kwaka Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I've met a girl that had some problems with depression in the past. She had to stop working for ten months because of it. About a year ago, she starting working again. She isn't really back to 100% but she is working now. She doesn't meet a lot of her friends yet. She likes to stay home a lot. I've been on a few dates with her and have known her for awhile. We have kissed and like to hold hands. But the problem that I'm facing is that she has told me that she is not ready for a relationship right now. That she is not yet 100% healed. It seems like she is interested in me and she says she needs some time before she can start dating someone. She says she feels stressed when she tells me that she can't meet me on a certain day. We talk a lot everyday and I really like this girl. My problem is what i should do from here on out. Do I stop trying to pursue her? Do I wait it out and be her friend in the meantime?
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Stop trying to pursue her. She doesn't want a relationship. It's that simple. You just have to let logic take over and move on.
ThaWholigan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Give her time and space while she gets her head right. If she's not ready, not much you can do. Be cool though, don't cut her off completely if you still value her company regardless, I would just take it easy.
Author kwaka Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 She says when she is healed up, she would be interested in having one. Until she is, she says she wants to get to know me better
Author kwaka Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 We chat everyday. Do i stop chatting with her? Do i continue to chat with her? She knows I really like her. She just feels bad when she wants to stay home and can not meet me.
ThaWholigan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 We chat everyday. Do i stop chatting with her? Do i continue to chat with her? She knows I really like her. She just feels bad when she wants to stay home and can not meet me. If you value each others company then continue talking, but try to keep things on an even keel and don't develop too deep an emotional investment unless you are prepared for an outcome that doesn't end in you two having a relationship, otherwise it may backfire for both of you, and it may get a little too emotional.
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