Thieves Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 three somes are disgusting. I would gladly have sex with two women seperately , but sorry, homosexual women repulse me almost as much as their male counterparts. Funny comment coming from someone named "AIDsFan".
Thieves Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 bi/bicurious doesn't always mean up-for threesomes and orgys. i know bi-sexuals who can only be with one person at time! just because a girl might like other girls doesnt mean she wants to have threesomes Also, thanks for mentioning this. I'm not sure if this type of thought gets through to most people initially, especially nowadays, that bisexualty does not always mean that the person is automatically down with having threesomes or multidating with both genders.
Necris Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I'm a Christian having sex with anyone who is not your spouse is a sin so obviously having threesomes, foursomes, orgies would be greatly displeasing to God. My faith aside, I'm a guy threesomes are homosexual enough said.
Ursa Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I have dated and slept with both men and women, although my serious relationships were always with men and now I am married to a man and monogamous. I have enjoyed women's bodies privately, and would recommend that to anyone...but I've never been interested in having a FFM threesome. Perhaps my subconscious is too competitive <shrug>. I like the idea of an MFM threesome, it's dirty fantasy material, but I've never had one and as my husband is not keen on the idea, it's going to remain a fantasy, which is fine. Many things are best left in fantasyland, maybe this is one of them. I have seen many friendships and couples dissolve painfully over threesome or swinging issues so while I can see the appeal in abstract, I'd be hesitant to explore them in reality without some VERY clear boundaries in place, and very, very unlikely in the confines of my marriage with the man I love and father of my kids. Watching him with somebody else would simply be painful for me, and he feels the same about me. I'd add that bi-curious is not really the same thing as bi-sexual, IMO. It's a spectrum, not an on/off switch.
CarrieT Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I'm a Christian having sex with anyone who is not your spouse is a sin so obviously having threesomes, foursomes, orgies would be greatly displeasing to God. According to the bible, a trinity is a holy thing. Just say'n.... 2
chrissylee Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think most girls are curious about them but afraid to go for it. And most guys seem to think they're pretty cool, as long as they're the only guy. Nope not curious at all here. I am 100% sure if I saw my boyfriend with another chick I would probably get arrested because of my reaction. No desire whatsoever to see him with another chick,
nofool4u Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think most girls are curious about them but afraid to go for it. And most guys seem to think they're pretty cool, as long as they're the only guy. They have no place in committed relationships. Because there will always end up being problems, and someone will end up not liking the arrangement. Having said that, I wouldn't want to date any woman that has had one.
123321 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I think the majority of people here have never done it or have crummy sex lives. I'm not sure if they're qualified to answer this question. Well be that as it may, saying "it's not good as good as you might think" or some variation of that is not the same as saying "I'm not interested in it". The first implies one has tried it and found it less than expected, the second expresses a personal aversion. Both are perfectly legitimate responses but someone who says "it's not good" who has never tried it is simply talking out their ass. I do believe threesomes to be overrated. .... Now if you like threesomes, have at it! I've found them to not be what I expected, but to say "overrated" with no experience is like saying icecream is overrated without trying it. It's legit to say "it doesn't look appetizing to me" but one statement implies experience and the other implies aversion. It was never on my "bucket list" to try a 3 or 4 some but the opportunity arose when I was feeling experimental and so, experimentation happened. It was unique for sure but really nothing to write home about. I guess I can put it on the list of things I don't need to do again. I wouldn't think it would be a good idea in a relationship at all, I was unencumbered at the time and it was just a hookup, although the women knew each other.
FrustratedStandards Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I could never do it. Sure i've fantasized about it a few times, and it's hot in my mind. But in real life I could never do it. It takes a lot to open up sexually with a man, let alone two people.
threebyfate Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I think most girls are curious about them but afraid to go for it.Inaccurate by a long shot. There are more than enough women who have no interest in them. And most guys seem to think they're pretty cool, as long as they're the only guy.Can't speak for men but it appears many are curious and turned on by the thought. But how many men are capable of handling two women and actually satisfying them? Do the math as it relates to refractory periods.
