Silent thoughts Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 (edited) Well me (21) and my ex(20)where going out for almost 6 years and just a couple days after valentines day I get a call from her saying I am breaking up with you, I don't love you anymore, I met someone else... Me devastated as it completely hit me out of nowhere, as everything in our relationship was really good well thats atleast what unthought, I guess she was just telling me lies, such as we so much better, I'm so happy to be with you and so on... Well she told me that she was seeing another guy behind my back, and was cheating on me with him for the last 6weeks of our relationship, and how she had sex with him 4 times... Of course I became hurt and furious as to what happened.. The ironic thing is when we were going out, she did not like me talking, texting,or anything with other girls, cuz than you would start to like them, and leave me for them which ironically she did to me.......it really hurts As she was my first real girlfriend and I was her first real boyfriend, but what really hurt was that she could do that to me, you know, we lost our virginity to each other..and she ruined that bond we had together... Worst Of it is that just two days after she left me she got with that guy... And I constantly see her,and at times him as well at college.. And it hurts cuz I know her so well, and she was my gf, best friend, and the one person I would go out with, and be myself... It's A big change, but I'm dealing with it, it just hurts knowing she's with someone else.. Idk what I should do.? I truly love this girl... Do I just move on? And keep no contact or ? Everyone tells me she will come back to me but it doesn't make sense as she is the one who hurt me and left... Plz I need advice!!!!!!! Edited March 29, 2012 by Silent thoughts Added more
Philosoraptor Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 She cheated on you and rubbed it in your face. When people are overly worried about you talking to someone else they are either very insecure or projecting. She was likely either cheating or thinking about cheating for a long time. You truly dodged a bullet on this one as currently she will not make a good long term spouse. Do you really want someone back who was so heartless and cold to you? Someone who tossed you aside like your were rubbish? Find yourself an adult and not a child, someone with similar ethics to you. Are you willing to accept being a backup plan for her?
69ways Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Well me (21) and my ex(20)where going out for almost 6 years and just a couple days after valentines day I get a call from her saying I am breaking up with you, I don't love you anymore, I met someone else... Me devastated as it completely hit me out of nowhere, as everything in our relationship was really good well thats atleast what unthought, I guess she was just telling me lies, such as we so much better, I'm so happy to be with you and so on... Well she told me that she was seeing another guy behind my back, and was cheating on me with him for the last 6weeks of our relationship, and how she had sex with him 4 times... Of course I became hurt and furious as to what happened.. The ironic thing is when we were going out, she did not like me talking, texting,or anything with other girls, cuz than you would start to like them, and leave me for them which ironically she did to me.......it really hurts As she was my first real girlfriend and I was her first real boyfriend, but what really hurt was that she could do that to me, you know, we lost our virginity to each other..and she ruined that bond we had together... Worst Of it is that just two days after she left me she got with that guy... And I constantly see her,and at times him as well at college.. And it hurts cuz I know her so well, and she was my gf, best friend, and the one person I would go out with, and be myself... It's A big change, but I'm dealing with it, it just hurts knowing she's with someone else.. Idk what I should do.? I truly love this girl... Do I just move on? And keep no contact or ? Everyone tells me she will come back to me but it doesn't make sense as she is the one who hurt me and left... Plz I need advice!!!!!!! Once a s... always a s............. not even worth your time to reg. here. Forget about her, she will mess you up.
Author Silent thoughts Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 She cheated on you and rubbed it in your face. When people are overly worried about you talking to someone else they are either very insecure or projecting. She was likely either cheating or thinking about cheating for a long time. You truly dodged a bullet on this one as currently she will not make a good long term spouse. Do you really want someone back who was so heartless and cold to you? Someone who tossed you aside like your were rubbish? Find yourself an adult and not a child, someone with similar ethics to you. Are you willing to accept being a backup plan for her? Honestly at this point, I really don't know, I mean yes it was cold and heartless, but can you blame me for missing her... I mean yes iam mad but I feel sad, and depressed more than anything.... Iam trying to move on, but it's hard, I mean hiwndonyou adapt to not having someone in your life for so long just disappear... I mean if she came back, aft some begging and talking i probably would take here back depending what point I am in my life... But what I wanna know is what are chances that when this love bubble bursts, she will realize what she did regret it and try to get back what she lost...
Author Silent thoughts Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 Once a s... always a s............. not even worth your time to reg. here. Forget about her, she will mess you up. I know but I still have feelings for this girl... I mean I had her in my life for almost 6 years... How can she move on so quickly... I mean she only took two days of being single before she got with this guy... Who knew we we're together, got in her head brainwashed her and her leave me.... I can't believe that people can do this to couples,, like does he have no morals to do this... Everything was great before he showed up...
robkris8079 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 If a women wants to leave there will be nothing to stop her and she will look for her out. If a women wants to stay there will be nothing to make her leave and she will stay. She made the choice as she was in the relationship. You can only blame her and yourself for the demise. I just got out of 5 year relationship. I have had plenty of chances and temptations with other women. I did not act or hell even notice half of them until I sit here now alone and without my ex. All because I was in love with her.
Author Silent thoughts Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 If a women wants to leave there will be nothing to stop her and she will look for her out. If a women wants to stay there will be nothing to make her leave and she will stay. She made the choice as she was in the relationship. You can only blame her and yourself for the demise. I just got out of 5 year relationship. I have had plenty of chances and temptations with other women. I did not act or hell even notice half of them until I sit here now alone and without my ex. All because I was in love with her. yup i know how you feel… what doesn't make sense is why did she stay with me for those 6 weeks if she was seeing someone behind my back? why not leave before she started cheating?...
budley12 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 i wish that all of us dumpees could meet up on an island in the middle of nowhere and just start fresh. it would be perfect. No way to contact our ex's, spending time with other singles and possibly find love again, and have a huge support group.
Author Silent thoughts Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 i wish that all of us dumpees could meet up on an island in the middle of nowhere and just start fresh. it would be perfect. No way to contact our ex's, spending time with other singles and possibly find love again, and have a huge support group. if only it was that simple...
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