kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) No interest in them. They are overrated, and plenty of guys who have had any sort of encounter with more than one chick at one will tell you that. Id rather focus my attention on one girl. Plus, I prefer straight women. Edited March 30, 2012 by kaylan
veggirl Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think it's accurate. The vast majority of women nowadays are bisexual. It's the new "in-thing" for women. If I walk into a room with 5 women, I'm sure around 4 of them are going to say they are bi/curious. . I'm not so sure the "vast majority" of women are bisexual. How old are you/the women you speak of? Perhaps in a college type of atmosphere they are "bisexual" but out in the real world, I don't know that 80% of women are legitimately bisexual.
kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think it's accurate. The vast majority of women nowadays are bisexual. It's the new "in-thing" for women. If I walk into a room with 5 women, I'm sure around 4 of them are going to say they are bi/curious. Truly false. And this is from a guy who went to a liberal college that had a large LGBT population and was 65% female.
ASG Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 No interest in them. They are overrated, and plenty of guys who have had any sort of encounter with more than one chick at one will tell you that. Id rather focus my attention on one girl. Plus, I prefer straight women. Being straight is one of the reasons I think my threesome wasn't... successful! I really wasn't sexually interested in the other girl, which left only the guy to play with... and when he was busy with her, I found myself twiddling my thumbs!
kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) Also, Just because some chicks out there are fake bisexuals does not mean most women are bisexual. And the fake bi chicks only make out with women, they dont go further. Its no different from guys in the hXc music scene who will kiss each other to get the women hot even though they are straight. Ever hear of Japanese fanservice btw? Same thing. Kissing doesnt make people bi. Its actually rather annoying with how trendy this stuff has become. Doesnt make sense to me. Ill admit that sometimes two women kissing is hot, but a good portion of the time I roll my eyes at it. Especially when chicks do it for attention. And to the poster above me, you shouldnt do something solely for the appeasement of someone else sexually. You should enjoy it too. If a partner has no sexual attraction to the same sex, then threesomes are pointless unless they are simply 2 on 1 threesomes where the same sex people dont touch each other. Edited March 30, 2012 by kaylan 4
oldguy Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think most girls are curious about them but afraid to go for it. And most guys seem to think they're pretty cool, as long as they're the only guy. One of each?
Imported Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I'm not into it. I had one girlfriend before that use to take me to strip bars and get really friendly with the strippers. It kinda turned me off, what I wanted was just her. Not her and a stripper. She told me she got off on seeing me get off and wanted me to have sex with one of her friends while she watched and no doubt she'd join in. I never took her up on that offer and kinda slow faded on her shortly after that.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Overrated. I want my man to be all about me and me to be all about him. Sex is awesome with one person if you love that person, I don't need two people. 6
Frogwife Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Oh my... it's been a long time since I've chimed in on any discussions here, but I'm a woman I love (love!) MMF threesomes... I don't go to the clubs échangistes but I have a primary FWB who brings in a third. I imagine it's not everybody's cup of tea - I was quite reticent to the idea at first - but now I'm hooked and enjoy them quite often, every couple of weeks. When everyone is experienced, it's extremely pleasurable and liberating. I'm glad that I decided to give it try! That said, I would never do something like this in a context of a committed relationship/marriage. For me, this is "dirty fantasy" stuff... 4
kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 ^Whatever floats your boat sister. I think more girls are into the MMF thing then people want to admit. Its really no different from guys wanting two girls at once. However most of the time Ive ever heard a girl talk about a MMF threesome, it was more of the guys tag teaming her. So it was a 2 on 1 deal. In your threesomes do the guys snog one another and junk?
Jane2011 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think more girls are into the MMF thing then people want to admit. Its really no different from guys wanting two girls at once. However most of the time Ive ever heard a girl talk about a MMF threesome, it was more of the guys tag teaming her. So it was a 2 on 1 deal. That's exactly how I envision my ideal threesome. In your threesomes do the guys snog one another and junk? No!
Frogwife Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 ^Whatever floats your boat sister. I think more girls are into the MMF thing then people want to admit. Its really no different from guys wanting two girls at once. However most of the time Ive ever heard a girl talk about a MMF threesome, it was more of the guys tag teaming her. So it was a 2 on 1 deal. In your threesomes do the guys snog one another and junk? That's exactly what it is... it's usually double penetration, but sometimes it's not... maybe penetration + oral or just sex with one of them while the other watches... my primary guy and the guys he's chosen haven't done anything together, but they are very comfortable around each other (like both being in my mouth at the same time - don't mind things touching)... My new guy friend is bi and the three of us are getting together next week, so he may try something with my "primary guy", but I'm not sure... we'll see! that's the fun of it, you never know what's going to happen. I think men wanting two women is great as well.
JoeyArnold Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Is two guys & a girl different than two girls & a dude?
123321 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Overrated. How many times did you try it before you decided this?
