Spartannation Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 We have been dating for a year and a half. Weird relationship. She stopped talking to me. For 7 days nothing. I wrote a five Page letter saying how I feel about her and ect. This addressed meeting her parents, older kid, how i felt about her, what i thought about myself, some regrets, just what i was feeling. How i wanted the package deal in my life (her and the kids). I laid it all on the table. I texted her to check these fake mailboxes where I put it. The next day I get this text saying my letter is amazing, I love, miss you. She said her ex husband threatened to hurt me (he's a cheater/controlling and really nasty) so she backed off. Her younger kid is really sick ( he has rsv and gets sick a lot). Then her sister (high school) said on One of the days she was raped by the neighbor. Her dad had a heart attack following. I've never met her family, just her younger kid. I was planning to meet the older daughter and family soon. She was ready before and I held back a little. Our relationship was *basically a secret on both sides. Her ex-husband knew though. I comforted her that night. Just texts. I offered to be there. She went silent for two days. Texted me one. Silent one. Texted. Silent two. Texted. Silent one. Texted. I walked around Walmart with her that day for my lunch. We hugged. Texted the next. Silent one day. I sent a text about seeing her on st. Patty's day. Then silent all day till around 6pm and I got this "Sorry I've got too much going on right now. Your cute though. Smile face. Ill try to text you tommorow. Back at hospital and I can't be on my phone sorry. Have a good night". maybe that was her trying to say she cant handle us right now? Idk Then she hasn't texted since. The days when she texted we texted back and forth for about 2 hrs each time. She went into great details about her sisters investigation, how her parents are doing, ect. She told me she loves me. Misses me. I have usually only been texting a have a good day and have a good night message with some jokes, reasons why I love her, comforting things, ect everyday. I was worried maybe she might want me to not text but she texted your texts make me smile and I love them in response. She even had a rant about the guy that messed with her sister. Doesn't anyone respect relationships anymore( he was married). She know s I'm different. You should see the messages and poems I send and write her just to let her know I'm there, ect. It's like I'm the perfect boyfriend lol! Im not i sometime get emotional but not angry. I would go to apartment but she hasn't been there basically the whole time. She goes there once and a while. She has been at her parents(idk where it is). She was at her apt a couple of days ago. It's right by my house. She wasn't there at 10pm when I came home. It was there to my shock at 7:20 am when I went to work. Then I drove by on my way to a job at 11:30am. It was still there. But when I came home for lunch 1pm she was gone. I was going to knock. I thought maybe she moved out before that. I really don't think she has. I'll find out in a couple days for sure. 1st of April. *I've said if you don't want to be with me or if you want me to stop texting I will and it will be over. Just say your done. I said that when she first went silent. I've said it also again. She never answered. I told her i won't leave her and I'll be here when she's ready when she started text again. Anyway it's been 14 days of silence since the her last text. 5 days for me. I basically told her take time and be with your family and i be here if you need me. I don't want her think I gave up on her in her time of need. I told her I was going to back off but im here and ready to listen. I said I love her and she can have all the time she needs. Idk what do you guys think I should do? I just want advice. She knows it bugs me when she doesn't text at all, but I guarantee you she is super depressed. Help! I thought maybe she went back to her ex. Especially when she first went silent. She said nothing was going on. but why keep an apartment for so long (2 months) if she is back with her ex? It's out of lease. Idk she likes to go in a cave when* Bad stuff happened in the past. Obviously not like this. I have always been behind kids, family, friends in the relationship.
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