Leigh 87 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Um, No! Seriously, a guy who even brings this up risks losing the woman he is with. We women want to be special. If we are in a monogamous relationship, then we expect it to remain so. Threesomes are cheating, with all parties present. What a quick way way to make a woman feel she isn't enough. Best to forget this, or find a couple of women who don't care about you, or themselves for that matter. I am a women, and I care about myself very much. I also am not a whore, and have only been with 2 guys in about 6 years or more. I am in love with my boyfriend, who also loves me a great deal. We like threesomes. We both want to be together for a long time, we want to be together for as long as possible. We hope to get married and stay together as long as we can. I have a strong sense of self worth. I just do not flinch or remotely feel bad when I watch my boyfriend with a girl. Because of our personalities, we do not want to settle down with one sexual partner in our mid 20's. We want to spendo ur lives together, but do not feel it is ideal or necesary for us to only have one sexual partner for so many years. We do not feel right about being with other people ALONE; it is something we both only want to experience together, as a couple. Note, the reasons it works well for us: - we are in love, and hope to be together for a long while. We both love one another enough to get married, for 100% sure. - we do not want to have to never experience new people sexually, in some way, just because we want to be together for many years. - It was my idea, and he also felt the same way. It is not because I am trying to satisfy his needs; I happen to want to experiement, and I have a fetish for being watched and watching him with other girls. - he is not interested in intimant type kissing and forplay, he does not want an emotional connection; it is just about experimenting and varity in sex, rather than have the same person for years and years. Some people assume that we must not fully love each other: that we are not in " true love": that I am just trying to satisfy him because I am scared that I am not enough: that " morally sound" people do not have 3 somes if they are monogomus. The answer is; it works for us. We are in love. He said he is happy to never have 3 somes or touch another women if that is what I wish, and would be totally fine with it. However, I know him, and I believe a lot of guys in their early - mid 20's, do not NEED to settle down with one women sexually, for years upon years. It is just my personal believe, that a lot of men ( more than you would imagine), in the mid or early 20's, would do better if they did not have to only have sex with the same women for the rest of their lives. I see absolitely no harm is engaging in a 3 some together, as a couple. Of course, you have to enjoy experimenting yourself, which I do. I am not bisexual, but enjoy giving my partner another women occasionally. Me? I cannot have sex with guys I do not love. I have ZERO desire. SOME MEN have zero desire to have sexual relations with others once they are in love; however, a lot of men are in true love, but do not like the idea of never having sex with other women again.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I've found them to not be what I expected, but to say "overrated" with no experience is like saying icecream is overrated without trying it. It's legit to say "it doesn't look appetizing to me" but one statement implies experience and the other implies aversion. It was never on my "bucket list" to try a 3 or 4 some but the opportunity arose when I was feeling experimental and so, experimentation happened. It was unique for sure but really nothing to write home about. I guess I can put it on the list of things I don't need to do again. I wouldn't think it would be a good idea in a relationship at all, I was unencumbered at the time and it was just a hookup, although the women knew each other. You want to know what else I think is overrated? Big boobs. I don't need to have them to think they are overrated. I also think Kim Kadashian is over rated. I don't need to meet her and sit down for lunch to have that opinion. Guess what? Threesomes ARE overrated. I don't need to have one to know that hold true for me. Whether someone thinks something is "overrated" or "not appetizing", isn't really that afar different from each other. I think our over pornified culture has brainwashed a lot of men into making threesomes an overated fantasy. I don't need to have tried it, to think that or to know what rings true for me. I know myself well. Threesomes are overrated.
waiting4u Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 I've been in a few and they can work out nicely sometimes - if you want to be in a three way relationship. Unfortunately, threesomes are usually fraught with jealousy and the aftermath can be a nightmare. I would only do it if the third person was disposable in some way - a one night stand, or someone you are not in contact with again.
123321 Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 You want to know what else I think is overrated? Big boobs. I've found that people who speak imprecisely tend to think the same way.
EasyHeart Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Most people in this forum can't even get a twosome. First things first, I say. 9
JoeyArnold Posted March 31, 2012 Posted March 31, 2012 Most people in this forum can't even get a twosome. First things first, I say. This made me laugh. How true. Elementary my dear Watson.
Leigh 87 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 The final verdict, in my mind, is: some men in their 20's want to have more than one women; they are not done with sexual varity..... If these men happen to fall in love, like my boyfriend did with me, I have no issue letting them be who they truly are, and having what they " want"; as long as they do not " need" it, and it is the women who decided it is more optimal for these types of men. Lastly, all WOMEN are different; I do not flinch or have any bad feeling, when I see my boyfriend have sex with another girl in front of me. Furthermore, I do not actually LIKE girls. I am simply a girl who enjoys doing sexual things occasionally with other girls out of HORNYNESS; not out of an emotional place.. I COULD NEVER have feelings towards a girl. I AM NOT BISEXUAL. For me, I am just really horny, and like to experience sex from any angle I can.... I find womens bodies hot, and I have a fetish to WATCH real life couples going at it, and to also be watched myself, when with my boyfriend!!!!! Although, only with very few women, do I FEEl like doing sexual thigns with them. It takes a girl who I feel the right way about' I just feel comfortable enough to experiment. I do not think 3 somes should occur often, and should just be a side - event; a little bonus to the relationship, that happens every so often, no more than once or twice a year. If my boyfriend goes away for extended periods, I would want him to hire a high class hooker. Why should he go without sex for months? It is only a hooker, it is not like he gets feelings for them or wants an emotional connection. I just do not see an issue with it. It does not hurt me. We are both madly in love. it is just pragmatic. On the other hand, I do not feel like other men, because I am wired that way. It is just me. When I am in love with a guy, I only desire them. I feel wrong with other men. Where as my boyfriend can separate love and sex. He does not want to deal with another women, emotionally; he finds one women enough haha!!!!! HE absolutely has zero interest in chemistry of a connection. He is just a guy who enjoys sex occasionally, for varity, and when he is away for months at a time. I never talk about it much in real life, or preach it to people. I do what works for us, and feels natural; however, I do not much care for people who assume their way is the optimal way for ever couple. Just because you cannot fathom your guy with another women, in ANY capacity, it does not mean other women and their boy are not as " in love" as you are with YOUR man. It really is annoying when women who are averse to 3 somes, assume that people who engage in them are not as in love with their partners. I believe people are just different in relationships. Well, I have shared my experience with 3 somes. I have only had 3. 2 of them were with a hooker. In Aus, hookers have to be very clean, get tested before they work often, and use condoms for all sexual acts. Furthermore, guys cannot touch their vaginas, and can only have sex with them. No kissing or intimacy. I hope people find it interesting; do not pitty me, or feel as though I am missing out because I do exactly what I want to do. It may not be what feels natural or good to most women, but why pitty or assume I am missing out; people are just different.
