BeyondtheClouds Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) What I have noticed with my bf is that he doesn't put a lot of effort into making and maintaining friendships. We're both expats in the same city. It appears that he has a fair few friends from his hometown. But after being here for 3 years, he doesn't have much to show for it. This is a trend that I want to explore because 1. Our getting together at first was marred by the fact that he got sucked into a quasi friendship and dating relationship with another woman. I think one flaw of a lot of men these days is that they "outsource" their social life to one or two women who then, either explicitly or implicitly, let know them who they can be friends with. And some men will prefer the shelter of a ready made social life over the ability to pick and choose their own friends - dating partner. 2. It may be that you men don't understand what's going on. I once mentioned that our calendar was full for the next month with outings that we were invited....to which he responded: but they're your friends. A lot of nerve coming from someone who just a few months before allowed another woman (with a boyfriend, no less) to tell him who he can be friends with. Perhaps, someone can enlighten me on this. Or perhaps, just confirm your own experience, no matter which side of the equation that you were on...... Edited March 30, 2012 by BeyondtheClouds
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