)
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I think I get what you're saying, however, I know I'm worthy, I do not have self esteem issues, if anything, I have right now have "Love is dumb, blind and stupid" issues. B&B is brutally honest, I appreciate her points, however, I don't feel bad about myself, in fact, in all of this I have made every step to empower myself. I joined a gym, have spent more time with my friends, I haven't been sitting around the house crying, for that matter, hardly at all. Everyone's experience is different, this is my journey, but I can tell you, I do not DISLIKE myself because of this. It is nothing that I did wrong, he needed something else, I actually understand it, but I don't have to like it. I so admire you; I hated myself for awhile for staying with my louse of an ex--if I stayed, I feel my life would have been ruined, so, had to cut myself some slack. Back to feeling some love for myself again. Proud you are at the gym, too. I made a lot of new friends since joining back in October. The ladies are fun and encouraging. (only my trainer knows what happened and she is a very wise lady). going to try Rock Climbing after Easter--the gym is working with another gym to set it up. I am petrified of heights...so I am doing it;) Try something new==I think it will help shake the stank off from our exes.
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