NothingButAGlance Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 okay, so as some of you know I have been dealing with a bad break up and have been NC for almost 2 weeks now and have had one text from her. this got me thinking, NC is strictly about me and fixing myself to an extent and living better. So, 90% of me realizes that my ex really has been no good to me although I have been 100% there for her, and would do/did anything she needed or wanted. When her friends werent there I was, when she cried i was there, etc. The other 10% believes one day things will change and she will realize everything I did for her and its only a matter of time before she changes and she sees everything that I bring to the table. Now on to the main point, where is the balance between mind games and being straight up honest without looking like a weak/clingy/insecure male? Let me explain, the first weeks of creating attraction when you have someone is playing games and not texting back to see if she texts back and waiting to see if she calls at a certain time, etc. All little things that make someone hard to get and intriguing...I hope that makes sense. But where is the balance when the games arent so crucial and when you show interest and attachment it doesnt kill attraction and make a woman lose interest as if you are too easy for her? I feel as if I was too available to her but maybe its my misconception of when you are suppose to be the backbone and main support toanyone you love? I try to look at my past relationship in a 3rd person view but its like i was not the reason that the relationship ended. Im not saying I was perfect and had no faults, but I feel because I stopped playing games and stopped keeping her guessing then it somewhat took the attraction away. Probably really really confusing but Im just trying to find what I did wrong besides being too available. Many friends say that I need to back off and make her realize what she had. But once again this is all games; so everytime i dont play games, then this all has to happen again. Isnt to ann extent NC, all a game if your main objective is making her miss you?
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