Jane2011 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 So do you? I am just wondering because most of the time you hear about women feeling 'used' for sex. But I have noticed that men are susceptible to this feeling as well. I'm sure I've made a guy or two feel like I only wanted him for sex. Maybe because it was mostly what I wanted him for, lol. But I still liked him. Have you ever felt used, men? And in what circumstances are you apt to feel this way? How did you handle it? Did you force the woman to just want to spend time with you and not want to have sex all the time?
Feelin Frisky Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Yes. Not enough though. My PM box is officially open. I never tire and will find a way to please a will. 3
Feelsgoodman Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 So do you? I am just wondering because most of the time you hear about women feeling 'used' for sex. But I have noticed that men are susceptible to this feeling as well. I'm sure I've made a guy or two feel like I only wanted him for sex. Maybe because it was mostly what I wanted him for, lol. But I still liked him. Have you ever felt used, men? And in what circumstances are you apt to feel this way? How did you handle it? Did you force the woman to just want to spend time with you and not want to have sex all the time? Yes, definitely. Women nowadays only care about a good filling...romance and love seem like alien concepts to them. If I get a feeling that a girl only cares about sex, I try to withhold it as much as possible and use sex to manipulate her into buying me restaurant dinners and expensive gifts. 1
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I wouldn't mind at all being "used for sex" but only as long as I don't develop feelings for her and end up wanting more. At that point I'd have to end it.
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Any lovely young ladies want to use me for blow job practice? I'm yours to use! 2
kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Yes I have. It sucks and feels crummy when a girl you like does it. But when a girl I have no feelings for wants to use me for physical fun, I dont care at all really.
Cypress25 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 If I get a feeling that a girl only cares about sex, I try to withhold it as much as possible and use sex to manipulate her into buying me restaurant dinners and expensive gifts. Why do guys always assume that women who aren't ready for sex are just being manipulative? And why do they think restaurant dinners and expensive gifts are the ways to a girl's heart?
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Why do guys always assume that women who aren't ready for sex are just being manipulative? And why do they think restaurant dinners and expensive gifts are the ways to a girl's heart? Can I be your teacher in the ways of the no condom? and the ART yes THE ART of bj's... Every woman should now the pleasure of giving right 1
Cypress25 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Can I be your teacher in the ways of the no condom? and the ART yes THE ART of bj's... Every woman should now the pleasure of giving right I do know the pleasure of giving. I just don't give by putting a dick in my mouth. I give in other ways. And no, you can take risks with someone else's health and safety, not with mine. A guy who won't wear a condom is a complete turn-off. He's got "selfish bastard" written all over him. 1
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I do know the pleasure of giving. I just don't give by putting a dick in my mouth. I give in other ways. And no, you can take risks with someone else's health and safety, not with mine. A guy who won't wear a condom is a complete turn-off. He's got "selfish bastard" written all over him. Oh I'll wear a condom but not forever! You havn't really given, till you've put your mouth on it! Please use me for your lessons I'm all yours.
Thieves Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I'm sure men are just as capable of feeling used for sex as women are. Women are just more known for experiencing that situation because they're recognized as being more emotional, or subconsciously confusing sex for love. That doesn't seem to be the case with a lot of girls, though, I agree. Yes, definitely. Women nowadays only care about a good filling...romance and love seem like alien concepts to them. If I get a feeling that a girl only cares about sex, I try to withhold it as much as possible and use sex to manipulate her into buying me restaurant dinners and expensive gifts. You misogynist! I never try to use a guy for sex, but even if I do I always make sure to make him a sandwich afterwards so he doesn't feel as used up. Better? 2
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I never try to use a guy for sex, but even if I do I always make sure to make him a sandwich afterwards so he doesn't feel as used up. Better? The only way I'd eat that sandwich is if I could use your body as a plate. Oh god Thieves is my favorite I'll be all used up after her! sorry Cypress plenty of other guys will be glad to be used for your lessons though.
Ross MwcFan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I certainly wouldn't mind being used for sex.
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I certainly wouldn't mind being used for sex. You say that now but when she doesn't contact you the next day you're going to feel pretty dirty.
carhill Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Have you ever felt used, men? A few times, markedly by my exW, when she'd 'get hers' and roll over and go to sleep. More generally, it's being 'used' as a mind-fµck that annoys, irritates and saddens me. That's happened a lot. And in what circumstances are you apt to feel this way? Where the interacting is a one-way street, as in the example above. How did you handle it? Did you force the woman to just want to spend time with you and not want to have sex all the time? In the past, I'd give them the 'benefit of the doubt'. Now I just avoid them. Incompatible. 1
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 When a girl really uses a guy and he's most likely to feel used... he most likely isn't get much or any sex at all. 1
carhill Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 IME, the really hurtful part is the ersatz intimacy, which is just an illusion to facilitate the ego feed. That's the part which has stuck with me and which required the most work in and out of psychological counseling. Within that process, I came to understand that my level of care was inappropriate for the reality of the dynamic. That was my responsibility. Care less and feel less used. It works. 1
verhrzn Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 From my observations, difference seems to be: guys get sad about being "used" for sex when they like the girl, but if they're indifferent about her, they think it's awesome. Girls get sad and/or offended about being used for sex regardless of whether they really like the guy or not. 1
missyme04 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Any lovely young ladies want to use me for blow job practice? I'm yours to use! LOL! hahahahahahahah :laugh: :laugh:
carhill Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Girls get sad and/or offended about being used for sex regardless of whether they really like the guy or not. I used to call this the 'receptacle theory', as many women would relate to me that they felt used by a man who would apparently sweet talk them just to get his dickinsider but not really 'like' them as people. They were a warm receptacle. It was only with more life experience that I came to understand the wide range of psychologies involved in interpersonal relationships and interactions. I couldn't fathom that kind of 'intimacy' without any 'feeling' but evidently it existed and does exist for a portion of the population. My work was, and is, to avoid those personalities, generally the personalities who see other people as objects to be used to feed their id, for interpersonal relations, as they are incompatible. 1
musemaj11 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I wouldnt know. I have never been used for sex. All the women who had sex with me wanted more than sex.
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