ASG Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Is two guys & a girl different than two girls & a dude? Has to be. Just because all the logistics are different.
kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I wouldn't want to share a woman with another man and I don't want to get involved in love triangles. Last time I checked a few dating websites 1/3rd up to a half of the women on there listed themselves as bisexual, which surprised me. Link please? Because when I was on OKC and POF, and it was at most 2 women per every ten who were bisexual depending on zipcode. Closer to my college it was like 2 for 10...and remember I went to a liberal school in a town thats known to be very LGBT friendly, so we attract those kids out of high school. When I did search for back in NYC its much less. Maybe 1 for every 12 women were listed as bi or lesbian. So I wonder if your search criteria has something to do with the numbers you got. What site you were actually on btw? Just to add, my search criteria was usually for women 20 to 30. I didnt narrow it down past that.
ditzchic Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I couldn't do it. Not with someone I care about. I've always been REALLY bad at sharing things I really like. I see no reason to start getting good at it now. 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 How many times did you try it before you decided this? I think the majority of people here have never done it or have crummy sex lives. I'm not sure if they're qualified to answer this question.
ditzchic Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think the majority of people here have never done it or have crummy sex lives. I'm not sure if they're qualified to answer this question. I actually have done it. One drunken night in college. I was the +1 and really good friends with the couple. And I regret it. It wasn't anything amazing, it was kind of awkward and it ultimately ended up causing problems with the couple. If I could take it back, I would. A relationship ultimately broke down (Who knows if it would have lasted or not anyway. It was college) and I no longer talk to either of those people who were really good friends because of it.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 ^Whatever floats your boat sister. I think more girls are into the MMF thing then people want to admit. Its really no different from guys wanting two girls at once. I think you're probably right about that Kaylan. I also think there are probably some guys that would want a MMF too.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 How many times did you try it before you decided this? 123, for me, there are three different componants at play here. 1. Things I want to do or try 2. Things that I may not really be interested in trying but if they are harmless and don't turn me off, will do if my partner wants to. To me, this is a healthy mix of boundries and being open minded to my partners interests. 3. Things I know I don't have to try to not be interested in them. It takes me awhile to feel comfortable with someone. I know I couldn't just hop into bed with two people at the same time. That's not how I roll. That's not me. And it's not anything I am even interested in doing or trying. I know that in a sexual exchange, I like to be number 1 to that person. I go throughout life having to share attention of all sorts with different people, with other people. Sex is the one last sacred fronteir where the rest of the world goes away and it's strictly about the two people having the sex. I do believe threesomes to be overrated. Why? Because people see the fantasy of them presented in porn. Not the reality of what really may go on. Humans are so complex that there are many ways a threesome can pan out. But it's just overrated, to me, because I don't really see the appeal. Now if you like threesomes, have at it! I just think they are overrated. I hope this satisfies your question.
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I'm not so sure the "vast majority" of women are bisexual. How old are you/the women you speak of? Perhaps in a college type of atmosphere they are "bisexual" but out in the real world, I don't know that 80% of women are legitimately bisexual. I'm 27, I think the majority of women are bi/curious regardless of age. I actually have done it. One drunken night in college. I was the +1 and really good friends with the couple. And I regret it. It wasn't anything amazing, it was kind of awkward and it ultimately ended up causing problems with the couple. If I could take it back, I would. A relationship ultimately broke down (Who knows if it would have lasted or not anyway. It was college) and I no longer talk to either of those people who were really good friends because of it. Your post said, "I couldn't do it." So I took that to mean you've never done it. If you said, "I couldn't do it again." that would be different. I don't think it makes sense to use one bad experience as the basis for your criticisms of threesomes. If you have received really bad oral sex one time, you wouldn't do oral sex again, right?
kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) 2 out of 10 for your search criteria is still a whole lot. I really don't believe that that many women are bisexual. Read what I posted. 2 out of 10 at most depending on zipcode. The only time this happened was the areas in and around my suburban NY college. Remember? the college and town thats very LGBT friendly and attracts many of those students out of high school. Away from that area its like 1 in 12. Not a big portion of women at all. I think the majority of people here have never done it or have crummy sex lives. I'm not sure if they're qualified to answer this question. Nah, my sex life isnt crummy. And my experience with it wasnt bad, just "meh". I have better sex when I focus on one girl. And almost all of the guys who I know that have done it think its overrated as well. I just prefer to immerse all of myself into one woman...total connection for me that way. I'm 27, I think the majority of women are bi/curious regardless of age. Your post said, "I couldn't do it." So I took that to mean you've never done it. If you said, "I couldn't do it again." that would be different. I don't think it makes sense to use one bad experience as the basis for your criticisms of threesomes. If you have received really bad oral sex one time, you wouldn't do oral sex again, right? If you believe this, Im inclined to believe the same about men. I mean it was rather common back in the days on antiquity. Gotta ask yourself how much of sexuality is nature or nurture. But in all honesty I think that most people are straight, just like the stats tell us. I wouldnt let the trendiness of fake bisexual bar women sway my opinion too much. Edited March 30, 2012 by kaylan
irin Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I think it's accurate. The vast majority of women nowadays are bisexual. It's the new "in-thing" for women. If I walk into a room with 5 women, I'm sure around 4 of them are going to say they are bi/curious. bi/bicurious doesn't always mean up-for threesomes and orgys. i know bi-sexuals who can only be with one person at time! just because a girl might like other girls doesnt mean she wants to have threesomes 1
Imported Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Your post said, "I couldn't do it." So I took that to mean you've never done it. If you said, "I couldn't do it again." that would be different. I don't think it makes sense to use one bad experience as the basis for your criticisms of threesomes. If you have received really bad oral sex one time, you wouldn't do oral sex again, right? I've never had sex with another man and I don't think I need to try it in order to know I don't want to. Maybe you need to take some anal loving from another dude to know if you'll like it or not, but I don't. Most women I have been with were not bi-sexual or curious, but they were more open to doing **** like that to seem cool, because it turns guys on. Not because they were actually into it. Supposedly there are gay male porna actors that claim they are not gay and it's just a job. How you seperate something like that, I don't know, but I think many females are more capable of that than men.
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