udolipixie Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 To add to that, why feel the need to box yourself into such rigid character presets? Isn't it better to augment yourself to be a much more multidynamic individual?? From my experiences/observations guys who claim to be good husband/boyfriend/partner and focus that on their selling point often aren't multi dynamic individuals much less as good as they think they are. Sort of like how to me it speaks of low character development and personality if a person's main or sole description/selling point is that the're a nice/good/decent guy/gal. To me Mother Teresa and Gandhi are person solely or mainly defined as nice/good/decent. 1
ThaWholigan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 From my experiences/observations guys who claim to be good husband/boyfriend/partner and focus that on their selling point often aren't multi dynamic individuals much less as good as they think they are. Sort of like how to me it speaks of low character development and personality if a person's main or sole description/selling point is that the're a nice/good/decent guy/gal. To me Mother Teresa and Gandhi are person solely or mainly defined as nice/good/decent. I think there are many different facets of a person's character that they sometimes suppress and end up projecting them negatively on other people. Or they end up hiding them. There are ways to express that energy within yourself positively and to your own benefit and as a result others will be attracted to you like a magnet. That's the way I see it anyway. I don't think I have ever referred to myself as nice, or good or decent. Others have referred to me as such, yes. And it's a nice compliment to my character, but I'm sure that most people who do know me or meet me, also know that there is far more to my character and my life than being nice or decent. Being nice or decent is just something I am without placing a big deal on it, it's a default characteristic. I place more importance on other character traits to supplement them. 1
prune juice Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Sure that's why there are so many guys out there that are looking for "wifey" material but want her to be a certain weight and attractiveness and they want her to put out early and often. And then when they manage to find a desireable wifey type that meets all those criteria they get all insecure and needy when they realize there is a ton of competition for her. That's why they get left in the dust for the "bad boys" who don't project their needs onto a woman. Like I said, men and women are wired differently. We think different ways and we want different things. We just don't get each other and it's something we have to learn how to manage. If you don't try to learn to manage the differences your dating life will suck. Once you realize we are just different and you accept it and do the best work you can, your dating life will improve. for each of these guys that lie about their intensions, theres twenty women who lie about theirs. women do think differently. that i'll agree with. i know the differences and know that a women's words don't mean as much as her body languarge and he actions. males who except her words to match her actions are the ones who's dating life suck. ditzchick is a hot name to have. i like it.
kaylan Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Wonder why some people date the wrong type of person? Its because not everyone presents their true self right off the bat. 1
missyme04 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Not all women want to have the SAME guys. But there are some who's really like that (a bad boy lover). well, it depends.
stillafool Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 with the epidemic of spousal abuse i'd say quite a lot are. your name is stillafool. that says it all. Constipated much Prune Juice??
stillafool Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 a difference is males say what they mean and mean what they say. females will say they want the good husband material guy but will go for the jerk party dude over and over. why can't females just admit thats what they desire. cause it's hard wired to be dishonest. So that would include the 'bad boys', right?
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