heatherfeather Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 The ex and i have had limited contact for over a week now. He texted me last night a few times while I was out. The first one said, Hey you can come over and get your stuff anytime.... I said okay prob next week since I am pretty busy with soft ball etc. He said okay...Since I was out drinking with some of my friends I ended up drunk dialing him. I know I know We had an awesome conversation from what I remember... I then get a text prob 30 mins later that says... " I want to make love to you" Ummmm he is messin with my mind. I said I am busy lol
Author heatherfeather Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 question is ....is there a difference between I want tomake love to you vs Iwant to **** you? This is all from the man that said to me I love you but not sure I am in love with you. He sure does like to throw the L word around..
robkris8079 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 If that's all he is missing from your relationship then forget about him. While I do think of the intimate times I'm missing out with my ex it is about 1/100 things I think of. Or maybe even less as the intimate times wasn't just the love making it was the laying pressed up against each other naked for hours, feeling her heart pounding, then getting slower and slower as her body came to a rest then waking up in the same position. Also when I think of those intimate times I realize I'm not with her anymore and she is doing those things with someone else. That really snaps me back to reality. Doesn't make me sad really, makes me think oh man I need to get out there and live my life. I think he is trying to turn this into a friends with benefits situation or just one last ego boost bang.
january2011 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Very simplistic but my way of distinguishing it is that the former is mostly, if not all, about giving and satisfying the needs of your partner and the latter is mostly, if not all, about taking and satisfying your own needs. In your situation, yes he is messing with your mind, especially if he was the dumper. NC, block and delete. You really don't need that kind of nonsense disrupting your mindspace.
wilsonx Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) yes, there is a HUGE difference between, "I want to make love to you" and "I want to F*** you" He's in GIGS, hes not playing mind games, you like a lot of people on the forum dont understand and see the "More than Black and White" outside the box view of what he's saying. Edited March 30, 2012 by wilsonx 1
robkris8079 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 yes, there is a HUGE difference between, "I want to make love to you" and "I want to F*** you" He's in GIGS, hes not playing mind games, you like a lot of people on the forum dont understand and see the "More than Black and White" outside the box view. while I agree with you and there is a total difference in a situation where you are broken up the difference is just as you say "more then black and white". First why would you want to make love to someone you were broken up with? If it's because you still have feelings then why not rekindle the relationship before the love making step? Unless some thing this is how to start the relationship back up? 1
Author heatherfeather Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 while I agree with you and there is a total difference in a situation where you are broken up the difference is just as you say "more then black and white". First why would you want to make love to someone you were broken up with? If it's because you still have feelings then why not rekindle the relationship before the love making step? Unless some thing this is how to start the relationship back up? I agree why would he say "I want to make love to you" He broke it off with me, is he thinking of me being out and enjoying myself instead of him thinking I am crying in my room for him? I am still trying to get the entire GIGS thing... maybe my grass is greener now lol since he hasn't been ****ing on it.
wilsonx Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 while I agree with you and there is a total difference in a situation where you are broken up the difference is just as you say "more then black and white". First why would you want to make love to someone you were broken up with? If it's because you still have feelings then why not rekindle the relationship before the love making step? Unless some thing this is how to start the relationship back up? You can make love while not being in a relationship. Who says anything about rekindling the relationship or starting a new one.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 The ex and i have had limited contact for over a week now. He texted me last night a few times while I was out. The first one said, Hey you can come over and get your stuff anytime.... I said okay prob next week since I am pretty busy with soft ball etc. He said okay...Since I was out drinking with some of my friends I ended up drunk dialing him. I know I know We had an awesome conversation from what I remember... I then get a text prob 30 mins later that says... " I want to make love to you" Ummmm he is messin with my mind. I said I am busy lol Maybe he was drunk when he said that. He probably was legitimately missing you and meant it at the time. Mark my words if you call him on a tuesday afternoon, he probably will answer all your texts with 'k'.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 31, 2012 Author Posted March 31, 2012 Actually we ended up seeing each other after I got off of work last night. He agreeded to go out on the town and have some fun with me tonight. Also possible plans to go shoot things and fishing is in our future. He did sent me a text this morning that said "I had alot of fun with you last night, thank you for comin over" So thinking he is a GIGS and maybe has finally realized what he gave up. He needed time to think and so did I. Little does he know that I am playing the field and kinda seeing someone else as well, just not seriously
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