cflowers32 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) He emailed me. Mind you it was about a bill that got sent to his house. For the record, I moved about two months ago, and most of my stuff/bills I do online anyway, and I just hadn't gotten around to changing anything, because, well, I didn't think we were going to break up. None of my bank statements get mailed any more though, my credit card bill, same thing, but he got something form my bank. He emailed me yesterday morning about it, I told him "just throw it away, I don't need it, if you get anything from my school though, Sally Mae, or whatever, let me know." I have a refund coming and I do not feel like screwing with it, I'd like my check to come without any f-ups, then I'll change it. So last night he says he felt it looked important, scanned the document and emailed it to me... HIM: "Hi- I know you said to rip it up but like I said it looked important. Here is what was in the letter. It's hard not texting you or talking to you. I miss you..." ME: "I already knew about that, I do all of my banking online. Please just throw my stuff out. Only if it's Sally Mae, or my school. I'm going to wait a little longer before I change my financial information with both institutions because I don't want to screw up any refund that may be coming. I really wish you weren't doing this. It is killing me. I have so much to say, so much I want to tell you and I can't. You have no idea..." HIM: "Well you never get bank mail, and it didn't look like JUNK mail.....that's why I had to look. I hope you don't mind. (....I have some idea. Did you get a wipe board? I was at Target today and thought of you and wondered if you got one. I wanted to buy it for you...." ME: "If you want to take care of me, why don't you just do it? Like I said, I have a lot to say, I'm overwhelmed, I am hopeful, I wanted more, I wasn't done." That was it.... Why Wayne????? Why are you doing this??? Ugh!!! Anyway, I am trying not to go there, he texted me the night before too about a book I was letting him use for studying and the ONLY thing I wrote back was "keep it". I am trying, and last night I just laid there all night, my head going on, and on, and on.... I didn't sleep well and you'd think after a good "beating" at the gym I would have at least drifted off... I don't know why?? I still wish he wasn't doing this. I can't wait for this day to be over. I'm going back to the gym and then I think I'm going over to a friends house for a bit. I MIGHT have a job interview tomorrow, so I'm still moving forward. God I miss him. Edited March 30, 2012 by cflowers32
robkris8079 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I went to pay a bill this morning and it says it was paid already. It was one my ex use to have automatically deducted from her account. I took her off of it right after the breakup but I guess the change doesn't happen until the following month so she was charged. This was over a week ago so hopefully she noticed and just didn't say anything. Bills are the last thing I want to discuss with my now ex. Just reminds me of us being together. Sorry you have been brought back into some pain here. I don't really have any advice to offer. You seem to be doing the right thing by hitting the gym and spending time with friends.
Philosoraptor Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Many people are this way. They don't want to commit but they certainly don't want to cut ties because they might not find anything better out there. Don't allow yourself to be a backup for someone who didn't see you as enough of a prize to stay committed. 6
dsw31 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Cflowers, I know it's hard but you're doing great! I have come to realize alot & I will be posting a tread later called "I AM THE CHEATER WHO CHANGED"It doesn't totally relate to your story but it's similiar.What I mean by that is,I realized that when someone wrongs you or doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated,you have to step away from the situation.The minute you give someone the power of knowing they can do that to you,you lose value to them & they never learn a lesson.By showing him you won't put up with it,he will either come to realize you are a great woman for him,or he will realize it later,You might be over him by that time but,it all happens for a reason.Stay stong!! You are doing great! 1
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