Whisper Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 My boyfriend of a year broke up with me about a week ago. There was really no solid reason for our break up. We were still getting along great and deeply in love. But he said that my personalitly isn't one that he sees himself with in the future. And he doesn't want to prolong something that he just doesnt want. Even though he was still happy. He even said that he has to keep on going over his reasoning and reapeating the same thing to himself over and over because it's hard to believe. He doesnt seem to be having too hard of a time with our break up. He keeps busy constantly, which is something he never used to do. I miss him. I do. But I'm not falling apart anymore. I was a complete mess just a few days ago. Now I feel almost normal, just slightly ... frustrated. I haven't seen him or talked to him except online since our break up. I'm going to see him soon, because I need to take a pregnancy test. My periods have always been wacky, but I dont like worrying, so he's going to take me to go get one. How should I act around him? No doubt I'll want to reach out to him and cry and kiss him. But I have the strength not to. Should I act like everything is just fine and dandy and not say anything about us? Thanks.
thecake Posted June 15, 2004 Posted June 15, 2004 My ex made a similar comment about my personality and I remember thinking WTF? He has WAY more personality issues than I could ever conceive of having in my lifetime yet he couldn’t handle MY personality? Whatever. In hindsight, I’m glad he said that to me because by his being overly critical of me it simply made me start questioning the things about him that I had overlooked or had just accepted because I loved him. I began to think in terms of how I would view those traits in a year, five years, ten years and I realized that this guy had given me a beautiful escape. The one who cares least has the most power. Remember that….the best way to handle a break up like this is to strike him from your existence…never, ever, ever contact him again after you go for this pregnancy test (why does he have to take you?). If you see him in public, ignore him. Deprive him of your company. Trust me, the silence will be deafening and it will kill him.
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