Where's My Chippy Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I dated this girl in high school and all through my freshmenyear of college, even though I went away and she was still in my hometown(which are only 45 minutes apart). So I go away to school for my sophomore year, and she hooksup with some guy and leaves me for him. We were together for about 2 ½ or 3years up until then. After she broke the news to me, we stopped talkingcompletely. A year and a half has gone by without us exchanging one word toeach other. This past weekend, I had a missed call and voicemail fromher; she wanted me to hang out with her. I texted her the next day saying “Hi,”and we started catching up a little bit. She asked me if I had a girlfriend, I said no and asked herif she was still seeing that one guy; she said no. Then she said somethinglike, “You were the sweetest guy I ever met in my life, can’t believe the girlsaren’t all over you.” She was really nice the whole conversation and wanted tomeet up the next time we were in each other’s area. Does anybody think this girl wants me back, or am I readingtoo much into it? I won’t lie, I do still think about her. Its been almost aweek since she contacted me, should I initiate a conversation with her, eventhough I wont be in her town anytime soon?
hellodearest Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I wouldn't either, wait for her to initiate contact. Seems like you made it really easy for her, at least hold out a bit so you seem to have some worth in you.
wilsonx Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 To me, it sounds like she wants you back. Let her put more work into it. She will contact you again with more effort. Just "dance" with her everytime she contacts you until she says without a doubt that you are the one 1
Author Where's My Chippy Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 (edited) Some recent developments on this matter... So I visited my home town this weekend for Easter, and before leaving on Friday I texted my ex-girlfriend with the intention of telling her I'd be in town, but before I could say that she tells me how she's doing awful and how the other guy is a piece of sh*t and what not. I said, "I thought you two were done" (when she told me she wasn't seeing the other guy anymore, she really vented about how awful he was), and she said that they were but then got back together, and then split again after she "made a drunken mistake," whatever that means. So I tried cheering her up, telling her how awesome she was and that she didn't deserve the crap this dude was putting her through. She told me she missed me, I told her I missed her too and she said "I made the worst mistake choosing to be with this other guy over you." So we make plans to hang out later that night, and she ends up canceling because she was very emotional at the time, which I was fine with. I told her I'd see her next time I was in town. The same night, at like 2:30 am, I missed a call from her but texted her right away asking what was up. She was upset about something, saying she didn't want to be alone and that she's just a fu*k up and is going nowhere in life. I ask if she wants to talk about anything, and she says no and that I shouldn't want to be a part of her life again. I told her I'd leave my phone on all night in case she wanted to talk. I miss another call from her today (all of that stuff happened yesterday/last night) and text her saying, "What's up?" I never heard back from her. Later on, I get a text from the other dude (the one she left me for), demanding to know whether or not her and I saw eachother last night. I don't respond to him, and text my ex asking her how this guy got my phone number. I get another text from the dude saying, "quit texting her, I'm sitting right next to her and we're waiting for your answer." I still didn't respond. He calls me a bunch of times and leaves a voicemail saying "Grow some balls and confront me dude, I just want to know if you and her are hanging out again, blah blah blah..." Then I get a message on Facebook from him saying, "I don't want you talking to her anymore. Her and I are trying to work things out and she agreed not to talk to you anymore." That's where I'm at now. I feel awful. I've done everything I can, been as nice and sincere as possible, and she ends up going back with him again. After saying all these horrible things about him and how she made a mistake choosing him over me in the first place. I feel like I've lost her all over again, and I'm ashamed to say that. I'm a 21 year old college student at a nationally ranked business school (not to brag), yet I can't get this stupid 18 year old girl out of my head. I feel like a dramatic high school kid, and that makes me want to vomit. Should I do anything? Will she eventually come around to me again? I feel like there's nothing I can do. Help, please.... Thanks for reading all this crap everyone. I know I'm posting massive text walls here, and I appreciate anyone that reads through it all and takes the time to post a reply. You guys are great. Edited April 8, 2012 by Where's My Chippy
westrock Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 She told me she missed me' date=' I told her I missed her too and she said "I made the worst mistake choosing to be with this other guy over you."[/quote'] Apparently she's not over this guy. She's attracted to the drama this guy causes. Later on, I get a text from the other dude (the one she left me for), demanding to know whether or not her and I saw eachother last night. I don't respond to him, and text my ex asking her how this guy got my phone number. I get another text from the dude saying, "quit texting her, I'm sitting right next to her and we're waiting for your answer." I still didn't respond. Uh, ok. First he says to quit texting her but wants you to text her an answer. If he's sitting right next to her, you would think he would just ask her. You did the right thing by not responding to this other guy. I feel like I've lost her all over again No, you did not lose her all over again. She lost you. You deserve way better than the way she is treating you. Stay away from this drama, you don't need it. You will meet other girls in college who will treat you better.
EgoJoe Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Text dude and say, "Keep your ho in line then fool, clearly she ain't the classy broad I remember anymore." Text her and say, "Keep me the **** out of your dumbass games bitch. Obviously you're not the classy girl I remember." Walk away with your head held high. 1
jennisfora Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 might be time to change your number...i would guess that she was using her contact with you to make this other guy jealous and come back to her, or some such nonsense. she is immature. sorry, *hugs* 1
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