cincinnatikid Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 To give you some perspective, here is my OP: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/313549-ive-been-ls-listener-now-im-talker In any case, about two weeks ago I saw her walking her dog with some new guy while I was out to dinner with some friends downtown. I do not believe she saw me since we were on opposite sides of the street. I admit, it was an ego blow because, while I'm no Brad Pitt, I consider myself to be a fairly attractive guy and this dude looked like a Jack Sprat from the short story and very nerdy. Thought nothing of it. Frankly, I have a suspicion that she is going through G.I.G.S. herself, which I don't blame her for. While a young 26, and successful in her endeavors, I have no doubt she hasn't a clue what she wants. How could I blame her, I'm 28 and still figuring it out?!?! So tonight as I was walking downtown to meet with a few friends I bumped into her this time with her dog. We chatted for a few minutes, she introduced me to her dog and asked me how I was doing. I had a big smile on my face and told her I was doing great and parted ways. The attraction for me definitely has not waned. I also happened to notice she was wearing a shirt of mine which was interesting as I had boxed up all her old clothes, dresses, etc. she had left behind and gave them back to her (she had said she would send all of mine back too but never did). Coupled with the fact that just a few days ago I happened to notice she unblocked me from the good ol' Facebook after our breakup, it gave me pause for someone reason. Granted I have no intention of reaching out to her. I've greatly realized the fact that if she wants to reach out to me she knows where to find me. It was just so interesting to bump into someone who've you loved so deeply for so long, realizing the attraction is still quite palpable but still knowing its best to leave it alone (for a good while at that). Yet, I was pleasantly surprised as to how easy it was for me. Your thoughts, opinions, general comments would be great but this was just for me to get out. Best to all of you LS'ers
fucpcg Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 My ex who refuses to talk to me because of how "terrible" I was, has had a string of pretty much hookups with nothing to offer guys. One night I saw her on a double date with a younger girlfriend of hers, that girl's boyfriend, and obviously his friend who is at least 10 years younger than my ex if not 15, and looked like he could be in a new remake of Revenge of the Nerds movie. So the past year she has found some real winners, while I sit and wait for her to reach out. How girls can find time wasting better than communicating with someone they once had a special relationship with is common, and quite frankly beyond me. 2
immitable Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 My ex who refuses to talk to me because of how "terrible" I was, has had a string of pretty much hookups with nothing to offer guys. One night I saw her on a double date with a younger girlfriend of hers, that girl's boyfriend, and obviously his friend who is at least 10 years younger than my ex if not 15, and looked like he could be in a new remake of Revenge of the Nerds movie. So the past year she has found some real winners, while I sit and wait for her to reach out. How girls can find time wasting better than communicating with someone they once had a special relationship with is common, and quite frankly beyond me. Some valid points here, funny thing I found just browsing the threds and in a OW/OM section here on LS as I was looking for answers why my ex secretly fell for her married boss (I think she has anyway), those sections pretty much show what women feel and how they want to be treated as many of them are in relationships with married men (which again is against the logic but again) etc. OW/OM section gives a good insight what they feel etc. it basically all boils down to this, they get bored/not feeling wanted/loved etc, bc all of us tend to get complaced in a relationship after a while (and see it as no future) that she tries to find someone to give that to her instead, she defies all logic and heads to the next male hitting on her for a fresh dose of ego boost (and I 'm saying again there is nothing wrong with that). Obviously communication is the key in keeping a relationship fresh and new. Sadly the ways of communication and interpretations (how women see/interpret it and how men see it) are often difficult. Bit I strongly suggest you guys read some of the posts there just to give you the insight into the female logic. 1
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