BetheButterfly Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Hello, Just curious what are people's purposes in life, and how does dating fit into one's purpose? For example, if your purpose in life is to help others. How does dating help with that? Are you looking for a mate in order to share with you life and strive to fulfill your purpose together with her or him? What is your purpose in life and how does dating add to that? What is the conclusion you hope for with your purpose(s) in life + dating? Thanks
brokenTom Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 My purpose in life is to simply be happy and a positive constructive force in the world. An ideal person to date would help me achieve this, and I would help them achieve their goals or purpose in life. Our goals don't always need to match, but our respect and support for one another does.
ditzchic Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I feel my purpose in life is to be a positive influence in people's lives and to help people achieve things they thought they never could. I think a mate fits into this by helping me keep a balance. I can get too thrown into my "purpose". The ideal guy for me to date would be a bit more laid back than I and help me keep my feet on the ground. He doesn't need to feel he's serving the same purpose but I need someone that understands and respects my dreams, my goals and someone I can feel the same way about their perceived purpose.
AIDsFan1488 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 My goal in life is to ranch. Ride everywhere on horseback, have a close knit warm family, and live in a quiet peaceful simple place full of people just like me. In other words, dating women does not realistically factor into this. Women are all in the rat-race, and thoroughly enjoy getting into pissing contests about whose got the newest car or most stories on their house. Materialism is effeminate.
brokenTom Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Women are all in the rat-race There are plenty of women interested in ranching and having a close warm family
Teal Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Dating really doesn't fit into my purpose(s) in life, which meant I needed to find a no-nonsense man or woman who didn't want to prioritize settling down and starting a big family. I really don't have the time or interest for either, especially because I'd rather take care of the people who already exist in this world than create several brand new people to run myself ragged taking care of. Just someone to come home to, love, and be a part of a safe, happy foundation. I doubt I can make a living off of it (it will probably be through volunteer opportunities and unpaid positions), but I want to work with troubled youth as well as local wildlife and environmental causes - the sane kind, not the PETA kind. I also love my field of study, though it's not going to "do good" for people.
AIDsFan1488 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 There are plenty of women interested in ranching and having a close warm family I have a check in my hand, written to brokenTom, for 300 billion dollars and all I need to do is sign it. If you can find me a woman like the one I described, who is atleast average looking and finds me attractive as well, this check is yours. Until you do however, put a sock in your mouth and a zuccini up your ass , you don't know dick.
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I have a check in my hand, written to brokenTom, for 300 billion dollars and all I need to do is sign it. If you can find me a woman like the one I described, who is atleast average looking and finds me attractive as well, this check is yours. Until you do however, put a sock in your mouth and a zuccini up your ass , you don't know dick. I think a lot of women are in the rat race but so are men. The truth is there are women like the one you describe. You can't be so angry with yourself.
udolipixie Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 My purpose in life is have fun, remain happy, get my PhD, own another home in another country, and start my family that will travel the world. Keyword my as in my children and myself. Dating fits into this purpose as something for me to amuse/entertain myself with. Dating's about fun to me enjoying as many hotties as I want. The conclusion I hope for my purpose in life is to have fun, be happy, finish my education, own what I want, and have my family. The conclusion I hope for my purpose in dating is to have amusing and entertaining experiences.
brokenTom Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 you don't know dick. You are right, I shouldn't have jumped to conclusions. I assumed by a family you meant with a women. My bad... 1
gaius Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 It's the whole purpose of life, finding a partner and having sex with them. Everything else is in support of that goal. A family member of mine just got diagnosed with prostate cancer and is declining treatment because it would render him unable to have an erection. I have to say I'd probably make the same choice if I were him.
Ross MwcFan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I have a strong purpose in life, and that's just to enjoy it with no ambition, as you only get one. 1
AIDsFan1488 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 You are right, I shouldn't have jumped to conclusions. I assumed by a family you meant with a women. My bad... Good one, you're a regular Seinfeld, brokenTom. The offer stays on the table, 300 billion in exchange for you finding a woman that meets the criteria I offered.
AIDsFan1488 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I have a strong purpose in life, and that's just to enjoy it with no ambition, as you only get one. Any time you hear a woman say she loves "ambition" in a man, write her off and despise her. Ambition is just womanese for power-hunger and greed.
ThaWholigan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 My soul purpose in life would be to create, to inspire and to heal. I feel that would entail changing the world in some way so I guess that I have my work cut out . My personal purpose would be to make music, live comfortably, and enable others to live to the same standard that I would wish to live for myself. I suppose that dating would kind of figure in, considering that I could end up being a music star (as is being touted by people as recently as today), I figure that will probably make dating easier for me. I would like to have kids though, as I love kids, so I think a spouse will benefit me more than a vibrant dating life. I have to say that I would describe myself as monogamous so I'd be quite selective about who I date.
Jane2011 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 (edited) I feel like my purpose in life is to be a positive, contributing member of society and also to have a positive effect on people in my life. I'm not out to change the world in any way (never have been), but I do want to add to general goodness in the world by lifting up the spirits of my friends and family. I feel like I fulfill the "contributing member of society" thing because I'm a teacher. It's not a glamorous job at all, but I feel good about being in a profession which lets me look at myself in the mirror and sleep at night, and about being one spoke in the wheel of what helps people achieve their goals. I also feel that my job allows for automatic connections with other people (I'm not isolated.); even when I feel like I'm just not doing anything in the world, students think differently. I also have no desire to make money, so that's why I enjoy teaching, lol. Dating, to me, is just something that makes me happy on a personal level. I don't think I absolutely need a romantic partner, though. I can see myself getting lonely if I go for too long without one, but I try to keep things in perspective that family, friends, my job, and just the pleasures of life (food, nature, beautiful music, etc.) are very fulfilling as well. I am trying to have the attitude, in future dating situations, to not have expectations. I think we all tend to put too much of that on the people we date. We're all going to die anyway; why hound someone for commitment and a ring on your finger? Why worry too much about how you compare to your SO's ex, etc., etc.? Why worry about if you've had too many sex partners? Why be insecure? Why be envious and have ill feelings? We're all going to die anyway? (that's not really my attitude all the time, but sometimes I think that way) Edited March 31, 2012 by Jane2011
Eclypse Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 My goal in life is to be well off, live comfortably, and drive a classic American muscle car. My partner wants the same. 1
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