triphopper414 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Last June, I ended things with a guy because I knew it was the best thing to do for the both of us and he was too big of a wuss to do it. I was really hurt. I went to a counselor because I was just emotionally exhausted and I started dating again and there were a few bumps along the way and now I have just entered a new relationship with a wonderful guy. Regarding the ex, I deleted him off of facebook, LinkedIn, google+, and pretty much every social media site out there. I don't have his phone number either. I have not thought about him. He is in town this week for business and he just emailed me. Why would he email me when it is clear that I don't want to talk to him? This could not have come at a worse time with the new relationship and all of the uncertainty that comes with it. I am feeling vulnerable as is with him being in town. I think he wants to see me. I don't plan on replying, but it is just upsetting that he would contact me. I knew the day was coming. I think it has finally settled in that he was a jerk.
hellodearest Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I don't see how this makes him a jerk. He doesn't know you're seeing someone new. He may want to rekindle things, and may still have feelings for you. Or, he just wants to hang out and catch up because he still values your company. My ex and I just broke up, and we talked about it and I am interested in getting back together, but she says she's not. I'm holding out for a second chance, but if a few months pass and it doesn't happen, I still hope for her to be a friend in my life because I know that in the end, whatever happens, we are always going to be drawn to one another friendship or otherwise.
loveydove Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 He probably misses you, and you broke up with him - I don't know what he did prior to the breakup, but if he couldn't gather the nerve to break up with you, it could be because he didn't want that to be the answer. I have been ignored before by a close friend that I casually dated. When I went back to my ex, I was expecting our friendship to go back to normal but he ignored me and never looked back and I think it is one of the most painful things you can do to a person. It's like sending a message that their existence doesn't matter to you. If he wasn't a huge jerk, perhaps you should think about replying with an honest email, letting him know you have moved on and you don't want to stay in contact? Best of luck.
Author triphopper414 Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 He did not want to be with me. Instead of dealing with the issue, he ignored me and hoped that I would go away. So knowing this, I ended things. He started dating someone right after I ended things. Chances were he was seeing her at the same as he was seeing me. The last thing he said to me was, "enjoy your afternoon." No saying sorry, nothing to say to me, NOTHING. I do miss talking to him and I do hope he is doing okay. I did value our friendship, but he did not, he used me as someone to mess around with when he was in town and refused to see me (our relationship was long distance). I think it is just easier not to talk to him. I am finally over him and I don't need to be confused. He is a smart cookie, he should know that I do not want to speak with him. I have considered telling that I wish that we not talk anymore and I think it would just be better if we did not. However, I think that would elicit a response from him asking why, and all of the emotional pain would come back to the surface.I don't need to deal with it. I have been tempted to ask him to meet so I can tell him face to face how much he hurt me, but it is not worth it. 1
DisGai Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 My ex and I just broke up, and we talked about it and I am interested in getting back together, but she says she's not. I'm holding out for a second chance, but if a few months pass and it doesn't happen, I still hope for her to be a friend in my life because I know that in the end, whatever happens, we are always going to be drawn to one another friendship or otherwise. Off-topic, but you seem quite comfortable to say that you'd wait for her, and if nothing happens, you'll still hope for to be a part of your life (as a friend). Could you elaborate on your thoughts/feelings? Just curious, as I sorta resonate with you. The difference is that we've been NC since she broke up with me 2 months ago, and she's been trying to contact me. I've been hoping to move on, but her breadcrumb texts/calls are throwing me off.
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