Moonrat Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 Okay to give some brief background. My ex gf and I went through a mutual breakup in August last year. We were both agreed that the relationship had no future due to family and cultural differences. It was a very sad and emotional time for both of us, we made promises to stay close friends, but as ever that has turned out to be much harder than I ever imagined. Anyhow she found someone new just a couple of months later and she told me. I was a bit suprised as to how soon it was but I wished her well. Since then we only occasionally contact one another (and even then its only by text message, not call or email), but even that is rare, and its only to say hello how are you etc The strange thing is that we have not really communicated for months now. The other day, out of the blue, she just signed onto msn messenger. I was suprised to see her online because she rarely does so I opened up a chat window (but later decided not to type anything). I noticed she had a picture of a cat. I then closed the chat window. Then only a couple of minutes later, she said "hello how are you" but this time her picture had changed to one with her new bf (hugging one another and looking really happy). That suprised me because she had obviously just changed her pic before contacting me and she obviously wanted me to see it. I would like some suggestions as to what she is playing at, if anything. Though I am sure this isnt some accident or mistake on my part, she defintely changed her pic just before talking to me. Is she trying to make me jealous?.... if so, why? I have told her that I am happy for her and her new bf. Did she want to judge my reaction to seeing the picture? or is she just playing stupid games? Any suggestions as to this behaviour? Is this the type of thing females normally do? Any suggestions would be helpful because I have no clue.
Shasta Posted June 15, 2004 Posted June 15, 2004 Is she trying to make me jealous?.... if so, why? Hmm, good question. Probably, but I can't really tell for sure. I have this feeling though that she did want you to see it. Is this the type of thing females normally do? Some females do, and some don't. She might have wanted to stir up some trouble with you, or show you what your "missing". Don't sweat it. Just shrug it off and let it go.
KiKi8159 Posted June 20, 2004 Posted June 20, 2004 If she did do it on purpose, she might be insecure. In which a lot of girls are. She want's you to feel bad. So she will feel better. She maybee might still have feelings for you. And wanted to see how you would react to that. There are a lot of things it could be. Maybee you should talk to her.
Caveman Posted June 20, 2004 Posted June 20, 2004 all chicks are insane...i believe their mission in life is make every guy insane as well (or just crush his spirit)...I wish I was gay...life would be so much easier!
Kanuk Posted June 20, 2004 Posted June 20, 2004 I wouldn't put too much stock in it. Messenger can be set up to pick a picture at random from a directory every time you start it up. My friends have it set up that way but i'll be damned if i can figure it out. May be a plug in. So yeah, it's quite possible that the computer randomly picked that file for her after you shut down the chat window.
gobain Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 She might have put the picture on there to let you know that, while she was saying hello and wanting to talk to you, she is happy in her current realtionship and doesn't want you to take her contact as an overture of wanting to see you again. Maybe, just maybe, she was taking pains to not lead you on. You've had little contact since August - maybe she's trying to be friendly while still being clear that she is with someone else now. I'm a woman so I know how insane we can be. But you guys can be pretty dumb sometimes to.
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