kaylan Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 ^If you can have sex with another woman and are attracted to other women physically, yes you are bisexual. Sexual orientation is about attraction...not about who you prefer to be in a relationship with. P.S. - And the thing about you and your bfs relationship, is that many of us here believe you compromise unfairly for a guy who doesnt seem to be that in love with you. But thats a different thread.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Furthermore, guys cannot touch their vaginas, and can only have sex with them. No kissing or intimacy. Really? It's actually regulated in your country that no one can touch a prostitute's vagina or kiss them? I find that difficult to believe. How would it ever be enforced? It's pretty common for prostitutes to prefer not to be kissed or touched, but many, many of them will do it, since that is what the customers enjoy.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 I've found that people who speak imprecisely tend to think the same way. Then do your best not to speak imprecisely so people don't think that about you.
123321 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Then do your best not to speak imprecisely so people don't think that about you. Few people would say that about me and really believe it, but there are plenty of other choice descriptions that fit to a greater or lesser degree. Giving something I've never tried a rating? That would be idiotic. It would be like someone who's never driven a Ferrari weighing in on what it's like to drive a Ferrari. Now PLENTY of people who've never driven a Ferrari won't find them that attractive, maybe they are not into cars, or they prefer a RR, but that's a different thing. I tried a threesome several times and a 4some once, (not in that order) and for me it was OK, but I can't see it in a committed relationship, and the 4some especially was a huge logistical ... thing. Too many body parts, not enough space.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Few people would say that about me and really believe it, but there are plenty of other choice descriptions that fit to a greater or lesser degree. Giving something I've never tried a rating? That would be idiotic. It would be like someone who's never driven a Ferrari weighing in on what it's like to drive a Ferrari. Now PLENTY of people who've never driven a Ferrari won't find them that attractive, maybe they are not into cars, or they prefer a RR, but that's a different thing. I tried a threesome several times and a 4some once, (not in that order) and for me it was OK, but I can't see it in a committed relationship, and the 4some especially was a huge logistical ... thing. Too many body parts, not enough space. We know! YOu had threesomes! Good for you. YOu have already stated this several times and shared your opinion. Fabulous! I have shared mine as well. Threesomes are overrated! I don't need to have one to think they are overrated. They are very souped up in our culture and I have no desire for one. Hence why I believe them to be overrated! I am done having a conversation with you that goes round and round. You've stated your opinon. Fabulous. I've stated mine. Fabulous. We are done here.
123321 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 We know! YOu had threesomes! Good for you. Eh, they are overrated, and I can say that because I actually know.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 Eh, they are overrated, and I can say that because I actually know. Give it a rest.
Leigh 87 Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 ^If you can have sex with another woman and are attracted to other women physically, yes you are bisexual. Sexual orientation is about attraction...not about who you prefer to be in a relationship with. P.S. - And the thing about you and your bfs relationship, is that many of us here believe you compromise unfairly for a guy who doesnt seem to be that in love with you. But thats a different thread. My boyfriend is very much in love with me. I find it very insulting how u assume that he is not that into me.... We are deaply in love... I would say we are much closer than most couples. We are just on the same page, and are very comfortable with both being really, really into each other. We pinch ourselves every day at how much in love we are. We both feel like we are rare and very lucky to have such a strong love. I talked about open relationships, because I have friends who do it. Upon hearing peoples opinions and resarching the actuality of it, I was turned off it, and it is not what either of us want... He is just in his 20's, and I while I have no desire to have sex with other men, I see nothing wrong with SOME men in their 20's, to find an arrangment with their partners, whereby they can still experience other women.. Having one girl for the rest of your lives is a huge thing! NO other women to EVER touch, physically and sexually. It is not for everyone, monogomy!!!!!!! That said, it does not mean he wants to go " cheat" on me with other women, either; 3 somes are a way he wants to experience other women in his life. It may not be monogomy in the sense many other people believe it to be; however, it does not mean he WANTS other girls, outside of a 3 some situation. He does not want to go see other women without me being there, and even still, 3 somes are only a very occasional thing. Really - you have some nerve assuming my boyfriend does not have much love for me. Not all men in their 20's are ready to settle with one girl int he bedroom for all their lives..... Does not mean they want to screw around, either. occasional 3 somes do nto bother me.
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