mymission Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I cannot keep up with no contact. When I initiate it, it just builds up and up until I can't take it anymore. So I'll text him, and he won't reply. So then I send him another few texts trying to get him to text me back. I broke no contact and have been doing it. I just want to know that he doesn't hate me. I have no pride or willpower left my head is all over the place I can't take it anymore I'm going mad and he won't comfort me! If this keeps going on I might have to go and see him.
gotye Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 he obviously doesn't want to talk to you/comfort you and you will only get more disappointment from meeting him
Philosoraptor Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Just because he isn't responding doesn't mean he hates you. He is doing what he needs to do for himself in order to heal. You need to take care of yourself as well and not worry about what is going on in his life. 1
Poovey Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Just because he isn't responding doesn't mean he hates you. He is doing what he needs to do for himself in order to heal. You need to take care of yourself as well and not worry about what is going on in his life. So true! You need to take this time to heal yourself. I keep asking myself why I feel this need to have HIS validation. I don't. It's over. I'm starting not to care. Anything of mine that needs confirming will be confirmed by me. You are in charge, don't be afraid to take it. I wish you well and stay strong! 1
AriesBunny Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Consider your ex dead. Your willpower have to consist of talking to a stuffed animal that just looks smug at you and if the stuffed animal talks back I will be scared. 1
Chi townD Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I cannot keep up with no contact. When I initiate it, it just builds up and up until I can't take it anymore. So I'll text him, and he won't reply. So then I send him another few texts trying to get him to text me back. I broke no contact and have been doing it. I just want to know that he doesn't hate me. I have no pride or willpower left my head is all over the place I can't take it anymore I'm going mad and he won't comfort me! If this keeps going on I might have to go and see him. I've said this on sooo many different threads. Why is it that women can't stand the fact that there might be a person in the world that might not be your biggest fan? Women can't stand the fact that someone might hate them or think that they're a bad person. I would just say leave him alone, heal and move on. Continously contacting him is starting to make you look desperate.
SilverBlueAndGold Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Why is it that women can't stand the fact that there might be a person in the world that might not be your biggest fan? Women can't stand the fact that someone might hate them or think that they're a bad person. . To be fair that is not something that is unique to females; I struggle with this exact thing with all my failed relationships. Ack, when I spell it out like that it looks like there are hundreds or something.... What I mean is that I am a male and I understand this feeling too, just because things end does not always mean that we have to hate each other. In fact my situation is the exact opposite; I struggled with her flying off the handle and throwing hostility my way to mask her own pain. Fortunately for me I was given a rare gift, she actually did follow up and say she didn't mean those things and misses me just as much. I treasure that because I know it's rare. 1
jamie1987 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Ive been doing this the past week to my ex girlfriend but she does get bk to me and she does not want to talk to me and its hard not to
desertsessions Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I cannot keep up with no contact. When I initiate it, it just builds up and up until I can't take it anymore. So I'll text him, and he won't reply. So then I send him another few texts trying to get him to text me back. I broke no contact and have been doing it. I just want to know that he doesn't hate me. I have no pride or willpower left my head is all over the place I can't take it anymore I'm going mad and he won't comfort me! If this keeps going on I might have to go and see him. I hope you realize how weak you're being by saying your going to go see them, and how much that will neutralize any chance you may have. They will look down upon you for that as extremely needy. and probably already do...so you should just stop.
Fitz Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Go running. Even if you hate running. Especially if you hate running. Put on some sneakers and shorts and run as hard and as fast as you can. Don't stop until you are out of breath. Then see how you feel. But do NOT continue to contact your ex. You're digging yourself into a hole. And he will have no respect for you. Once he loses all respect, then any chance you might have had with him is completely gone.
dsw31 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) I just texted my ex again today too! I work by his house & know his routine because he has OCD & everything is like clockwork with him.Anyway-I saw that his car wasn't by his house & my sneaky textin fingers got the best of me! I had been doing so well all day,thinking about all the bad stuff but,when my mind started imagining him moving on so easily(he had detached himself long before we brokeup)I couldn't help myself. Get a load of this.I'm pathetic!! I said - " I hope you got AIDS on your date today" He said - "What date? Just got off work & heading to class" I said - "die" He said - "I'm aware of how you feel.I'll let you know when I'm on my way out" Then he said - "Seriously,what makes you think I was on a date today?" I said - "today,yesterday,last week,tomorrow?Doesn't matter when.You have a bunch of disease bag girls on standby.You are disguisting! He said-I wish! I've been jerking off alot lately" I said - "You wish? I don't even know why I'm texting you.It just makes me hate you even more.It's an empowering emotion,I guess" That's where it ended cause he is in class right now.I am such a weak pathetic person.I know he's loving the fact that I'm texting him.I GOTTA STOP!! I'm so ashamed of myself for contacting him! I hope atleast you guys get a good laugh at it ! Learn from my mistakes!DON'T contact them!It only makes things worse! Edited March 30, 2012 by dsw31 1
tommycapnpants Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 i lost my willpower today as well. one week and one day, then i texted. no reply
dsw31 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I just texted my ex again today too! I work by his house & know his routine because he has OCD & everything is like clockwork with him.Anyway-I saw that his car wasn't by his house & my sneaky textin fingers got the best of me! I had been doing so well all day,thinking about all the bad stuff but,when my mind started imagining him moving on so easily(he had detached himself long before we brokeup)I couldn't help myself. Get a load of this.I'm pathetic!! I said - " I hope you got AIDS on your date today" He said - "What date? Just got off work & heading to class" I said - "die" He said - "I'm aware of how you feel.I'll let you know when I'm on my way out" Then he said - "Seriously,what makes you think I was on a date today?" I said - "today,yesterday,last week,tomorrow?Doesn't matter when.You have a bunch of disease bag girls on standby.You are disguisting! He said-I wish! I've been jerking off alot lately" I said - "You wish? I don't even know why I'm texting you.It just makes me hate you even more.It's an empowering emotion,I guess" That's where it ended cause he is in class right now.I am such a weak pathetic person.I know he's loving the fact that I'm texting him.I GOTTA STOP!! I'm so ashamed of myself for contacting him! I hope atleast you guys get a good laugh at it ! Learn from my mistakes!DON'T contact them!It only makes things worse! ****Update 4 hours later******** Okay,I need you guys! PLEASE tell me to ignore him! He texted me after class - "Do I still wish death on him?" All kinds of thoughts racing in my head.I am contemplating answering him.I want to say YES! I want to tell him WHY I HATE HIM! I want to tell him I HATE MYSELF! I know no good can come of it so, Loveshackers, please remind me! I have to start NC from now on! Forever! This is so hard! I hope I don't cave in again
blindesided Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 come here and text whatever you want to say to him - pretend this forum is him - you can get it all out without actually texting him it will help
lemonade57 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Ben I miss you!!!!; ahh there u go.. Its works lol
lemonade57 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Sorry guys. I don't noe who Ben is... I ment Beb...
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